Post # 32
I agree to an extent about the favors.They have to be something meaningful to the bride and groom, something that the majority of people will like, or food! I love sunflowers and they are a big part of my wedding. I was looking through a baking cookbook that my sister bought for her husband and I found an awesome receipe for sunflower seed cookies drizzled in chocolate. He said he would make them as the favor for the wedding. Everyone knows he is a great baker and this way i don’t really have to worry too much about them. So food favors I think are the best.
Post # 33
- Wedding: August 2009 - Eastside Catholic Chapel and Lake Union Cafe
I think it depends on the favor. I don’t know how many little bags of candy I have tossed over the years. I have gotten some really great favors which I still use and remind me of the wedding. The two I have and use 3 years later are the wine bottle stopper and the emergency sewing kit. The sewing kit came from a friend who is an avid quilter. I thought it was perfect and I bring it with me on all my trips.
Post # 34
I have an entire drawer full of Koozies from weddings. I’ll agree I’m a little over "to have and to hold and to keep your beer cold", but I do use them!
I’m not sure if we’ll do favors for our wedding yet or not, but if we do, they’ll be something I know my guests will appreciate.
Post # 35
go for an edible favor, as others have suggested…they won’t go to waste! Fiance is an Ohio State Buckeye fan so we’re doing buckeye candy (choc and peanutbutter) as our favors…tied in cello bag with our monogram label on the bag, and tied with a ribbon.
Post # 36
I don’t think they definitely are or are not a waste. My opinion is that if there is something meaningful you want to give to guests (a local treat, something meaningful to you as a couple, etc.) then you should. But if you’re just giving out any favor you can find online because you feel obligated to do so, don’t bother.
Post # 37
It depends on the bride and groom and what they choose for their favors. In the case of my sisters and their favors, it wasn’t necessary.. just a box of truffles. I do want to incorporate favors in my wedding, but I also want to make it a bit meaningful and personal. I think that guests will appreciate it if it’s out of the ordinary and have a special meaning to us.
Post # 38
Favors are a waste — use it on somethign else!
Post # 39
I totally think favors are a waste. Spend the money on something more important- like the food!
Post # 40
I think favors you can eat never go to waste. And I agree with Mrs. Corn that if a bride picks a favor for the sake of having a favor and that it does not in any way add to the day, then it can be a waste. But if thought is put into a favor, and it ties in well with the day, expresses the personality of the couple or is just plain edible, then no, it is not a waste.
Post # 41
Did you see Miss Powder Puff’s post about Miss Manners?
From Miss Manners’ book as quoted by Miss Powder Puff, "Who told you that you had to give out wedding favors? Etiquette has never thought of weddings as comparable to children’s birthday parties, where the guests might need consolation for not being the center of attention. You owe them only the hospitality of the occasion"
Post # 42
I also think that favors are a waste. My mom offered to make chocolates though, so that’s what we’re having – most people like chocolate, and the out of town guests can eat them instead of leaving them behind. Plus, making them is cheaper and adds a personal touch. I think if my mom hadn’t volunteered, we wouldn’t have favors.
Post # 43
Some favors are DEFINETLY a waste, but not having them at all is more tacky that the stupid candy box I got at the last wedding I was at. You and your FH should definetly do something to say thank you to your guests that traveled to, sat for, and celebrated your big day. I just read in in style weddings that favors should alwasy be edible. Think tuxedo strawberries of candied apples — anything for the guests to munch on, enjoy and feel appreciated.
Post # 44
If the favors are something meaningful to you, I think guests would appreciate it. For our favors, we’re donating flip flops to an organization that I have served with for the past 4 years and focuses on ministering to Romanian orphans. We’ll also be having a photo booth so guests can take something tangible home with them.
Post # 45
I agree they can be a waste. I have a pile of letter openers and other things I don’t use that often, though I always did appreciate the candy gifts when I got them. 🙂
In the end, this is YOUR wedding so I think you get to decide. If you have something better to spend the money on that your guests will love, then go for it. If you think it’s going to cause drama to not have favors, maybe a small food gift can help smooth that over. Think about what your guests will appreciate more and go for it!