Post # 1
I know weddingbee is supposed to be about the joys of wedding planning, but I’m so over it right now! It’s at that point where I literally just want to stop and not care if anything comes together for the wedding or not. Most (to be fair, not all) of my vendors have been hard to deal with since I put down deposits or are simply unresponsive. I’ve had major stress about the dress (and am a 2 dress bride). I find that most of what I do on weddingbee, unfortunately, is complain, and I don’t want to be that bride. It’s supposed to be a happy time right? And when I complain to my Fiance he just goes back to…well, we could have just had a civil ceremony. Argh. My Maid/Matron of Honor, Bridesmaid or Best Man and mom have all offered to help, but they are all also in other parts of the country, so I’m not sure how they can even help.
I have a few weeks to go, so I know I should just take a deep breath and probably take a break, but I’m just feeling a bit overwhelmed at the moment : (
Post # 3
no! i don’t mind wedding planning. It’s wedding spending that’s giving me heart palpatations, haha. I can’t wait to spend money on things besides hole punches and super glue.
Post # 4
I’ve felt like that before… as recently as two weeks ago. Now, I’m sad that it’s almost over and I don’t remember what I did before I planned a wedding! I think its just a huge roller coaster of emotions and that I’m ready to get off, lol!
Post # 5
Oh man, I am so tired of it. I can’t wait until just over 3 weeks from now when it’s all off of our shoulders (and wallets!) and I never have to do it again 🙂
Definitely give yourself a little break, for even a day. De-stressing with a bottle of wine and cooking a nice meal always does the trick for me!
Post # 6
I am definitely over it and we still have so much to do. I’m ready for the honeymoon!
Post # 7
I think for me, it comes in waves. If you get tired of it, back off of it for a day or so. Your wedding is coming up soon and it will all be over–so just try to destress!
Also, if your vendors won’t respond–go to their place of business. Tell them that you would appreciate it if they would respond to you in a timely manner, as your wedding is coming up and you have questions, and you really don’t feel like you’re asking too much.
Good luck and I’m sorry it’s been stressful! I bet it will be a beautiful day though 🙂
Post # 8
@cinemaparadiso Me too. Right now the intense planning wave is on the low tide…I’m sure it will come back. But right now I feel I’m at a stand still and get kind of burned out looking at all the frickin’ options there are! OMG, people have so many great ideas! It’s kind of overwhelming.
Post # 9
I was there two days ago! Literally rolled over away from my computer and said “okay, enough” You are SO close though, and when the day comes you will be SO happy you did it!
Post # 10
- Wedding: September 2010 - Casa Real at Ruby Hill Winery
It comes in waves for me too, especially since my engagement is so long! I am in a “not into wedding planning” stage right now. I still read all the blogs and blog about my wedding but I’ve been avoiding meeting with florists and bakers even though i need to get on that.
Post # 11
we all get to that point too so while it seems like everyone on here is all lovey dovey with wedding planning, it’s not consistently the case. i had several occassions in my own planning when i was practically begging to just go down to city hall and get it all over with.
unfortunately that’s not always possible so.. take the anoon or day off and do something totally unrelated to the wedding. then call AND email each of your vendors and ask for a time / appointment to speak to them. go prepared with your list of questions / topics so you can get as much covered as possible during that time. as for your bridal party – they can help even if they’re long distance. think of ways you may be able to delegate to make it easier on you.
Post # 12
Thanks everyone! I feel a little better now. Obviously I haven’t completely taken a break since I am still lurking on weddingbee – LOL – but I have put off some things until monday. I would love to be able to go to my vendors in person, but I’m having a destination wedding and can only do it all by email or phone and hope they get back to me. At least until the week I get there…
Post # 13
hug hug hug.
i agree with the other bees…it definitely does come in waves! there are some days that i wish i could work on the wedding all day…then some in which i just feel overwhelmed and unaccomplished. at my lowest, i was off WB for about three days…though it seemed like a lot longer when i came back, lol! =D
Post # 14
I’m over it! Let’s do this already!!! That’s what I keep saying. Today I found out that the lady who was going to make our cookie favors can’t (she’s a BM’s mom – and it was a favor, so I’m not mad or anything), it just adds 1 more thing to the list. 🙂 Breathe Ladies, in and out….. ::sigh:: Any better? 😉
Post # 15
I’ve had that feeling this week. I think because I was Maid/Matron of Honor for my brother’s wedding in April and then now for my friend’s in November. So I’m exhausted. From all the party planning and dealing with emotional bridesmaids! LOL
I’m looking forward to her’s being here in November and hopefully taking at least a months break. I’ve got most of my stuff done and what’s left can wait until Jan/Feb.