Post # 1
Argh. Bees, I just booked my hair and makeup trial, and I am suddenly STRESSED about the whole hair and makeup thing. I am a very “natural” girl — formal hair and makeup skills are just not in my toolbox, which is of course why I’m having a professional do it for the day! But I just don’t feel like I have the knowledge I need to be sure I’m making a good decision. What if I don’t like what they do? What if I don’t have the vocabulary to explain what I want? What if my hair just isn’t right to accomplish the hairstyle I think I want? What if they’re all mean and judgey about my split ends and flaky scalp? (TMI, sorry.) What if they’re all pushy and dismissive of my need to know what’s being done to me/applied to my face?
I’m sure these people will be fine, but I HATE having to make a decision when I don’t feel like there are a lot of viable choices. Hair and makeup is CRAZY expensive. I’m going to be dropping $100 on the trial, which I can’t help but feel is kind of ridiculous (even as I know that hair and makeup folks gotta get paid too). We chose this place because it’s nearest to the hotel we’ll be working out of — but I phoned around, and nothing else was much cheaper and plenty of other places were more expensive. But I feel boxed in already and I have limited time (semi-destination wedding) and money (poor, y’all) to make this decision.
If it comes down to hating these people and the way that they make me look, I guess I’ll just somehow DIY it…but does anyone else feel intimidated and cranky when it comes to hair and makeup?
Post # 3
I’m not to that point yet, but I can totally see myself having all those worries, too!
Post # 4
I am incredibly stressed because my first trial for hair and makeup (they were a team from Sacramento) was TERRIBLE. The makeup artist was actually blaming her terrible application and lack of skills my skin! My Maid/Matron of Honor who was with me couldn’t believe the things that came out of the ladies mouth. The hair trial was no better and very sloppy. I was out $100.00.
I have another one Saturday and I am praying that it goes better.
Post # 5
I recommend asking around/doing more research. I don’t know how much time you have before the wedding, and budget is always an issue (weddings are so expensive), but I feel like one of the most important reasons behind hiring a professional is not just how the apply your makeup or do your hair the day of, but how they help you come to a decision on what to do. Personally, I would much rather I explain my idea to someone, and they say “I don’t think that’s going to look good” or “I don’t think that hair style will last through the evening”, than for them to just say okay and let me make a decision based on my own lack of experience. If it makes you feel more calm, maybe you can practice a “backup hairstyle” that you do yourself – something elegant by simple and difficult to mess up – like a low bun or beach waves or something, so that you can rest assured that in case you don’t find someone you feel really comfortable with, you have another plan in mind. Good luck!
Post # 6
I actually went to the bridal salon the other day, and got into my dress for the sheer purpose of futzing around with my own hair and having a sense of what style works with my face and my dress! The ladies there must think I’m nuts, but they were so nice about it. I do have a reasonably solid sense of what I think I want now — and actually, a low bun is the basic style that I’m going for, with fun curly weavy stuff in the back to make it more formal.
If I had to, I could pull the basics of both hair and makeup off for myself. I’ve watched I don’t know how many “bridal makeup” vids on YouTube now! But you’re right — I figure that they’re going to know what’s going to look good on camera, what’s going to last through a whole day (and crying).
Ultimately, I need to remember that I’m not wedded (ha ha) to this specific salon. Hopefully they’ll be nice AND competent, and it’ll work out.
Post # 7
I’m so sorry that you had that experience! I’m glad you had backup from your Maid/Matron of Honor, though. I wish I had someone to go with me, but all my ladies are out-of-town (or will be finishing up finals on that day) — and I love my fiance too much to have him sit there with me through it, ha ha. 😉
Post # 8
I can understand your stress, i feel the same way about my hair trial. Its like iwant them to make me my most beautiful and thats it. As for makeup im doing my own and since im a makeup artist that is somewhat less stressful for me. I would say play around with your hair (loosely) and try to see what you like best (half up, down, completely up, etc). And with makeup it may help if you already have some makeup of your own to play around with. If not i would say just look in magazines and online to see what you think you would like best. Hope this helps, and try not to drive yourself crazy, when all is said and done im sure youll feel your best1
Post # 9
Thanks for your sweet reply. 🙂 Yeah, I’ve definitely invested in some makeup over the past few months to experiment with, and I feel more confident with it than I did at the beginning. I think I made reasonably good choices with my purchases, but it’s always like…if I buy this and it just doesn’t look right, then I’m out x amount of money for a product that I can’t use! And I know that I won’t get through it before it goes bad…and what if the stuff I’m buying isn’t good quality and makes me break out…
LOL. Clearly I have issues with this. I ought to just sign up to take a beauty class somewhere or something, and then I’ll feel confident that I know what I’m doing.
(Incidentally, my mom is the same way on this. I told her that I was feeling stressed about all this, and she said, “Well, obviously you learned all of these hair and makeup skills from me, because I’m so good at it!” Hahaha. I love you, Mom.)
Post # 10
not sure if you’ve ever tried mac eyeshadows, but when i did my sister in laws wedding makeup i used really simple stuff because she doesnt wear makeup normally. Just in case you want to check them out at a counter, or invest(i dont know your coloring but if your somewhat fair skinned they will look great on you!)
for a super easy simple starter look you could do these colors or get duplicates from other brands-
wedge- in crease
malt or kid(very similar in color)- on lid
there is no shimmer in these colors so it definitely looks natural and then you could make it a little more dramatic by adding a slightly darker color on top of wedge in the outer corner of your crease.
Hope this made sense! haha Good luck again 🙂
Post # 11
hm..i think you should print out the styles that you want to look like and show it to who ever is doing it..after they do it on you, maybe you can decide. make up is the essential part of the face of course .hopefully it will work out just perfect 🙂
Post # 12
It helps me a lot if the bride has a few hair styles they like, and then we go over which parts of each pic they like and don’t like.. because sometimes your words to describe are not the same words others would use to describe what you are wanting. same with makeup. The more visual items you have the less you will need to rely on the artist to know what you mean. Also, in a trial that is when it is ok to play around with different looks, because what you thought you may want might not look the way you had imagined it would on you. So, I wouldn’t go with someone just because they are close.. cause you may just end up with what they have to offer. some hair salons mainly deal in cuts and color and rarely get clients for updo’s.. An experienced hair and makeup artist (especially for brides) is worth the trial and money. Hope it all works out A-OK!!;)
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