(Closed) Anyone else think this is super rude?!

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Hmm, well maybe she felt close enough to him to think that he wouldn’t be offended by her asking? She probably thought that he wouldn’t care since he didn’t even have a date lined up in the first place. (Still, it probably wasn’t the best choice.)

She might have also been in a situation (like mine) where family keeps adding on to the guest list even after invites are sent out! Even then, I think that people that made the first list should not get their guests taken away!

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

It was a little inconsiderate but I’m also planning a wedding myself.  So I understand the hassle.  They probably realize toward the final payment that they couldn’t afford every single person so they needed to cut a few people.  Then of course, you have those that RSVP that they are coming but then tell you a week before the wedding they are not so then you realize you can fit in those few people you cut.  I’ve been back n forth about it.  It seems inconsiderate, I know.  But I guess the bride is just trying to invite everyone they can possibly invite without losing money.  It’s really messed up when people tell you they are coming, and you cut certain people, and then those that said they were coming don’t come.  You have 5 or 10 seats empty and you can’t help but think about those people you cut earlier on.  I know it’s long but she should at least apologize but I’m sure she didn’t mean any harm.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

She sounds SUPER stressed!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Wow… she should have found a way to make it work or thought about that when she gave him the plus 1 in the first place. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Ugh brutal … poor girl , she does seem crazy stressed though

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

OMG, crazy broad alert!

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper

I wouldn’t think it was that big of a deal if she was super close to him.

I did something equally stupid – I asked suggested a date to one of my friend’s I gave a +1 to (Because I felt guilty for not giving that person an actual invite) – so dumb (on my part) – but I was close to this friend and figured he’d tell me how he really felt (although, after the fact, I realized what a huge gaff that was).

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