Post # 1
I am pretty new to WeddingBee having joined in late September (it sounds like most have been here a couple years). I specifically joined because the “other site” seemed rather dramatic.
I realize people have said it is just a phase and these things have come and gone, but some of these posts are getting ridiculous!
I am wondering if anyone else is debating just picking up and moving on? They always say if you can’t beat them join them, but that is certainly not an option for me. Why are all these people getting enjoyment out of upsetting other people!?
Oh well.. I guess you could call this a depressed vent..
Post # 3
yeah sometimes, but I’m too addicted to leave weddingbee. It is nice to take a break for a few days every once in awhile.
Post # 4
Yah I wouldn’t blame ya… I do think things have gotten much better though, even in the past week!
Post # 5
I love this message board I really do. But I can’t handle all of this craziness that has been going on lately I really can’t. And like you it’s only pushing me away from enjoying this place. I don’t want to log in as much anymore simply because every time I do get on we are all up in arms again. That’s just my two sense.
Seriously though…I don’t know what I would do without you girls though.
Post # 6
I considered leaving like a month ago, but its really not that hard to just ignore it… Most days. Today was probably the most dramatic I’ve ever seen this place. I really do think this will die down, and you’ll be happy to have a place to bounce ideas around or just vent (anonymously :)). I’m not leaving, but I get why you feel like you might want to. Maybe take a week off to see if the silly drama on a website really bothers you that much, and then you could ask for them to delete your account or not.
Post # 7
Honestly, I take what happened as something that all women do. Including myself. We’re women, we’re dramatic, and we let our emotions get the hold of ourselves, some more than others.
Since I’ve been here two really good bee’s that I defended from attack left because they were upset that they weren’t being treated well. It’s really sad.
But personally, I love it here. Just learn to stay away from some bee’s and take the insults for a grain of salt and move on.
I hope this didn’t make you want to leave more ):
Post # 8
I think that WeddingBee is just as good as it always has been, and it’s easy to avoid the drama. Don’t give up!
Post # 9
I love weddingbee and have learnt so much from here.. i think you gotta learn to just ignore the drama threads and focus on the threads that do serve as inspiration for your wedding
Post # 10
It is a phase, like people have said. And if you avoid those posts about the “drama” then all is good! I have been to other sites and in the end, none can compare to this one. The community is irreplaceable. Right now we are just trying to make sure it stays that way.
Post # 11
I know what you mean. I just ignore those posts, and then I’m happy. It’s usually obvious from the title or the initial post itself when it’s going to be a drama-fest. If I don’t read it, I’m not bothered!
Post # 12
I haven’t been here that long (not quite as long as you, @Gilde37) but I’m not thinking of leaving. I enjoy the site. I like finding ideas here and getting support. Sure, it can be a huge time sink but I also come on here to relax.
And all the drama? I don’t give a crap. It’s a public board so some level of this is to be expected. I’m just thankful I don’t have to moderate it! (Sorry, Mr. Bee) I’m choosing to concentrate on the parts of the site/forum I really enjoy, not all the drama-filled posts about banning, etc.
Post # 13
I’m not planning on leaving. I love the bee! I put on my big girl panties in the morning and ignore the stuff I don’t like…
Post # 14
WB for me, is a place where I can obsess about wedding stuff, ask wedding questions, and just be WEDDING’ED OUT so that I can save family/friends/FI from having to hear nothing but wedding crap come out of my mouth.
It’s where I go to ask questions that NO ONE outside of brides-to-be could really give a damn about (like my recent poll about whether a hem being 1/2″ too short was noticeable, lol). I like watching people’s movie premiers so that I can figure out if it’s something I NEED to have. I like looking at pretty shoes, giving my opinions on topics I have experience in, and researching “proper etiquette.”
When I log on to WB, I do a quick blog scan, and a quick board scan, then simply skip over topics that don’t interest me. Is that so hard for some people to do?
Post # 15
Me either! I stay away from the drama and enjoy the other 90% of wedding bee 🙂
Post # 16
I am contemplating the same thing myself. I used to feel excited to share things with a group of women even though I didn’t know them. I don’t have many female friends in real life because I hate gossip and everything that goes with it. I am honest and upfront and like to surround myself with people who are the same, however there’s a big difference in being honest and being mean. For instance someone saying “that dress isn’t as flattering as i think one could be” vs “you look fat ugly” both maybe honest but one just not productive. Recently, I feel constantly judged and even though not attacked persay just no longer as friendly as it used to be. I had assumed some folks with Mr.Bee’s post of the “Circle of Snark” that some of these girls would be gone, but I just checked and 3 out of the 5 that crossed my mind are still here. Ugh. It’s probably time just to move on.