Post # 1
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Bumble bee
First of all, I don’t know a ton about ring sizing – just wondering if anyone else was as off as I was about their ring size.
I’ve always thought I wore around a size 6, but my SO went ahead and ordered a 6.5 just in case I was off, so that if we did have to size it would need to be sized down rather than sized up. He let me try the band on before he had a stone set to see how it would fit, and it was definitely big. This was also in the winter, so I know my fingers were a little smaller than they would be now. I have a size 6 ring that I wear often, and it fits on my ring finger, but has a little room to move. So, I figured I would need a 5.75 or so.
Anyways, I went with him last night to a jeweler here in our town, and they measured my finger, and said I actually need a 4.75, which really surprised me. She said its a little smaller than I expected due to my band being so thin (1.7mm), and that we want it to be snug right now because my fingers are probably as big as they will get due to it being Summer (we also walked there yesterday and it was pretty hot and we informed her that we had been outside right before).
I guess I’m just a little worried that the ring will be too tight and I will end up needing it resized again, which I want to avoid at all costs because it is a pave band. I didn’t realize that the band width affects the ring size needed, but I guess that makes sense. I know a person at a jewelry store obviously knows a lot more than me – I just want to be able to finally wear my ring once he proposes, which I believe will be sometime this month!
Post # 2
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Helper bee
Yes i was suprised at how small my ring finger is. I order size H (3 3/4) but its too big and keeps spinning. I think i am actually a size E or F (2 2/3 – 3) but i can’t make my ring smaller bec my knuckles are massive 🙁
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Post # 3
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Honey bee
The wider the band, the more flesh it compresses/squeezes (or the higher it sits under your knuckle on the fleshy part) so usually you need a bigger size. A thinner shank obviously compresses less flesh (and they also have a tendency when worn alone to sit lower on finger, below the “fat pad” where they slip a bit more.
My rings for my left ring finger are generally sized, depending on width, to about a 5-5.25 (depending on width and if I am wearing them alone or not) to go over my knuckle. My knuckle is a bit bigger than my lower finger (which is probably closer to a 4.75 like yours, but I can’t get that size over my knuckle!) so they can spin a bit when actually on, especially if thin and top heavy, so I like using sizing beads/speed bumps or ring snuggies for that reason. Plus, they allow more room for finger swelling which can happen over the day, week, month, year!
I’d actually recommend looking into sizing down less and adding sizing beads because your ring IS pave. If you add a wedding band, it will likely fit snugger (and push the engagement ring up to the fat pad), and over a lifetime your fingers can change – illness, pregnancy (if you have children), getting older, arthritis all might mean future size changes and you want to limit how often – and how much – you resize a pave band. This way, if when you get your band, it feels too snug, they can just file down or remove the sizing beads.
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Post # 4
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Busy bee
I was schocked when I found out my size! For the longest time I’d worn an 8, but after a significant weight loss, I never got resized. When my DH proposed, the ring was a 5, and although snug it fit. I was like giirrrrl what? haha
When I took it to the jeweler to actually be sized, I ended up being 6.25 comfortably, and 100% shocked. Now I’m probably a 6, but I’m okay with the ring being looser because I do NOT like tight. It isn’t loose enough to fall off or anything and my wedding bands (stack) make everything fit snug but comfy.
Post # 5
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Bumble bee
I guess I’m lucky that I have very small knuckles (I have no idea how, I pop them constantly!). My finger is pretty consistant on the width throughout. Maybe I should call them back and ask to do a 5 instead of a 4.75, because I planned on doing 2 wedding bands, one on each side, which will probably make it feel a lot tighter?
Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
futuremrss17: yes I was the same. I’d tried a friends silver ring on and thought that fitted me but when I tried that size on in jewellers they were all saying I need to go down. I was worried 4.5 would be too tight especially with ering and wedding band but nope they do indeed know what they are talking about. If my hands are really hot is probably struggle to get the rings off but 90% they are perfect and they spin a bit when my hands are cold but do not slide over my knuckle without a pull. So yup, don’t be surprised if the jeweller recommends you go down in size.
Post # 7
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Helper bee
Yea, I thought my fingers were about three sizes bigger than they actually ended up being.. had to have my ring re-sized 3 times before it fit perfectly. Oops.
Post # 8
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Busy bee
futuremrss17: It’s a myth that popping your knuckles makes them bigger…
As for the ring size, if they measured you a 4.75 & you like to have a bit of room (personally, I like a bit of spin room), I’d order a 5!
Post # 9
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Bumble bee
Mellybobelly: I always told my mom that it was a myth too, and she never believed me! (saw it on mythbusters or read about it or something years ago) I guess she might believe me now when I have a smaller ring size than any of the women in my family 😉
I dont really care if it has much extra room, as long as it doesn’t get stuck. She did say that since the stone will be fairly big for the band thickness and my ring size (1.72 ct on a 1.7mm band), it needs to be as snug as possible.
Ahh I can’t decide what to do!
Post # 10
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Honey bee
futuremrss17: AS I mentioned before, ask about leaving it a little bigger and getting speed bumps. If your ring is top heavy, even if it is sized rather snug, there may be days it spins. The right size will still be loose part of the time.
Speed bumps prevent spin even AND leave room for swelling. Like I said, I love them. But they can easily be removed if you don’t like them.
These are not mine, but this is an idea of what they look like:
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You can also get a single sizing bridge:
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Post # 11
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Helper bee
Jewelers always size a bit small for my taste. I’m measured at a 6 but have severe ring claustrophobia lol so I wear a 6.5 for swelling and knuckle comfort. What one jeweler told me that I actually agree with whole heartedly is its perfect if you can take it off easily but harder for someone else to. And if you can shake your hand and it doesn’t fly off. I stick to those two rules to make sure I don’t have it so loose I lose my ring.
Post # 12
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Helper bee
And yes the more bands you add later the tighter they will feel all together. I honestly wouldn’t go down to “as snug as possible” like she said. That always freaks me out how tight they always like to make things. Honestly I would wait until you pick your bands and see if you need it sized at all.
Post # 13
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Honey bee
schmeckpepper: Yes, a lot of them do like to size really snug and can be very pushy about it! I am always happy when I find one that totally understands what I mean when I tell them “but my fingers swell!”. I have had better luck with women who seem to be more understanding of the effects of hormonal fluctuations or a salty meal!
I never go AS small as they recommend, though only 1/4 size or so up seems to do.
I walk the line between being ring claustrophobic (had to get a ring cut off once!) and paranoid a ring will slip off (even with being insured) as that has happened to me before.
Post # 14
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Bumble bee
schmeckpepper: Thank you, thats a good rule to follow, im my opinion. I know it will need sized some, because when I tried it on initially it litelarry wouldnt stay on my finger – I could put my finger all of the way in without any of my finger touching the ring – lol.
RayKay: I think I’m going to call them over my lunch break and talk to them about sizing beads. I’ve heard a lot of people say very positive things about them. I’ve never had a ring that fit too tight and I don’t like the way some women’s rings actually look too tight.
I appreciate everyone’s feedback!
Post # 15
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Bumble bee
futuremrss17: Yes, I was surprisingly smaller than the measurements anticipated. It was thought that I was a size S- a 9.25 in US size and turned out I needed an R-8.75 on my enegagement ring and still got plenty of room to be very comfy. When the jeweller suggested that my ring would be made in that size I thought she would be off but surprisingly right and proved all the other jewellers wrong.