Post # 32
Because I don’t want to put my body through a termination which is what would happen. We are NOT ready for a baby right now.
Me and Fiance are still undecided if we want kids but with him being 33 and me being 30, we do have a little bit of time up our sleeve. If we do have kids, it won’t be for at least another 3 years. We still have our wedding in a year and then we just want to be Married DINKS for a couple of years – do up the house, take an overseas holiday to the Soccer World Cup, eat out drinking great wine and then come home late and sleep in, all those things before we think about a baby. It sounds selfish to some, but it’s what we want. Kids are a massive financial, emotional and time committment and there are some things we want to do for ourselves before we take that on if we do eventually decide we want a baby.
Post # 33
i am. not having nightmares about it or anything, but i want us to enjoy our 20’s to the fullest before taking a huge responsibility. in my family i’m seeing a lot of examples of successful childbirth and raising children more “wisely” after 30, and i hope that will be my case too.
Post # 34
YES! On the 4th of every month I think to myself, “Ok….7 months until the wedding..if I got pregnant now i’d be huge…” it’s like a countdown.
I never worried prior to getting engaged, but having such a long engagement with everything set in stone it totally freaks me out. I took a test last week because I started a new birth control and with others I’ve taken I may not have gotten a legit period, but I’d spot a bit. With this one, I got nothing- zip! Clearly I convinced myself I was pregnant and fortunately the test was negative. I told my Fiance about it last night and jokingly said it was positive and guess what? He got excited!! I told him he can save that until May 5th next year.
Post # 35
@honeygoldbee: Getting pregnant now would not be ideal but I would be happy and he would be excited too. We ALWAYS use condoms though. We are both in our 30’s and we are financially secure.
Post # 36
Even though I know that no form of BC is 100% (except for abstinence), I try not the think about it. I’m 44 so the thought of having a baby does not make me giddy; however, if it happens it happens. I guess I’d forget all about early retirement and start looking at retirement in my 70s instead. *sigh*
Post # 37
Not really. I mean it would mess up our plans and we really aren’t ready for a child, but if it happened? SO would be a great Daddy. And if we really dont want to keep a child right now, I would ask my little sister if she wanted to adopt the baby. My little sister most likely wont ever be able to have children of her own, so it would be a win/win situation for everyone.
Post # 38
YES!!!! I am on the patch and havent had any problems, but there is that whole what if, especially since I already bought the dress (which totally wouldn’t fit in 5 months) and we’ve already sent the save the dates. 🙁
Post # 39
YES. constantly. i can’t wait for the fear to go away!
i wont start feeling better about it until we’re more financially sound. hopefully in a few years.
Post # 40
I was terrified of getting pregnant when Darling Husband and I were younger, not married yet, and not sure if we even wanted children. Now baby fever has set in for me. I don’t feel like we’re ready yet, and we’re still trying to NOT get pregnant, but it wouldn’t ruin our lives if we did.
Post # 41
I really have no plans to have children for a long while. My Fiance has a child from a previous relationship so I feel like he is enough to make our family whole. Plus we area both trying to finish school, work full time, and we want to eventually move.
Obviously if it does happen it would be one of those inconvenient blessings 🙂
Post # 42
I did, up until we got married. I was an “oops” that caused my parents to get married before they had originally planned. I was so afraid that I would somehow end up getting pregnant! Now that we’re married, it’s not as big of a deal. We are planning on starting to try in the spring. If it would be a little early, it would be a little difficult, but not a major problem.