(Closed) Anyone Else Think This Is A ‘Gift Grab’?

posted 7 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Is this a gift grab??
    Yes : (29 votes)
    38 %
    No : (47 votes)
    62 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    941 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I think since you’ve already given a gift, your presence and a bottle of wine is all that’s required.  🙂

    Post # 6
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    2161 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Wine sounds perfect.   How odd of them to throw themselves another party.

    Post # 7
    Member
    3461 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Interesting, I wouldn’t call a wedding 3 hours away destination myself.  I guess I just think of destination weddings as ones that require all wedding participants to fly into the location, which is likely held internationally.  (That’s in my head at least.)  I guess from that perspective, my wedding – 2 hours from my current home (but 30 minutes from my parents current house, where I did not grow up) would be considered destination for folks…

    Ah yes, to answer the question.  I suspect that if the wedding was as you describe, inconvenient and expensive to go to, then not as many friends/family joined as they had hoped would join.  And thus, this is really just the after-wedding reception a lot of folks talk about on here.  It’s probably at the groom’s house because it’s large enough to hold everyone that they wanted to come.  Go if you like (and no obligation to do so), bring a token item to not be empty handed.

    Post # 8
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    1944 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    @MsNarwhal:

    How large was their destination wedding? Honestly to me if it wasn’t that large, maybe <50 people I don’t see this as a gift grab at all but as an after reception that many Destination Wedding brides do. It’s normal to have a party like this especially with a Destination Wedding involved bc they probably want to celebrate with those who couldn’t make it as well. With regards to the formality of the invite, that might have to do with their circle and up upbringing since you keep reflecting on how wealthy their families are. I think since you attended the Destination Wedding it will be acceptable to not bring a gift.

    Post # 9
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    46328 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I don’t even think you are required to bring a token gift.

    You already attended the wedding and gave them a gift.

    I would attend and take/send the hosts a gift – the bottle of wine would do.

    Post # 11
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    743 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Every thing that Kay01 said – I think your friends just like you and thought you might want to come to the “back home”reception.  I would not be too concerned about the gift you give (if you give any gift at all) – honestly, if it was me, I would probably make them something (like a nice photo of the DW) rather than buy them something else.

    If it was me (and I will be in the same position as your friend next summer) I would not expect another gift from you at all. 

    Post # 13
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    10568 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I don’t understand why you had to stay at the hotel that the bridal party did.  I had many Out of Town guests and recommended they stay at the hotel where we held the reception, and set aside a block of rooms there, but some people choose to stay elsewhere.  Some also stayed with friends, or doubled up on rooms to save a bit of money.

     

    That said, a post-wedding party does not require a ‘wedding’ type of gift IMO, and a bottle of wine would be completely acceptable.

    Post # 14
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    918 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    @julies1949: That is exactly what I would do!

    You already went to the wedding and gave them a gift; I would just go and bring a gift for the actual HOSTS of the party.

    Post # 15
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    1944 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    @MsNarwhal:

    Ok then yes I’m sorry; can I change my vote? I’ve been to 3 Destination Wedding and they’ve all had <50 people, 40 at the most. So not many friends and extended family went. Her numbers are doubled and that’s a regular wedding size to many people. So yea it’s a little iffy to me, but I still think you are ok with your token of wine.

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