Post # 48
@Pinkmoon: Oh man, the turning radius on it is sooo bad! It takes me a lot of room to turn around. I never try to make u-turns, because I know it won’t happen rofl! I just turn into a parking lot and get out that way. 😛 I drive a 2006 GT. It’s one fat little baby!!
Post # 49
I’ve done a lot of time on the road (probably 500,000km) and I’ve always been utterly fearless in a car. My step-dad is a trucker, both my dad’s are mechanics and I’ve been driving on the farm since I was 10. I never ever thought that driving would be even remotely unpleasant, let alone terrifying. I drive interprovincially a lot, up down and around windy mountain highways on crappy roads in crappy weather and as long as you drive safe you’ll be fine. I always had a very relaxed and composed nature about driving
And then a month and a half ago my truck got struck by lighting while I was going 100 km/h down the highway. Perception changed. Just when you think you have it all under control and could handle anything, lightning literally strikes. It changes the way a person evaluates their situation!
And then a week ago, I was driving home from one of said interprovincial trips and it was late and I had been driving ALL day and it got dark and started raining and I couldn’t see and was ging like 70 k and holding up traffic so I pulled over, shook and cried a little, convinced myself I was being a giant baby, tried again, drove for a whole 23 minutes then stopped, cried more and slept at a truck stop (in my car..) until the rain stopped, at which point I carried on as if nothing ever happened.
So I understand your fear, and I even come from a place of no fear! Driving is pretty easy though, the machine listens to your commands and you’ll get the hang of it!
Post # 50
@MRS-K: My Darling Husband is 31 and doesn’t drive! I think he also has a phobia of it, because he mentioned that when he was 16 or 17, his dad tried to teach him to drive by taking him to the freeway and saying ‘go for it’ then screaming at him when he went too slowly. Luckily I have a car and love to drive, although I’ve told him to get his license before we TTC because I am NOT driving myself to the hospital while in labour.
Not everyone likes driving and that’s fine! However, if you do want to learn, I suggest getting a professional driving instructor who will take things VERY slowly. Like, you won’t leave the car park for the first few lessons. It’s very comforting knowing they have a set of controls and you can’t screw up!
Post # 51
I was petrified, and also fed up of people telling me I was being silly, had nothing to worry about etc!!
But I faced up to my fear. The first and most important thing is to feel safe. For me this meant my SO, an old truck and a field with no-one else and no other cars about, and learning how and why a car moves the way it does. Understanding the mechanics really helped.
Then, when I had to move onto the road, I went through about 5 or 6 instructors before I found one that I felt I could trust and work with, and he has been absolutely fantastic. I still don’t enjoy it, but it is getting easier each lesson, and I hope to pass my test this year.
All I can say is keep trying. It’s not easy when you are genuinely petrified of doing it, and some people will never be able to drive, and there is nothing wrong with that. You are no less of a person just because you can’t drive! But if you really really want to, make sure you have the right support network around you for it, and that might also include a therapist to talk to about your fears to help rationalise them.
Good luck to all learner bees!
Post # 52
HEY-OOO I was also hit by a car when I was… 10 or 11.
I, fortunately, was not in the hospital for a long time (I jumped to the side just in time and only got hit by the sideview mirror), but I did have a subdural haematoma and had migraines and memory issues. I was terrified of driving for years, but I got my license when I was 21.
Post # 53
I’m not terrified or it but can get nervous just as I’m getting on the road. If it’s in some place new then I start freaking out.
Post # 54
I don’t have this but my Fiance does! I don’t know why, but he has an absolute fear for driving! I really want him to get over it, because it’s a pain to always be the one to drive…but I guess a fear is a fear..