(Closed) Anyone else skipping speeches?

posted 8 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Are you including all of the traditional speeches/toasts?
    Having them all--it wouldn't be a momentous occasion without them! : (17 votes)
    22 %
    Skipping them--speeches are zzzzzzzzz : (30 votes)
    39 %
    Having a few but skipping some : (26 votes)
    34 %
    We're doing something different (and I'll explain in my comment below) : (4 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    128 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I think we are going a similar route. We will probably have some sort of “thanks for sharing this moment with us” kind of speech but we’ll probably tell the Best Man and Maid/Matron of Honor that the speeches are optional. We want our parents do say something during the ceremony (both sets of our parents have been married 30+ years) about what marriage means to them, which is more important to me than a speech during the reception.

    Post # 4
    2214 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I’ve been to 12 weddings, and not one of them had speeches.  I didn’t even realize that people still did them until I saw pictures from a friend’s wedding. 

    Post # 5
    7771 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I think the Best Man should say something.  It can be short and sweet. 

    Post # 6
    14495 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Dang, another thing I forgot about.  Thanks for reminding me.  But we will prob have them as I don’t think the Bridesmaid or Best Man nor my father would let us get away without.

    Post # 7
    39 posts

    We had none but a big THANK YOU to everybody before cutting the cake.

    I learned the hard way. My best friend had HUGE EXPECTATIONS on my speech as a Maid/Matron of Honor. The best man had a very similar speech to mine regarding the bride…crazy similar like he read my mind…i freaked, i froze…i screwed up. She didn’t forgive me. 10 yrs. down the drain on one single night. I tried to make up to her but she had none of it.

    Post # 8
    8353 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2011

    We aren’t doing any speeches.

    We will say a thank you just before cutting the cake though to everyone for coming to spend our day with us.

    @munch: I am sorry your “friend” has a bad attitude toward you. It is not your fault, and she should realize that.

    Post # 9
    24 posts
    • Wedding: September 2010

    We’re not having speeches, though we will do a quick thank you. It’s traditional here for guests who can’t make it to send cards or messages, and for those to be read out at speeches time – we may do that. But that’s it! Speeches make people nervous, and besides that we’ve always found them a little cringey!

    Post # 10
    2829 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I highly doubt we’ll have any speeches at all  other than brief thank yous, unless someone SPECIFICALLY requests to make one. There might be toasts, who knows, but generally I think we’ll be too busy mingling and drinking to bother with long drawn out verbage.


    Plus, I’ve already had one Bridesmaid or Best Man beg me not to make her say anything, not that I would, but it paints a picture.

    Post # 11
    1189 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    We limited ours to just a few people, but I would never have skipped them!  They were so funny and sweet and everyone commented about how much they loved hearing them.  We limited them so that they didn’t go too long, though!  Here’s a pic of my FIL’s speech–we had some great moments during them that I wouldn’t have wanted to miss.


    Edit: Are we assuming speeches and toasts are the same thing?  I was thinking they were one in the same until I read another poster’s comment about not doing speeches, but doing toasts.  I suppose it’s more correct to call ours “toasts.”


    Post # 12
    1371 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    We’re having one by the Best Man (my fiance’s brother) and one by the Maid/Matron of Honor (my sister).  We’ll be doing a thank you speech also.  My parents weren’t really interested in doing one, and my fiance’s dad constantly says inappropriate things as he has no filter, so we didn’t want him doing one!

    Post # 13
    2397 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I have two MOHs and my Fiance has 2 Best Men, so I think we’re going to have the girls do a short toast together and the guys do a short toast together.  We’re eating dinner kinda late as it is, and I want to make sure we get to dinner as soon as possible 🙂  Also, I think they will all be more comfortable giving a “joint” toast, since none of them are big time public speakers.

    Post # 14
    809 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    We’re doing a thank you, but that’s it. Usually, listening to speeches at weddings makes me feel nervous and uncomfortable for the speaker and usually we have to listen to all the stories that no one wants to remember! Many people have tried to convince us that it isn’t a wedding without speeches, but I’m stickin to my guns on this one! 🙂

    Post # 15
    647 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I don’t think I’m going to plan for any speeches, if someone stands up and gives one, sure, by all means, but I’m not going to ask anyone ahead of time.

    Post # 16
    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    we only had our bm give a speech… just because my husband gave a speech for his wedding, they’re brothers, and he wanted to do the same for us. my moh doesn’t like public speaking (and since i know i’ll be her moh some day since she’s my sister, i want her to remember this so i don’t have to give a speech at her wedding).

    my sister was also moh for her friend recently and since she didn’t want to give the speech, she asked the bride’s brother to give it. it was really nice since he’s also very close to her.

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