Post # 17
I love a good food favor but besides that, it’s not a big part of what I remember from a wedding. One of my favorite weddings ever didn’t have a favor at all but did have a nacho bar around 11 and that really made the night for our group of friends and it was personal because we knew that the bride LOVED nachos.
Post # 18
Nixing them for all the reasons the PPs have already stated.
Post # 19
I think if you feel like you have to do something do not buy into the wedding industry and the silly little things they offer – if it’s something your guests can eat, or take home later to eat they will probably appeciate it. Even better, find something you can make for them to eat. One Bee did cookies and milk to be picked up when people were leaving which I thought was really cute.
Otherwise just skip it and use the money for something else. We’re giving away small evergreen seedings as they fit with our winter wedding theme and add decoration to the table. We got the seedings for free and the pots were only 15 cents at a local gardening store. If this didn’t work out I probably would have made fudge or shortbread cookies myself.
Post # 20
We initially did not plan to do any favors at all, for many of the reasons you’ve mentioned. But FI’s mother offered to buy tons of Berger cookies (Baltimore delicacy ), so we may wrap those in glassine envelopes for guests to take home. Since we’re doing a destination wedding, we’re assembling out-of-town bags anyway so we may just stick with those.
Post # 21
Yeah, if you just pick a favor to pick on and get it over with…that’s a waste. But if you provide a personal memento to your guests, the majority of them will appreciate it.
Post # 22
We’re shamelessly stealing Mrs. Lovebug’s "Sweet Charity" idea and doing donations as favors (with the free choice of the guest, like hers as well). I much prefer giving that money to a good cause than spending it on useless forgettable stuff.
(edited because Lovebug is a Mrs. now! oops!)
Post # 23
We’re doing doing them, but I’m doing very well stocked Out of Town bags, since it’s a destination event.
Post # 24
In most cases, yes – I usually (guiltily) throw wedding favors away after a few months. I appreciate food-related favors (mmmmmm caramel apples!), but wouldn’t notice if there weren’t any. Like pp’s say, it’s definitely a generational thing. Favors are one of the things that my parents as well as Future Mother-In-Law went gung-ho with! I finally talked my parents into no favors, now I just have to stop my Future Mother-In-Law from buying random plastic stuff "with our name and wedding date on it" (she’s SO obsessed about that!) and forcing me to put them out. =P
Post # 25
We’re having our wedding on Halloween next year so to go with the theme we are going to have a table full of bulk candy and everyone’s "favor" will be to mix their own bag of candy and take that home. I almost don’t look at it as a "favor" because it really goes with the whole theme of the reception and it’s not a little trinket I’m placing at their seat. I do think favors can be a big waste–I know I’ve thrown away everything I’ve ever been given at a wedding (besides chocolates and candy!) and I’d rather put the money towards other things at the reception.
Post # 26
I think they are a waste, and outdated. Spend the money someplace else. We aren’t doing favors, and everyone I have mentioned it to thinks we are right.
Post # 27
For some reason, I had really wanted to do a favor. I spent a LOT of timing looking for the right thing – something that would reflect us, look good and not cheesy on the tables, be appreciated by most guests and affordable too. I quickly realized that buying a present that 150 people will like for a few bucks is pretty imuch mpossible. So I finally gave up. Then I fell in love with having a candy buffet. I guess this counts as a favor (people could bag up what they liked and take it with them) but I really had it more as something fun and sweet for my guests.
My parents were skeptical but the pictures reveal how much fun everyone had. And it looked great to boot!!
Anyways this is not a suggestion for a candy buffet – I do think favors are generally a waste and trying to find something to give people can be a huge time sink. Let it go and if there is something else you really want to do for your guests instead (photobooth, better drinks. a great Out of Town bag) use the money there!!
Post # 28
We’re doing a candy buffet/bar as a favor.
Post # 29
I definitely think they are a waste, even the edible kind. We may be making a donation to charity in lieu of favors, but other than that, we’re not doing anything.
Post # 30
We had different varieties of succulents as our favors. All of our guests seem to like them. The out of towners did not take theirs home, but the locals snapped them up so at the end of the night they were pretty much gone except for a couple of them.
A lot of our guests reported that they have repotted theirs to a bigger container.
Post # 31
Hi, We are doing a favor – more for ourselves than anyone else – we are getting postcards made with our photo on the front and then having our address printed on the back with a place on the back for our guests to mail us a note about our wedding. We are placing postcard priced stamps on them for our guests, Pretty cool idea, we went to savethedatemagic.com and made our postcards at a reasonable cost for 100. Cheers, Crystal