Post # 1
Whenever anyone in my circle of friends has an issue, it’s like they come right to me for advice. This was never an issue at all, I love giving my opinion and helping people out. But right now, it is just not fun at all. My friend and her boyfriend broke up a few days ago, and he’s been FB chatting and messaging me constantly asking for help. He’s currently in the process of sending me 10 love letters that he sent to my friend; he wants a girls opinion of “if they’re good enough”. In the letters are very personal details I doubt she’d want him telling people (one letter is completely sex-related nostalgia). Can anyone say AWKWARD?!
I’ve already asked him a few times to please leave me out of it, but he keeps pestering me about it. I’m so close to snapping and being like “dude you guys dated for three months, now she wants to see other people, accept it already!”
Post # 3
UGH I can totally relate to this. It really is a pain in the ass, people always contact you when they have problems but I promise you that if they get back together he wont say a damn word to you and keep quiet cuz he’s happy now.
Those are called Emotional Vampires.
Post # 4
It is really rough when you are the go-to person. It must be because you are nice!
I think that you have to be blunt with him and just say “You’ve tried to get her back, now you need to let it go and show her what she is missing, not some pathetic guy begging on this knees” – but nicer than that. It almost sounds like he needs Mr. Bee’s waiting plan!
I am normally the advice friend and it’s hard when people tell you about issues (like self-harm) and you don’t have the reasources to do anything to help them. (This was a while ago and I was quite young at the time, it’s been resolved now).