(Closed) Anyone else start on a rocky start with your SO?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble bee

I started dating my SO, thinking we were exclusive and found out through some messages on his phone (bad Media for looking) that he had gone out with someone else, though he says it was nothing and just to cheer her up. But we talked through it and we have been A OK ever since. ๐Ÿ˜€

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

When I met Darling Husband, I was still with my ex… It wasn’t going well, and I had in fact been planning to leave but needed time to get organized (take on activities for myself, make new friends, separate finances, etc) so that when I did leave, I’d be strong and not miserable.

Anywho, I started martial arts to have fun and make new friends and met him there… We started hanging out with the group, and then alone and really hit it off, but I still had to go home to my soon to be ex; and Darling Husband was my confident, so nice he was even trying to help me reconcile with the guy (there was no chance)!

So when I was finally single, we shortly started dating, but I tried to break it off right at the beginning, since I had never been single (was with the ex since I was 19) and I couldn’t give the relationship my all and I thought he deserved better.

He wouldn’t hear it. We dated, I fell in love, after like, 6 months, I gathered the courage to let the L word out… to hear the dreaded “thank you”! We almost broke up over this, but we talked and stayed together… still took him another 5 months to say it back (i never uttered a word after that!) but when he said it, boy, was it worth it!!

Through that first year, I moved twice (from the apartment I shared with ex to my grandmothers, and from there to my own apartment); we traveled to each other’s house all the time and were on a crazy schedule. And he had to deal with the fact that my ex wasn’t too happy about my decisions.

BUT!!! I actually never considered it a rocky start, it was sooo fantastic in so many ways that I knew and he knew early on that we’d make a great team for life!

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Oh yeah!  VERY rocky start.  In fact–the first few months we dated… I pretty much hated him!  I think I was meant as a “rebound” girl who he accidentally “fell in love with”!   We fought and argued and I couldn’t really stand him for a long time.  He treated me like the rebound but talked to me like he loved me.  It sucked.  Once we talked it through and decided that it was for real… we both changed our attitudes.  Four years later–we are married and SO happy!  None of those issues have EVER crept back in!

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I don’t think “rocky” so much as slow-slow-slow. When we got together we were both fresh off serious relationships and neither of us i don’t think were looking for anything serious. So we just kept it very very casual. For like… a whole year. lol. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

We went on a first date and everything was going really well, I really liked him so we went back to my place to relax and watch a movie after dinner. Movie was going well, we were cuddling, when all of a sudden he says “Oh crap, I didn’t realize what time it was, I have a party I have to make an appearance at”. And he literally got up and left in the middle of the movie!!!

He is never going to live that one down ๐Ÿ˜› I was definitely not impressed but lucky for him he’s good at apologies so our dates after that we’re definitely better and he learned his lesson lol.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

ha when fi first asked me out i said no… he asked again (how persistent! lol) and i gave in and said yes… and the rest is history!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011 - The Tribute Golf Club

Mr. E actually canceled our first date about 3 hours before we were supposed to meet.  He said he had a migraine, but I thought he was just bailing.  We ended up going out the next week and over the past 3.5 years I have seen how bad his migraines can get so he was telling the truth ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

My Fiance was married when we met (wait for it…) but I was NOT the other woman. Turns out, there was another man, and she left him. I remember my heart sinking after we met when he mentioned his wife, so I just erased him from my memory. We worked together, but very rarely, and he left at the end of the year for a better job. After the summer, I get this random email from him asking how work was and if I wanted to meet up to catch up on work stuff. My response: “Who the hell are you?!” ha ha ha! But he was persistent and I agreed to meet not knowing they had already separated, and thought: 1) either he really is curious about what’s going on at work or b) he is still married, and I’ll finally get to pour a drink on a guy!  Turns out #1 was right. We talked for 4.5 hours that night and finally had to leave when the restaurant kicked us out!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

When I first met Fiance we were in college, we lived across the hall from one another. His ex of 3 years also lived on the same floor, and I was a TA in her math class. He was also very trying to be friends with the both of us…which didn’t quite work. Even after we started dating he tried to still be friends with her and she hated me and caused all kinds of drama, I almost broke up with him over it.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Cash000: My fiance and I hit it off right away, but your story reminds me of my parents.  He was out helping campaign for a guy running for NYC mayor and saw her on the street and started hitting on her and asked her out.  She rejected him because um… yeah he was hitting on her while she was walking down the street.  Six months later they were introduced by a mutual friend.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

Oh, I forgot. Bf and I met online. So on our first scheduled date/meeting, I actually got called into work. What’s funny is that for over a whole year, I never got called into work after that. Then finally one day I did. He never has let me live it down. ๐Ÿ˜€

We ended up going out the next week on one the best dates ever.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Very very rocky start here… Darling Husband and I met when we were both talking to other people. We both called it off with the other person and decided to hang out. Things got out of hand and we ended up sleeping together. The next day he tells me he thinks we make better friends than anything. I went back to the single life and about 3 weeks later was talking to him online freaking out over something a male friend said to me that made me upset. He came over that night and we’ve been together ever since. One would think that makes a happily ever after story but it gets better. Two weeks later his car breaks down and he gets kicked out of his house all within a span of 3 days. I tell him he can stay with me for a couple days and he ended up never leaving. That first month he lived there we absolutely couldn’t stand each other 80% of the time. We were both used to our space and couldn’t adjust. We went away for a weekend together and came back stronger than ever. Odd how things never go how you plan.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

He asked me to be his gf and I said no.  Thank goodness he still pursued me.  I love him so much.

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