(Closed) Anyone else starting marriage “for poorer”?

posted 11 years ago in Money
Post # 62
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458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

We’ve got things pretty good, I have to admit.  I was all “poor me” this morning, but reading some of your posts has made me feel a little better.  I work my full-time job to pay the bills, mortgage, etc.  I have a part-time job that I work 2 days a week so we actually have some spending money, and Fiance will graduate next June with his Dr. in Speech Language Pathology.  Now now that I don’t love this man to death, but he seriously doesn’t think that his $85,000 in student loans is a big deal.  He says, oh we can pay that off the first year after I graduate, I’ll be making easily $100k.  Well I’m glad that he thinks that way, but sometimes all I want to do is go to the movies and a fancy dinner, not chicken tenders and mashed potatoes!

Post # 63
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990 posts
Busy bee

oh hugs! Before Loverboy got a job two months ago, he had been unemployed 7 months! And I currently have no degree, a full time job and 60k in school debt. We will be starting “for poorer” indeed! But ya know what? Things definitely do work out in the end – it’s awesome you’re blessed enought to have family to pay for the wedding, ya know? That’s great! Maybe wedding gifts will help, too? I just know you’ll work it out! Thankfully, you do have a job even if it was a paycut … I swear sometimes you can do everything “right” and still not have things end up “right.”

Post # 64
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36 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Ah, how a crappy economy can bring people together! I graduated (with plenty of debt) last May, got an internship in August, they hired me in January, and then got let go in February. Worked unpaid for months, only to be let go a month later! And still don’t have a paying job, but I do have a new internship. Yeah, it’s not funny but *fingers crossed* we’ll get back on our feet soon.

Post # 65
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10216 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

@MissGreen ((HUGS)) the economy SUCKS!! we are downsizing (again) to a smaller apartment, we currently live in a condo and thank goodness if we move in september october is free and they have no deposit! that is awesome for us. we found out tuesday that m was laid off (luckily in his field it’s easy for him to find another). and he starts tomorrow. i currently only own my event design business and am perusing for a pt job at michael’s or marshall’s (where i buy most of the things for my business) lol discount works for me!

Post # 66
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3586 posts
Sugar bee

We haven’t gotten engaged yet, but we are in the poorer stage. Well, I am. lol. I never thought I’d be in this bad of a situation because, I just got my Master’s degree, but the economy does suck. According to the arbitrary “rules” of life, I shouldn’t be in this bad of a situation.

BUT. We are making it. We don’t livee together, which makes me feel worse sometimes because other women live with their men and it takes a burden off them a little. But, if I need money, he gives it to me. I’m not too proud of myself for needing help and it starts an argument sometimes, but I am glad we are in the half poorer stage now, so we can get over this hurdle and get on to the richer stage.LOL

Post # 67
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303 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

We’re not exactly “poor,” but I quit my job in Texas to come to Orlando and live with my Fiance in June and still haven’t found a job. We’re funnelling the VAST majority of our money into paying off credit card debt and hope to be out of most of it by the time we get married in March. We’d have much more money if all those resources weren’t being used up by the debt, but alas…I’d rather pay for it now than rack up massive amounts of interest!! We want to start our marriage off the right way and learn from our mistakes.

Post # 68
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2343 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yep, us too. We don’t live together yet so combining our finances is something we are both stressed about. I am still in college and I won’t start seriously looking for a job after the wedding. He is a teacher, so he has a decent salary and I am grateful he has a steady job in this economy, but he already lives pretty tight just supporting himself, so when he starts paying for a two-person household, its going to be paycheck to paycheck until I get a good job. It puts a lot of pressure on me to start making good money right away, even though I would love to just waitress and go back to school. Ah, money – it sucks.

Post # 69
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2716 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

we’re pretty tight too-he just got a full time job, so we’re working on getting bills paid off so we can help with the wedding-i’m still an undergrad with only a work study job. I can’t find part time work or an internship easily, so it’s tough. We’ll unfortunately probably be living with his parents for a while (luckily though, the house is split in upper/lower levels like an apartment)

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