Post # 1
Just had my second dress appointment. So far I’ve tried on 13. I have three dresses of those 13 that I really loved, but I just didn’t have that ‘this is it’ feeling yet. One of my best friends saw her dress in a magazine, went to the one boutique that had it, and bought it in that appointment. I’m some ways I shouldn’t be surprised. When I looked at my condo I saw a LOT of places before I found the one. But then with the three I made offers on I knew instantly they were a fit so it makes me worried that if I didn’t immediately know in any of the 3 on the short list that they’re not the ones.
I know thse are first work problems at their finest, but wanted to see if anyone else is in my position. On one hand, this is the one time in my life I get to do this and our wedding is still a year and a few months away so we have the time. On one hand I tell myself trying on a lot of dresses I think will be a good thing because these things are $$$$ and I want to feel confident in my decision but also don’t want to confuse myself.
(It also doesn’t help when I go hoping to see a couple dresses from the recent seasons and they are not there.)
Anyone go through something similar? What did you do?
Post # 2
I am similar to you. I have been to 6 bridal salons and tried on about 50 dresses. I’m starting to get a little worried.
Post # 3
sweet844 : Yeah. I have a feeling that’s where I’m going to be. And it’s not like I even have a lot of competing opinions. The first time I went with two girlfriends I know get my style, the second time alone.
What have you been struggling with?
Post # 4
I tried on loads. Ended up going with the first one I ever tried. I am mega indecisive and just had to bite the bullet in the end. To be honest there were loads of dresses that I could have happily walked down the aisle in. I think once you have a clear idea of your style and budget you can narrow it down better. I never had the lightbulb moment though!
Post # 5
I tried on a lot! I don’t even know how many to be honest. There were some I loved but was still hesitant about with my dress I just knew, something just clicked and I didn’t have any hesitations.
Post # 6
I tried on tons as well, 5 appointments and probably 60+ dresses. I was looking for something specific and none of the shops had what I wanted. I ended up going with one I had been looking at on Etsy for almost a year! So I guess it wasn’t because I was indecisive, I knew exactly what I wanted but couldn’t find it in real life!
Post # 7
kelbrimale : I definitely tried on between 40 and 80 dresses. In a couple of the salons, the consultant was picking the dresses and I knew before I even tried that on that I wouldn’t like them, but I tried to keep an open mind. This led to the trying on of a lot of dresses. It was fun though! I got to see the different styles and get the different effects.
Post # 8
The very first salon I went to was amazing. Everything the consultant picked out for me looked good. Then every consultant at every other store after that was subpar and not as good as the first woman. I wish I could hire her to dress me daily she was so good. But I don’t live near that salon and didn’t write shit down because I’m an idiot so I’ve spent countless hours and trips to other salons trying to find stuff that looks as decent.
Post # 9
Yes!! I went to ~9 salons and tried on more dresses than I can count. In the end, I ended up selecting a dress at the very last place I tried! It didn’t hit me right away that that dress was ~the one~ though – I went back and forth between that dress and another one that I had found early on in the shopping process for a while, including scheduling multiple appointments to try them on back-to-back to compare, before realizing that I had found my dress at the last salon. It was a very frustrating and stressful experience, but for me it was worth it to finally find *the* dress! Good luck!!
Post # 10
I tried on about 50 dresses and was stressing out. My dad came with me to the shop I bought mine from. I humoured him by trying on the puffiest one in the shop, the wackiest etc and then I actually found the one!
In his mind dress shopping is incredibly easy hmmmmm
Post # 11
londonbeeee : I think this is sound advice. Though sometimes I wonder if I’m too focused as I keep gravitating towards very similar styled dresses. (Or at least they seem similar to me.)
These are the ones I’ve already tried (among others):
And I’m also interested in these:
Post # 13
#1 is the one that I am leaning toward, and suspect I may come back to.
#2 is GORGEOUS and I love the sculptural nature of the skirt, but always saw myself in something less full.
#3 The detail work is simply gorgeous and I love the blush color. It’s just a little bit stiffer than I’d like on the bottom.
#4 After #3 it just felt underwhelming. The beading didn’t catch the light.
#5 What you can’t tell is that this dress had glitter. Lots and lots of glitter. Pattern was also a bit big and overwhelmed my frame. Also over budget.
Also tried on other dresses that were slightly different, but all definite no’s for different reasons.
Post # 14
I went to 6 stores, and spent a long time at each trying on dresses. I would say if you have the time, there’s no reason to feel bad about trying on a lot of dresses. I thought the dress shopping process was so much fun, and I even went by myself a few times. Ultimately when I found my dress it was not an emotional experience (I think because I had tried on so many at that point), but I was really excited and it was exactly what I was looking for. It’s okay if you don’t cry! I hate impulse decisions, so I liked that I got to try on many dresses and really think through things.
There’s no harm in exploring your options, just don’t keep looking after you buy your dress!
Post # 15
Number 1 and 3 above are my favourite!! I think those should be your top 2 current contenders.
Something to remember is that a lot of people don’t get the feeling of ‘THIS IS THE ONE’ or start crying. Some of us just find a dress that is comfortable and in budget and we think is lovely, so it’s a good and rational choice. If you keep coming back to dress 1 that’s a good sign.