Post # 1
I’m feeling so down lately about my weight/body. I have been chronically underweight for as long as I can remember, with the brief exception of one summer in which I lived in a fraternity with a dozen guys literally living off of pizza and beer… lol. I gained (and then quickly lost) about 15 pounds. So I KNOW it’s physically possible!
But I am skin-and-bones stick thin. I HATE it. I have refused to even think about shopping for dresses at this point because I know I will feel so self-conscious about my body and how I will look in them.
I’m just not very food-driven and I have never had a very healthy/normal appetite, so lately I have been delving into holistic nutrition, which has actually really helped pique my interest in preparing and eating food. I’ve been doing a lot better. I cook multiple times a day usually and I feel like I have been eating a lot more. I feel better, I FEEL like I could be putting on weight finally, But it’s been about 6 weeks since, and I have gained nothing. Not one pound.
I want to gain at least 15 pounds by the wedding. It’s been 2 1/2 months since I’ve been engaged and I’ve made zero progress. I still have 16 more months, but I’m stressing.
Can anyone else relate? Is there anyone else out there actually trying to gain weight? It’s pretty easy to feel alone in this when it seems like everyone else in the world wants to lose weight and thinks I’m “lucky” to have this problem. I’m not. 🙁
Post # 3
If there was a way to snap my fingers I’d gladly give you the 10lbs I want to lose! I actually have a cousin that is the same way though, she has always been stick then. She had a baby a few years ago & honestly that is the only way she ever had any weight put on her.. Good luck though! I know that gaining weight for some people is just as hard for those trying to lose it!
Post # 4
@jenn6051: thank you for understanding! I’ve wondered about the pregnancy thing… I think once that stage in my life rolls around, the weight issue will probably be a thing of the past. Hmmm…. Ohh, Mr. Mango!? ::insert evil grin:: Hehe 🙂
Post # 5
I’m not trying to gain (I’m trying to lose) but I used to work with a girl who was trying to gain.
Have you tried adding more good fats to your diet? (i.e. avocado, nuts, peanut butter, cooking with real butter or olive oil) As well as more protein with good fat like fattier fish and quality cuts of red meat?
Have you tried doing more strength training/muscle building exercises, rather than cardio which burns fat, to add some bulk?
Post # 6
@littlemissmango: Also, have you had your thyroid tested? Thyroid problems (like hyper thyroid) can make it nearly impossible to gain weight. One of my friends in HS had hyper-thyroid and had to take medication to slow it down so she could maintain a healthy weight and not be too thin.
Post # 7
@KatNYC2011: Agreed on the strength training.
I find that it makes my appetite pretty massive, and it can help add some bulk and weight. I’m not actively trying to gain or lose, but am always psyched up to put on more muscle mass and get stronger.
I also know a couple people who are like you. Make sure you exercise and eat a healthy diet and at a certain point there’s only so much you can do about your figure (I think this goes towards people naturally predisposed to be a little heavier as well as the naturally very thin).
Post # 8
I agree completely with @KatNYC2011
Add as many healthy fats (not frat fats!!) to your diet, and add them whenever you can..the most critical time is in the evening. WHereas those of us trying to lose weight should avoid eating fats or carbs at night (after 7:00), those of us trying to gain weight should have fats well into the evening, because your calorie consumption goes down at night and the good fats are more likely to “stick” rather than being burnt off like they would be in the daytime.
If you like fruit, try making a fruit smoothie with almond milk or full fat milk and whatever fruit you like, ice, and half an avocado. It tastes really good and is full of good fats!
Post # 9
@ScarletBegonia: I agree on the full fat milk etc. Whenever possible use full fat milk, cheese, yogurt, etc. Also, focus on more calorie heavy fruits like bananas, mango, etc.
Post # 10
You guys are so supportive and helpful!
KatNYC and Entangled, you are so right. I used to do strength training when I had access to a gym and I really enjoyed it. I like lifting weights and I felt like it really helped me add some shape to my… stick figure, haha. I think what I need to do, since there isn’t a gym nearby, is go out and get at least some free weights/dumbbells to use at home. Not having a gym shouldn’t be an excuse, because I think that would really help me. Thanks for the reminder!
