Post # 1
It’s just so uncomfortable that I feel miserable in it and can’t wait to take it off. And then because I’m so uncomfortable I hate the way I look in it, and I can hardly carry a conversation in it because I’m thinking about how uncomfortable it is. The ironic thing is I thought that if I got a custom made dress, it would be more comfortable…
I’ll probably just get a simple cocktail dress for the reception so I can enjoy part of the day.
Post # 3
Awww bluegreenjean I’m sorry to hear that. You should feel beautiful and comfortable in your dress! I can’t say that I hate mine yet since I haven’t tried it on yet and it only exists as the perfect dress in my head! haha
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House
Hmmmm….so your dress is custom? Can you work with the seamstress to make any modifications to make you like it more?
Post # 6
So, my seamstress is pretty bossy (she’s the one who told me not to raise my arms when I mentioned that my nipple was close to popping out when I reached up. That problem was resolved with some optional small straps on her part and push-ups on my part) and I don’t feel comfortable bringing it up with her. I’m pretty sure she would just say that it’s supposed to fit that way, and that will be the end of it.
Plus the dress is paid for and hanging up in the closet, which doesn’t help matters. I thought that maybe if I just wore it around the house and got used to it, it would grow on me. I finally got around to putting it on tonight — I brought it home almost two months ago. I’m just not crazy about it. Normally I don’t really care about how I look, I just throw myself into what’s going on and have a great time. But I don’t think I’ll be able to do that in this dress. It’s just so uncomfortable… I feel like I’m suffocating — and it doesn’t even make my (small) waist look small. It’s very frustrating!
Post # 7
I can’t say my dress was super comfortable. I felt like I couldn’t move in it and probably wasn’t so graceful for the first few hours. However, after awhile all of my worries eventually faded that day and I didn’t worry about it. I danced until almost 2 am with our wedding party. It wasn’t until my husband peeled me out of it that I realized my ribs were killing me!
If it is just a little uncomfortable, don’t worry too much, but if it is super uncomfortable a cocktail dress might be the way to go.
Post # 8
have you tried getting different undergarments to wear with it? maybe you will feel more comfortable with a bodysuit, spanx or something else that will give you a little more ‘slip’ to your dress? i still need to find something to go with my dress, as it needs a little something (even though i’m small too).
after i got my dress i left it at my parent’s house so i didn’t have to think about it every day!
Post # 9
Hmmm…I know this might seem like a waste after spending money already on a custom dress, but can you take it to anothr, more pleasant, seamstress? It’s really a shame that you hate it so much, and I just feel like you deserve better. Since you already have the dress, even just getting an opinion on what could be done from someone else might be worth it. It might just be a couple simple things.
Post # 10
I’m so sorry, I can relate. I actually paid way too much money for mine. It was a pretty dress and it was comfortable, but I just didn’t love it. It just didn’t feel like me and wasn’t what I had imagined myself in. I realize now I listened too much to what others said instead of going with my gut.
So, go with your gut. If your seamstress isn’t listening, make her. If that doesn’t work, find another one. it sucks, especially in this economy, but get yourself a dress you do love. You’ll always remember your unhappy feelings when you look at yourself in that dress.
Post # 11
So.. could you go to a running of the brides event near by or find something on eBay or a brides against breast cancer event and get a dress you actually like for cheap? You’ve got nothing to lose….expect for $250 or so… and that… might actually be worth it. It would be even less really if you factor in the money you would spend on another dress for the reception. I hope the Dress-Gods smile on you! 🙂
Post # 12
I’m so sorry to hear that you hate your dress! 🙁 It sounds like your seamstress made the process kind of difficult for you, which must have been really hard. I was wondering the same thing as fizicsGirl, can you take the dress to another seamstress to have her make some alterations/changes?
Post # 13
I’m not really crazy about mine either. I bought it about a year ago and I had my first fitting yesterday. There were no tears of joy to be reunited with my dress. I was just sort of blah. I’m not really sure if it’s because I didn’t think enough before buying it or if I was letting other people influence me. I am just trying to change my attitude about it and remember that it is just a dress and the most important thing is marrying my fiance.
I wouldn’t spend money on another dress because that might make you feel worse. I would try a new seamstress who can make the dress more comfortable and make you feel better about the way that you look. I hope you enjoy your dress a little more and have a great wedding!
Post # 14
- Wedding: October 2009 - Church Ceremony/Reception at The Waterford House
I think you should try to find a
different better seamstress if at all possible. If you love the style, but the fit is just off a good seamstress should be able to help you with that. Other than buying a completely new dress… I don’t really have any other advice. Good Luck!
Post # 15
Yeah, I think taking the dress to another seamstress is a really good suggestion. Good luck!
Post # 16
I agree with everyone above who mentioned taking it to another seamstress to look over and see if they could help you feel more comfortable. It’s hard when your seamstress causes more "stress" than she "seams"….sorry corny joke 🙂
While I love my dress……I really hate the bustle, to the degree I wouldn’t want any photos of the back of my dress after it’s bustled. My seamstress felt it was the more solid option given the weight of the beaded lace and the length of the train….but it’s still not the seamless look I wanted (I’d prefer something more like Miss Powder Puff’s recent post). So I’m going to have someone else look at it to make sure the one I dream of really isn’t a solid option.