Post # 1
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Sugar bee
My Fiance works with a bunch of older ladies. By older, I mean older than us and most are in their late 40’s and early 50’s. I accompanied my Fiance to his company Christmas Party last year and while he went to get us some cocktails, I was about to save us seats next to this lady. I’ll call her Kristen. He quickly came over and was quietly like, “no, she’s nuts”. Okay, I don’t ask questions and we sit somewhere else. Then she came over and started talking to me-alot. She asked weird questions and then asked me about my cake decorating business. Her son’s birthday was coming up and she needed a birthday cake. I told her that I would send my card with my Fiance to work that Monday since I didn’t find it appropriate to give it at the Xmas party. When we got home that night, she had added me on Facebook and it was waiting for a reply. I ignored it for several days and then gave in because she was a potential client and I’m not against making money. I noticed my Fiance was a mutual friend, which was a tiny odd since she’s a grandma. Whatever, didn’t think anything of it- 80% of our friends are mutual friends. Fast forward a few months and now she’s been posting pictures of my Fiance while he’s at work on FB. There’s pictures of him unloading boxes in the storeroom, then pictures of him outside holding down some tarps when we had a bad windstorm. She comments on EVERYTHING I say, every photo I upload, I mean everything. She asked him at work for my recipes, where I get my hair done, and if she was invited to the weddingIs it just me, or is she trying to kiss my butt? Does anyone else find it strange that she posts pictures of him or am I just weirded out? If this was you and you were being “stalked” by a grandma, how would you feel?
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
@Mrs.ChubbyBunny: This sounds like something straight out of a Lifetime movie. I think she wants to BE you. And maybe wants to become a cougar. LOL
Ummm, I think I would ask my Fiance if he could maybe have a chat with her about how uncomfortable it makes you and him to be asked so many odd and personal questions.
This is so weird.
Post # 4
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Honey bee
@Mrs.ChubbyBunny: oh gosh that is creepy… just creepy lol. I have no idea what I would do though! It is just weird *shrugs*
Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
Wow….
That is a little strange, but maybe she is lonely and you are the only one that is nice to her? Maybe, if she has kids they ignore her, so maybe she is trying to replace them with you and your Fiance.
Post # 5
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Bumble bee
I would be weirded out. You’ve met her what, once? And she’s posting pics of Fiance at work on her fb without his permission? Privacy invasion.
She’s not trying to kiss your butt, she’s being completely inappropriate.
Post # 5
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Honey bee
That is really odd. I’ve never had that problem with someone who’s older so I really don’t know how I would handle that situation. But it is a bit inappropriate in my opinion for her to be THAT curious about your life. And who comments on EVERYTHING someone says on Facebook?
Post # 6
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5106 posts
Bee Keeper
@MissHoneyBun:Yeah the picture thing really creeps me out.
Post # 7
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Busy bee
This is just odd and creepy. I would give her the cold shoulder and delete, untag every photo of your Fiance on FB. I couldn’t say what her motive is, but Fiance seems to try to stay away which is good. I agree with the lifetime movie comment. It’s just so odd.
Post # 8
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Sugar bee
@ Mrstobe: hahaha Lifetime movie. It’s funny because we lead the most drama-free existence and now we have drama from a grandma… Yeah I am going to speak with him more in-depth about it tonight, I guess grandma needs to be talked to again. I asked him before if he thought it was weird that she posted photos of him. I wanted to make sure it wasn’t just me and he asked her not to do it, yet she still posted them….
@noritake22: You have a very valid point. Maybe it’s her way of reaching out because that SOUNDS like my mom and grandma. They post random pictures and also comment on everything I post but I can’t call them stalkers because their relatives 🙁
@MissHoneyBun: My biggest concern was privacy invasion with the photos at work. It’s just not a good idea. On top of that, he’s asked her not to and then she aughed it off and did it anyway.
@Southerngirl: I am not a very interesting person, especially on FB!!! I post pictures of cakes and my dogs… haha So for her to go out of her way to comment is VERY annoying to say the least.
Post # 9
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Bumble bee
@Mrs.ChubbyBunny: UHHH laughing it off and doing it anyway? Tell him to go to HR. That is out and out harassment. End it.
Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
@Mrs.ChubbyBunny:I totally have to agree with Bun… serisouly, even though it seems to be relatively harmless, albeit very creepy, it could escalate into something very bad. And at least with your family stalking you it’s because THEY ARE your family. Not some random lady from your man’s work… LOL
I would tell him to do something about it at work, take it higher than another chat with her. Who the hell would post random pictures like that anyway?? Especially if that person specifically asked her NOT TO.
Post # 11
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Sugar bee
Agreed, I think I have been ignoring it because of her age and it seemed so “innocent”, at first. However, after he asked her not to, it should have stopped. She is his direct supervisor so he will have to go above her, but honestly spin the tables. If it were an older man doing this to ME, it would be downright scary-weird. I am going to talk to him about it and ask him to talk to someone above her. In the meantime, I’ve already deleted her from FB. And the irony of the situation- she never ordered a cake from me, as her son is allergic to gluten. Yeah… let that sink it haha.
Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
@Mrs.ChubbyBunny:Um, yeah. WOW.
And not to mention she is your FI’s DIRECT SUPERVISOR!?
No, no, no, no, no.
Post # 13
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Bumble bee
@Mrs.tobe:Ahahahaha!!! Lifetime movie!!!
There’s a reason why it’s a good idea not to be FB friends with co-workers! Sounds like this woman has difficulty understanding boundaries!
Post # 14
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Bumble bee
@Mrs.ChubbyBunny: Her son is ALLERGIC TO GLUTEN!?
You’d think she’d remember that when she ASKED YOU TO BAKE A CAKE FOR HIM.
Certifiable. Crazy.