I have been trying to add more fats. I try not to shy away from fattier cuts of meat and I also use a LOT of coconut oil in my cooking, in fact most days I would guess I probably consume at least 3 tablespoons of it a day. Which doesn’t sound like a whole lot, but if you think about it that’s over 350 extra calories a day that just get slipped in, plus all those good fats.
But I have not been eating any avocado — the smoothie idea is a really great tip ScarletBegonia! I will totally try it and also eating a little something extra later in the evening. Makes so much sense since people trying to lose weight are advised to do the opposite.
Kat, eeesh… I am scared of the thyroid thing. My mother had thyroid problems, not sure if she was hypo or hyper, BUT… since being under the care of a holistic nutritionist, she was able to go off of her medication after only a couple months! I know I probably should at least go to the doc to see, but I have a huge, huge phobia of needles. If nothing changes in another few months I just might suck it up and go though. 🙁 Thanks again for your advice and support!
Post # 11
@littlemissmango: I totally understand the fear of needles. I used to HATE having blood drawn, but then I got mono and had to have blood drawn every 6-8 weeks so I got used to it. I know it’s not fun, but it’s always good to rule out a medical problem especially since you may have a medical history of thyroid problems.
One other thing is to eat eggs (both whites and yolks) lots of protein and good fat.
You could make an AWESOME breakfast with scrambled eggs with shredded cheese wrapped in a pan fried tortilla and served with salsa and avocado slices.
Wow… now I’m HUNGRY!
Post # 12
Yeah, back in college, I was hovering around the 110 mark and I couldn’t get any heavier. I wanted to gain weight and asked the BF at the time (now DH) how to do it. He said I could eat a spoonful of peanut butter before I go to bed. I did it once. I think I was really lax on what I ate and when I ate because I was trying to gain weight.
Well, I always thought I was in the 115 mark around my wedding and recently, I think I now weigh 125 (a year after the wedding). Which is like an all time high for me! lol I don’t know, I think getting older has done this to me (I’m 27 now). I would like to stay in this range especially since we plan to TTC at the end of this summer. Now, I’m going to the gym to maintain this weight.
Also, I think back in high school and college, I kept fairly busy with the jobs I had and living on campus. Now that I’m in my career, it’s less physical activity and so I think my body is adjusting to the less active life style. Which is why I need to start going back to the gym.
I honestly couldn’t tell you what to do because I don’t know what I did. haha
Post # 13
@littlemissmango: Just a little tip to deal with the fear of needles – i used to be a venepuncturist (blood drawer), and this little tip was quite good with kids and people who were afraid – once your nurse/venepuncturist has a vein ready to go, have them flick it or scratch the area with their gloved nail while counting to 10 – and put the needle in at a random number on the 1-10 scale. This is good cause the sensation of being flicked will distract you from the feeling of the needle, and when you don’t know when to expect the prick you won’t know when to expect pain.
Also remember that in a square cm of skin there are only about 20 pain receptors – so the odds of that tiny little needle hitting one are slim to none!
Having said all that, i know that its the uncomfortableness of having it done that sucks, not so much the pain – but Kat is right, after the first 2 or 3 you’ll get used to it. Just never look at the needle going in and you’ll be fine!
Good luck x
Post # 14
Hey! I have almost the exact same problem. I lost a ton of weight due to stress and I’ve been fighting to gain it back for about a year now. I’ve been spending time in the gym strength training and I only do cardio on the bike. It still gives me a good workout but doesn’t burn many calories. Peanut butter helped me some and increasing the number of times I eat a day. There’s a lot of good eating suggestions above. I’m hoping adding the muscle mass will help keep my weight more steady and not so easy to lose. PM me if you want to be “workout buddies”, maybe we can come up with some good ways to gain the weight we need.
I get what you mean about not feeling “lucky” lol, being underweight causes plenty of problems too.
Definitely get your thyroid checked if you think you have a problem before you TTC, it could cause complications during pregnancy, like it did with my Aunt but her doctors are keeping it under control and she’s got two beautiful healthy kids 🙂