- 4 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
I know in a lot of cultures/religions, couples go for pre-marial counseling and prepare every word that will be spoken during their ceremony with their ‘leader’ or whoever is doing the ceremony.
However, we’re not. And since I’m totally Type-A, this is making me a little nervous but I’m just letting it go as much as I can haha. Anyone else in this type of situation? We are having a muslim nikkah, which usually is done at home without a crowd, so only sometimes done in front of a crowd. We’re doing ours in front of all the guests on the day of the actual wedding and reception.
The background is that my family is my white and non muslim, and my fiance, his family, and I are muslim. Since I am american, besides the nikkah I also wanted to do the ‘rings’ part of the regular ceremony. My fiance’s family told me the imam will do whatever we ask with the rings etc, but I’m concerned because since pre-martial meetings etc are not the norm, we’re not meeting with him ahead of time to go through things. I’ve asked a few times about this but everyone keeps telling me it’s fine and he’ll just do whatever we tell him ahead of time. I’m scared during the actual ceremony i’m going to have to whisper ‘ok the rings now’ or something LOL.