Post # 17
I agree with the other posters — if money isn’t a huge issue, take it to someone else. It sounds like yours isn’t just that you don’t like it, but that it literally fits your body poorly too.
I’m not crazy about my dress at all either and at times I definitely sorta hate it. I feel like I let other people influence me too much instead of going with my own gut. 🙁 But eh, what can ya do? I sort of have gotten over it, bc in my mind it’s just a dress that I’m wearing for one day. However, even if you’re not crazy about yours, I think the most important part is that you feel so uncomfortable in it that you can’t focus on a conversation! I really hope you can get this worked out and good luck!
Post # 18
Yeah… maybe I’ll just get used to the damn thing, at least get used to it to keep it on for pictures and the ceremony. Maybe I shouldn’t have gotten a strapless dress — mine has a built-in corset and it makes it hard to breathe. And wearing super tight clothes makes me feel really fat. I wish I’d known how uncomfortalble a strapless dress is, but I’ve never had one before. And when you try on wedding dresses they’re never in your size so it gets hard to tell how comfortable they will be when they fit properly — if this one indeed does.
I think deep down I’m extremely uncomfortable with being the bride at my wedding. I have a veil too and I hate myself in that as well — I feel like I’m dressed up for Halloween (I’m sure it will only be worse the day of the wedding when my hair and makeup is done, too. Grrr — why didn’t I think of this before??). If only I could attend my own wedding without being the center of attention. I don’t want to be scrutinized. I don’t even really want to be complimented — ‘oh, how beautiful you look’ — because I assume that that means that I’m shallow and all I care about is how I look, like I had a wedding to wear a fancy dress and have people oooh and ahh over me and that makes me feel stupid and self-conscious. Sorry….. I’m ranting….
I think I will get a simple dress from JCrew to wear for the reception (and take down my hair and wash my face, if need be!)– it may help me feel less on stage and more like myself.
Thanks for the feedback!
Post # 19
Just remember- your seamstress works for YOU- not the other way around. You hired her to create a dress you would like. Not whatever she wanted. Also Could you post pics?
Post # 20
Pictures, sure! The first is before the train is completely finished, but you get the idea. The second has the optional straps (I’ll tuck them in, but they’re there just in case.).
Post # 21
I’m mostly okay with the way it looks, especially the back. The front is a wee bit boring — it’s just satin with a chiffon, slightly ruched bodice (it’s hard to see in that second picture, I think I’ll add another) I’m thinking of adding a blue sash or a brooch or something…
Maybe if I try to lose a couple of pounds it will be more comfy??
Post # 22
I think it is very pretty!! I do like it better as a strapless dress than with straps though – Maybe you could find a broach or something to jazz up the front a bit if you feel it is too plain?
Post # 23
I really like the idea of a broach on that! I think the dress is beautiful, but you should definately talk to another seamstress. It may just need some minor adjustments to make it more comfortable.
And if it makes you that uncomfortable, don’t do anything way different with your hair and makeup. Maybe just a little foundation to even out skintone for pictures, mascara, and lip gloss. Just do simple stuff.
I feel you on the scrutiny though…I really don’t want to be center stage either, but I guess it kind of comes with the territory.
Post # 24
I have worn multiple strapless dresses and they should not be that uncomfortable… or really uncomfortable at all. I have never worn one with a built in corset so I am assuming that is what is making you uncomfortable. Is it possible to have it removed and then get a seperate more comfortable corset to wear under you dress?
Based on what you wrote above I would highly suggest you ditch the veil and buy a flower, tiara, barett, or something else that is simpeler to wear in your hair. If you feel like halloween because its over the top then simplify! You should be excited about how you look on your wedding day not embarassed!!!
I like the idea of a sash or broach! I think dressing up the front a little would look great. It is simple but beautiful. Maybe a little bolero or shaw would make you feel more comfortable also.. especially for the reception.
Post # 25
I think your dress is very pretty – I do like it a bit better as a strapless dress. I think you should take it to a better seamstress and see what she can do to make it more comfortable for you.
Post # 26
I think the dress looks great. It actually looks better without the straps and makes it look more elegant.
Post # 27
I think if you are uncomfortable being the "bride" you will be uncomfortable in anything you wear, but I think your dress is very elegant! Maybe a gusset would give you a little more room to breathe?
Post # 28
I think it’s very pretty! Your crazy to not like it!!
With that… if you think it’s boring bling it up with awesome jewelry (bracelet, chandelier earrings, necklace) a gorgeous sparkly headband would be fabulous even if you want to wear a veil with it!! And of course you can’t forget to have some fun with your shoes….
I hope that in the end you love it <3