Post # 1
So my cousin (who is a guy) was invited to a wedding that is this weekend…When he got the invitation in the mail a month ago, It was addressed to him and said that he was allowed to bring a date. He doesn’t have a girlfriend, but of course, didn’t want to go alone, so he replied that he was coming and that he would bring a date.
2 weeks later, the bride called him and told him that they were over the number of people they could have and told him she would really appreciate it if he wouldn’t have his date show up until after dinner….Really?!! who does that! I was so mad when he told me that, but perhaps its just because I’ve been so emersed in wedding etiquette for the past year. 🙂
So anyway, my cousin was like Ummm ok, well then I’m just not going to bring anyone, that would be stupid to bring the date later in the evening after everyone else has already eaten. THEN, the bride called him back the next week to tell him he could bring someone now. He was like NO forget it. haha. Anyway, I just thought that was super rude! Why don’t people get it that they need to have their guest list down BEFORE they send out invites?? Anyone else with me on this one?
Post # 3
Hmm, well maybe she felt close enough to him to think that he wouldn’t be offended by her asking? She probably thought that he wouldn’t care since he didn’t even have a date lined up in the first place. (Still, it probably wasn’t the best choice.)
She might have also been in a situation (like mine) where family keeps adding on to the guest list even after invites are sent out! Even then, I think that people that made the first list should not get their guests taken away!
Post # 4
It was a little inconsiderate but I’m also planning a wedding myself. So I understand the hassle. They probably realize toward the final payment that they couldn’t afford every single person so they needed to cut a few people. Then of course, you have those that RSVP that they are coming but then tell you a week before the wedding they are not so then you realize you can fit in those few people you cut. I’ve been back n forth about it. It seems inconsiderate, I know. But I guess the bride is just trying to invite everyone they can possibly invite without losing money. It’s really messed up when people tell you they are coming, and you cut certain people, and then those that said they were coming don’t come. You have 5 or 10 seats empty and you can’t help but think about those people you cut earlier on. I know it’s long but she should at least apologize but I’m sure she didn’t mean any harm.
Post # 5
She sounds SUPER stressed!
Post # 6
Yes I agree with everything you both said… I had 13 no shows and it was super annoying!! I guess I’m just really annoyed with guest list mishaps. haha. And just for the record..my cousin isn’t that close with the bride…I think that’s why i think its more rude than if they were really close friends and she knew that he wasn’t dating anyone or something.
Post # 7
Wow… she should have found a way to make it work or thought about that when she gave him the plus 1 in the first place.
Post # 8
yeah, I agree that was rude.
Post # 9
Ugh brutal … poor girl , she does seem crazy stressed though
Post # 11
I wouldn’t think it was that big of a deal if she was super close to him.
I did something equally stupid – I asked suggested a date to one of my friend’s I gave a +1 to (Because I felt guilty for not giving that person an actual invite) – so dumb (on my part) – but I was close to this friend and figured he’d tell me how he really felt (although, after the fact, I realized what a huge gaff that was).