Post # 1
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Buzzing bee
I am. It feels like there is way too much to be done still!
Most of the big “to do” stuff that is left is packing, since we’re from Texas and traveling to Iowa to marry. We leave next weekend!! I have school all week, Fiance too, and she’s at work today, thankfully no work during the week… but ACK! There is so much stuff I’ve bought for the wedding that we have to take with us! And I tried NOT to get too much but still, there’s all of our clothing, my dress and petticoat taking up huge amounts of space, decor stuff, accessories like the guest book and cake server and flower girl basket, etc. Plus “regular” stuff since we’ll be there a week. Plus food for the 30 hour train ride since I cannot afford for us to eat all our meals at train dining prices.
Plus I still have 2 tests and a project due in school this week! 
And I just want to sleep. And fart around posting here on WB. I just keep having to remind myself that I can do SOME things in Iowa, like finalize the music on the computer / Ipod, for example.
Post # 3
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Busy bee
aw *hugs* youve got a right work of it havnt you hun?lol best tip,make lists,I luurve lists (even though I never end up doing whats on them,kind of pointless,I know)but when I write everything out, it organises it all in my head so I dont feel quite so overwhelmed and everythings buzzing round in my head.
If it helps,we are moving house this weekend too and I still havnt got even 70% of our stuff packed!I just keep standing in the centre of every room wailing, “but theres just so much stuff!!!” FI keeps laughing at me and my “sad” face
Let us know how it all goes hun!
Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
@kimbo89: I do the list thing too. I don’t know why it seems to help, but i haven’t done one in a while, maybe it’s time again. I also make my Fiance redo the wedding budget every other day when I am freaking out, because I always imagine the entire account magically draining itself on its own somehow when I am not aware of exactly how much is in there!
I just now took a little rest. I wanted a real nap but I couldn’t manage that so I rested for a half hour. That got a lot done!! LOL. It did help me chill out some I suppose. Meanwhile the things I asked my kids to do (18, 13, and 8) did not get done because I wasn’t on them, but that’s nothing new.
Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
breathe in, breath out…. okay then. 🙂
You will be FINE. I have to tell you… I was pretty stressed in the last 2 weeks (ok, month) leading up to the wedding feeling like I couldn’t forget anything and everything had to be PERFECT.
Well… it wasn’t perfect. But you know what? it really WAS. Things went wrong but it just doesn’t matter. You’re marrying the love of your life, right? How can that go wrong? When you see her at the head of the aisle (or coming down the aisle)… nothing else will matter. Do your best to get done what needs to be done, but try your best not to stress about the little stuff. 🙂
Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
@CorgiTales: Thanks. 🙂 I just gotta get the BIG stuff done that is left and I guess I am freaking out because I know if I forget anything and leave it in Texas, well, then there’s no going back for it!
We STILL don’t have the ceremony order all mapped out! That’s kind of big. Ugh. BUT you are right, I need to focus on the most important thing!
Post # 7
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Helper bee
I so sympathize.
I’m getting married on the 19th and my apartment is a HOT. MESS. right now because there are just boxes of crap EVERYWHERE. I have so many things to pack and label and blah blah blah…
I’m technically a law student (although I’ve been blacked out for the last 2 weeks) and I’m theoretically supposed to go to all my classes through the 15th. SO much still left to do and I’m so tired!
Lists, lists, lists…
Post # 8
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Newbee
YES!
My freak-out, complete with silly-girl tears, happened the other night! Crying into my dear FI’s loving shoulder, I was SO stressed about our pictures and the programs and my family drama and “There’s just so much!! How can this ever get done??”
Here I am, two days later, with a new perspective. It WILL get done. And what doesn’t get done WON’T MATTER!! *Phew!* What an amazing realization.. and what an amazing man I have that is willing to repeat it to me even between sobs.
And you know what? I actually got a lot done on my to-do list over the last couple days, I’m seeing the light at the end of the tunnel, and I just decided to back off of my night school for the next month until this is all over.
YAY for the fact that we will all be newly weds in just a matter of DAYS!!!!!
Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
@Ginger123: I know! The tired part especially! And we both totally blew off a government class earlier this week, and kind of an important one at that, because we were dealing with trying to book a couple hotel rooms and the stupid Expedia site wasn’t working but there were only 2 rooms left and I was afraid if we went to class we’d miss out. I hate being a bad student as a result of all this. It’s not “me”. 🙁
I have crap everywhere too, but it’s wedding stuff needing to be packed.
@Sukiapple: I think you have a good attitude and I think that maybe if I made a LIST I could prioritize, so I will do that, because right now it all seems like it “must” be done and I am losing focus! A classmate asked me about the wedding today, then said something like “Oh but you have plenty of time”, then realized we leave town THIS coming Saturday and said “Oh crap! You better get busy!” My mom keeps texting me with stuff I need to do as well. Thanks mom! lol.
