Post # 46
I was surprised to read that several other posters’ parents or older relatives were scandalized by the thought of not having favors. I had to explain to my parents and grandmother what wedding favors are, so this truly must be regional. That said, I like the idea of having favors, if we can think of something that’s meaningful to us. We both LOVE coffee, so I’m thinking of doing mini bags of coffee with personalized labels. It’s edible, and it won’t melt — very important for our July wedding!
Post # 47
Yuppers! Def a waste In My Humble Opinion. Thats why we are donating to the animal shelter where we got our dog from – shes an important part of our lives, shell be there for our day; its our way of saying we wish we could help others more.
Post # 48
Favours have become tradition – and it’s often an unfortunate one. Dependig on the favour they can definitely go to waste, which is why we’re using our late-night snack candy bar as our favours… we’ll do up pretty little boxes or sachets for guests to scoop candy into – to eat then and there or take with them and enjoy later.
Post # 49
Favors = Waste!
Food = Good!
Good food favors = (Candy bars, truffles, yummy cookies, just about anything chocolate)
Bad food favors = (I swear I once got a cookie favor that could have chipped concrete then once I got a bag of those almond things -btw why won’t those nasty things just go away)
But in all honesty favors are a waste of precious resources (time and money) and are great to continue a theme but soooooo not needed. If you do give one, give something people can eat.
Post # 50
I was excited about doing favors as a tie-in to our theme. But the favors were one of the the most time-intensive DIY projects on my plate, and I made an executive decision to cut them this weekend. We have a photo booth, so that’s kind of a favor in and of itself (or so I hope!)
I am, however, doing welcome bags for our out-of-towners. Our wedding is a destination wedding for the majority of our guests (almost 90%), and who doesn’t like a bottle of water and some snacks in their hotel room? Besides which, it’s my way of playing hostess, so it brings me joy to do it. 🙂
I’m all about useful favors (charity donations, edibles, etc.), but I agree with other commentors that they are certainly not required and that the money can definitely be spent elsewhere to greater effect.
Post # 51
I have never once seen a favor at a Jewish wedding in the NE. I dont know why, but its just not a traditional thing for us. The best I have ever received was a nice CD of the couples wedding music. Other than that, the candles, candy, and other assorted stuff has been a waste. Our money will go to the wedding food after which none of our guests will be able to fit a morsel of candy in! Also, we will have Out of Town bags for hotel guests.
Post # 52
I am indifferent to favors. In addition to our cake we are having an Italian cookie cake, beside which I will leave boxes for guests to take a few home wiht them. We are also debating the issue of having a late night snack.
Other than that I like the idea of giving money to charity.
Someone gave me a mini-frame once that doubled as our place card. No idea where that frame ended up!
Post # 53
IMO wedding favors are unneccary if there’s not something speical you want to share with your guests. We’re giving a small sampling of our favorite chocolate, scharffen berger, as gifts, but, I have to give it to my future-grandpa-in-law when he said,
"Weddings are not children’s birthday parties. Guests do not need to be soothed because the day is not about them."
Post # 54
- Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union
I’ll go ahead and throw in (as many others have) that there’s no etiquette stating you need favors. Personally I like getting the candies (because they’re good for a snack in an emergency!), but I don’t exactly notice when they’re absent either.
I’m skipping a traditional favor. But I intend to do some sort of dessert table with appropriately sized bags– if someone wants to take loot home, so be it 🙂
You don’t "owe" guests anything. These are supposed to be our close friends and relatives who we don’t have to bribe. You show them a good night at the reception with upgraded food/entertainment and they’ll be more than happy.
Post # 55
As a very close friend of the couple, I always do like a small momento of the occasion. (Though usually this falls undera wedding party gift.)
As a guest, small, yummy munchies are always appreciated. However, I think time, money, and effort would be better placed in mailing out thoughtful thank you notes.
Post # 56
Most of my guests are traveling for my wedding, so i don’t think anyone really wants to find the space in their luggage for favors. CandyChocolate is cute, but who really eats it before it turns to smoosh in your car?
Post # 57
I’ve gone back and forth on this over and over-finally decided to do a sort of a modified favor. I looked at all of the neat fall favors-copper colored leaf cookie cutters, soap leaves, candles, etc. I then thought about the CD that we are making for the rehearsal dinner bc I know that is ONE of the ONLY favors from previous weddings that I kept and still listen to. I love the idea of the Yankee Candle votives, especially in their gorgeous fall scents, but they are expensive to do many of. Since we are on a major budget (under $5K for everything except my ering) we decided to do the wedding buttermints on the way out the door-bubbles on the other side. We are having brunch and people will be drinking coffee-we thought that was sufficient. I should also note that due to the large number of children, we are getting the wedding coloring books for kids and putting those in baskets for the reception.
Post # 58
I think favors are a nice way to say thank you to all the guests who dressed up and come to the wedding… and gave a gift. I’m not a HUGE fan of favors – but that depends on what you mean by favors? Cheesy wedding-themed favors that you find in all of the wedding stores are montly–IMO–tacky.
I’m a huge fan of food,though! My cousin makes the best chocolate truffles, so I’ve hired her to do those. Plus we’re doing a candy buffet. Two ways of saying thanks!
Post # 59
I honestly cannot stand them. But I do love a good macaron! maybe we’ll do that giving away a few in a box for each guest. Or a candy buffet.
But I cannot stand the plastic swan stuff with the almond candy (jordan almonds?). I have gotten about 100 of them since college.
Post # 60
First of all, nobody wants another candle, sugar lolipop that cuts your mouth, key chain, shot glass…most of the time I am not the least interested in favors. The tradition here in Spain is for the bride to give a pin to all the women and the groom to give a good Cuban cigar to all the men. I went to one wedding where the bridge gave a rose to each woman. That was nice, but still if you are travelling it’ll die before you get home.
As far as my wedding goes, I was trying to think of what I’d like to receive. I loved these envelopes that I saw that have seeds in them and you plant them and then a flower grows. I also love scratch offs and thought, hey I can give each person a $1 scratch off. That’s fun and something that anyone would want, and hey perhaps someone will win!!!! Finally, I like bamboo too, so I am going to give a stalk of lucky bamboo with a scratch off tied to it to each guest. That’s cheap and actually something I’d want!