(Closed) Anyone else too scared to read the “Joys of Pregnancy” post?

posted 8 years ago in Babies
  • poll: For those of you who haven't had your first baby, did you?
    Avoid the post at all costs. : (13 votes)
    22 %
    Click, but read while partially covering your eyes. : (14 votes)
    24 %
    Read every last detail. : (31 votes)
    53 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    5263 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Oh. My. God. 

    I almost wish I hadn’t! Haha, I mean, I knew some of the things, but sometimes my jaw dropped a little. I’m terrified to have kids. 

    I’m glad I read it though. It gives me plenty of time to come to peace with how embarrassing certain aspects of pregnancy will be. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    773 posts
    Busy bee

    Some people have said it’s scary, but I don’t think anything about pregnancy/labor was particularly scary.  I think if you have a sense of humor about yourself, you can handle the thread and your own pregnancy just fine 🙂

     

    Maybe some of the posters in this thread can enlighten me about something though.  I’ve been wondering why people are so scared!  I wasn’t scared before pregnancy at all- I wanted to experience all of it, and now that I have, I can’t wait to do it again.

    Post # 5
    Hostess
    18643 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I’m somewhat terrified to read any of the new baby posts coming up.  I am in no mind to have kids right now so that stuff just freaks me out because I don’t really want the thing that comes at the end of pregnancy.

    Post # 6
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    hmmm, haven’t read it. will go to it now.

    Post # 8
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    4765 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

    Um, it’s kind of a terrifying post. Not all of it is bad, of course, but some of it is very, very scary!!

    Post # 9
    Hostess
    18643 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I just feel like I’m too young and I’m never around kids so I don’t get the appeal of them at all yet.

    Post # 10
    Member
    6009 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I think a lot of people have commented that the scariest parts of that thread are the parts about birth, so maybe that’s what freaks everyone out?  The rest of the stuff in that thread (excess discharge, memory changes, vivid dreams, etc…) don’t really seem that scary to me… 

    FWIW, as a pregnant lady, the more I learn about birth, the less scary it becomes to me.  A lot of what is scary is the fear of the “unknown.”  You don’t how long labor will last, how much pain you will be in, whether an emergency will come up, etc…  The more I read and research about birth, though, the less I am scared of it and the more I am excited for it!

    Post # 11
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    5263 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @amandopolis – I think a big part of what scares me is that there’s just not a huge amount of excitement there for me when I think about having kids. Do I get that *squee* feeling over babies/kids sometimes? Of course. And there are moments when I look forward to certain aspects of pregnancy/being a mom. But 95% of the time I’m still in the selfish stage: I like my life, my relationship, etc, change is bad! 

    I know I won’t always feel that way. I used to not want kids at all, and something did switch. So I think for me, it’s a gradual change. I just know I’m not ready yet, and I’m not at a place in my life where I would want a child. 

    Also, I’m very fine boned and small (especially down there) and have an old tailbone injury (I broke it when I was 11) that I still have pain from. So birth scares the sh*t out of me. 

    Post # 12
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    To me, everything pregnancy-related is terrifying (from the feeling of having something growing inside me –SHUDDER– to the presumably excruciating pain of birth, and everything in between, and everything after too because I’m not ready to have kids yet at all), so of course I read the whole thread, and the childbirth thread, and if other threads show up about such ‘joys’ I’ll probably read it too. Guess I’m a masochist or something, because reading all that is only making me even more scared and making me want to get my tubes tied or something… and yet I can’t stop reading, lol.

    Post # 13
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    2205 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I want to know everything I can!  People being really honest about it is something I love, even if I’m 3-4 years away from it myself!

    Post # 14
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    429 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2008

    I don’t know whether I’m a good person to talk about it, as I had a pretty easy pregnancy and birth, but honestly… it wasn’t that bad. Pregnancy is not a disease.

    We’re so disengaged from our bodies in our culture for anything but sex and eating that I think we forget that physically, we’re really just mammals. Our bodies do ‘gross’ stuff. We grow our offspring inside us, push them out covered in blood, and then our breasts produce food for them, that they literally suck out of us. It’s NORMAL.

    Things like having cancer, that’s not the function of a normal healthy body, and chances are a good portion of us will have to go through that, either personally or as a caretaker at some point in our lives. For the last trimester of my pregnancy, I lived with my Mother-In-Law who was going through chemo. She definitely suffered a LOT more than I did. Why be scared of pregnancy?

    Just my 2 cents, and I know that there can be complications with pregnancy and birth that are harmful, traumatic, or fatal. No disrespect meant to those who have suffered that.

    Post # 15
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    429 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2008

    @ azula — I dunno, I found the sensation of something growing inside me really cool. 🙂

    Post # 16
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    507 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    @December — Really?? Just the idea of it makes my skin crawl. And I have friends who are pregnant and are all about “oooh, come, feel the baby kicking!” and stuff like that, and it just… I dunno, it freaks me out. Which I guess is a clear sign that I am a loooooong way from being ready to have kids.

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