Post # 10
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Newbee
@MsInterpret: haha, the mom comment. My Future Mother-In-Law is so kind and helping plan all the wedding stuff (she’s basically taken over the food prep for the wedding), but she is so organized that most of the time she is asking me very need-to-know questions when I haven’t even considered the answer! I have to tell her sometimes that I need to breath and come back with her for answers. Sometimes when she starts talking like that, my eyes glaze over. SO sweet of her, but it’s stressful to think of everything all at once.
Just today they called me to tell me that the mac & chz with our ranchy bbq is no longer a possibility and I just shrugged… potato salad it is!! Really, there are so few details that we can actually control at this point. Just enjoy the ride!
Post # 11
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Helper bee
Ugh, my back is in knots bc I’m so tense and bc my butt has been hunched over my laptop on this lumpy couch for days. Sweet Fiance moved all the Out of Town bags into storage today bc I was drowning in my own living room, did all the laundry, took me to lunch and took out a million bags of junk and garbage cluttering up my space. Thank God for that man (literally).
Here was my day:
- I decided to take the “cheasy” (cheap/cheated + easy) way out of the table numbers and just bought a cardboard package of numbers at Joann Fabric. Just going to punch the corners with a lace corner puncher and call it a day.
- I think I’m going to nix the menu cards bc no one gives a crap about having a menu card. It would be super easy to do, so if I have time I’ll get them done. If not, whatever.
- I still need to do my escort cards and had an ambitious plan for them but I’m going to do them last (since we still haven’t figured out a seating chart) and I’ve told myself I’m not going to care if they dont get done perfectly.
- 2/3 of my CD favors are done – I just need to print some more labels (except I can’t FIND the second box of labels bc of the hoard in this apartment!) and tie each CD case with twine (which of course takes forever to get perfect).
- I went cheasy on the cardbox too and just bought some jank cardboard one at Walmart last night for 14 dollars. TOTES fine with that.
- Program is done, but I need to print and assemble them.
- Finished our photo table project – FINALLY!
- E-mailed our hotel coordinator and makeup artist about some random deetz.
One class got cancelled and I overslept for the other, but I did go to my evening class and even wrote/gave a closing statement in my trial practice class. Not bad considering I wrote the damn thing 30 minutes before I went to class.
Class got out early so I cooked Fiance some dinner (we’ve been eating out way too much lately!) and now I’m taking a WB/DVR breather before making Fiance an ice cream sundae as a little treat. I think I’ll finish punching the table numbers tonight and try looking for the stupid CD labels again.
Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
@Ginger123: Sounds like you and I are having the same problem with FINDING stuff! I can’t find the placecards we bought (dollar store FTW!) and Fiance can’t find a cufflink and earlier I was panicking about eldest son’s tie that was MIA (FI found that)… and now I am worried about printing all this stuff now (programs and school papers and everyone’s travel itineraries) so we don’t have to haul the printer with us too!
Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
@MsInterpret: Oh and I have class at noon! It’s 11:25 and I need a shower and school is 15 minutes away. Lovely.
Post # 14
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Helper bee
Today:
Favors are finally done! (Found the damn labels!)
Had a nice long chat with one of my bridesmaids today, so that was nice.
Sent a good long e-mail to my Maid/Matron of Honor about bridal shower deetz.
Fiance figured out a template for the escort cards in Word.
Made lunch AND dinner at home today, so that’s good.
Wedding cardigans came in the mail – I need to figure out which one looks best with my reception dress.
Payments to videographer and makeup artist went out.
A bunch more stuff went into storage today.
Decided on which apartment we’re going for and set a move-in date.
Bought my case of champagne for the reception.
Ordered FI’s wedding gift.
Finished table numbers.
Tomorrow:
Sign apartment lease.
Pick up FI’s new suit at Men’s Wearhouse.
Make sure Fiance gets his haircut tomorrow.
Print the wedding programs and fold them.
Start thinking about a rough seating chart.
Draft our welcome letter/weekend schedule of events for the Out of Town bags.
Drop off reception dress to get dry cleaned.
Start packing up things in banker boxes.
Finish centerpiece frames.
Post # 15
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Newbee
Oh my gosh – props to you ladies planning, moving, and going to school! I could not IMAGINE trying to study or take a test with all this going on.
I’m working full time, planning the wedding, and looking to move, too. It’s such a stressful time but at the end of the day we’re marrying our best friend. I always try to keep that in perspective…though sometimes the tears come!
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
officially FREAKING OUT!!!
I am so lost about the seating chart its not even funny! And guests are making it harder with a bunch of requests… hows it going for you all today?