(Closed) Anyone else turned off by The Knot?

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Post # 32
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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@Dell79:  I know this was a joke, but if anybody out there reads this thread and does find it to be a good idea… don’t do it. There was a problem about a year (maybe a year and a half ago?) where somebody started all sorts of drama between the two sites and mods had to do major snark control. 

After what happened with all the drama between the two sites in the past I don’t think this thread can come to much good…

Post # 33
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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@kmsw:  yep most definitely was, just to clear the air- I would never waste another minute of my life on TK forums unless its to tell others about weddingbee ๐Ÿ™‚ just think its funny that the girls who have been in the “not engaged yet” section of the site are the ones so quick to judge newcomers when, ehm..they have been posting on a wedding site for years and are still “not engaged yet”…okay will stop now, goodnight ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 34
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3571 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I never posted at TK, but I did join the expat boards at the The Nest and they were all super nice. I only stopped posting there because I sort of fell off the bandwagon with work and stuff. Maybe its specifically a Knot thing?

Post # 35
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I posted on the Knot for a while and found it to be lacking in any kind of comraderie and fun that is supposed to come with wedding planning.  It was disappointing to see the same few girls be the ones to put down new posters.  And Heavan forbid you report something to a mod as inappropriate….they will flame you for that hardcore.  I now only frequent that site to use the guest manager tool.  Otherwise, I’m done.

 

This site has the more community type environment I was looking for.  I don’t mind a good snark every so often.  The girls on the Bee see to recognize that posters are real people with real feelings, even if they don’t always see eye to eye on the subject.

Post # 36
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Mean Girls!!! What a great comparison.

We should go and just tell them they’re all very fetch. ๐Ÿ™‚

I actually found WeddingBee because I was looking for a forum with nice people on it, and the Knot just doesn’t have that.

Post # 37
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1463 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I’ve popped into The Knot and The Bump a wee bit and the snark doesn’t really bother me but I prefer WB for the people and the fact that the layout is so much more user friendly!

Post # 38
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871 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

The Aussie one is good – although they don’t post often the girls there have all been friendly and nice to me. Not been on the US one.

I found wedding bee by far the more inclusive board to post on! Everyone has great feedback and are genuinely nice.

Post # 39
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I personally find threads like this a bit hypocritical. Aren’t you all doing the same thing that you are accusing them of?

 

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@Americano:  I think you would be suprised to find that a lot of bees are actually knotties as well. And good job on being a better person by calling them not nice!

I have had some great experiences on the knot but I will admit that they do not validate bad behaviour which I find refreshing and is something I find frustrating on WB (the amount of bad behaviour that is validated). I have never seen anyone attack anyone on the knot (but I never frequent month or location boards).

Just because someone has a differing opinion on something on a public forum or wont validate you does not mean that they are mean or snarky.

In the same way that certain people gravitate to WB, certain people gravitate to the knot. Just the same as some people like coca cola and some like pepsi. Why waste your time bitching or worrying about something that you don’t like!

 

Post # 40
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I am TK member and post there on a regular basis. I haven’t had any experience with snarky brides in all the boards I have posted on. The ladies who I have spoken to via posts have been very nice and given me great advice when needed.

I am a HUGE fan of my city’s local board because it is very supportive, the ladies are  very nice, and we always try to help one another with wedding or non-wedding related problems (soon to-be brides and married). With the help of these ladies, I have been able to find awesome vendors for my wedding and have received great advice. Also, what I really like about our local board is the desire of other brides meeting up and getting to know one another at get togethers (all the local boards do it).

Sadly, the local board for my city on the WB lacks life and barely anyone ever goes on there for anything. I have stopped visiting it because of that very reason. As for TK, I do agree the functionality of the site can be improved massively which many TK members have already expressed the same concerns.

If anything, I would highly recommend taking a peek into your city’s board on TK. You may find some very helpful recommendations and advice from those who know your area ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 41
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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@j_jaye:  Aren’t you all doing the same thing that you are accusing them of?

Absolutely not. This is not about being a “better” person. Calling someone “not nice” is not even skimming the surface by comparison to many of the threads on TK. It is clear you are not familiar with the references being made. Many of the girls on that site are actually bullies, putting other women down, making fun of them with snarky little icons and comments and seeking ways to actually make them feel bad. I could very easily go on that site and pull some threads to post on here but I think you can do that yourself if you really want to see what I am talking about. Bullying disgusts me. Whether it be children or adult women, I will never tolerate it.

Anyway, I am done with this thread, you can play devils advocate all you want but if you, yourself have never actually read some of the threads where this happens, I can understand your defensiveness, although definitely unjustified.

Post # 42
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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@Dell79:  How can you say it is not the same thing? Are you not being critical of the way they choose to voice their opinion which clearly isn’t in breach of that sites T’s&C’s? Are you not being just as mean calling them bullies? I am sure if they were being bullies then their comments would be pulled. Does having a different opinion make them a bully?

I have read threads over there and yes I have seen some bullying/name calling but it is usually the OP who isn’t being validated! 

Post # 43
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I was part of TK and tried SO hard to stay neutral…but the girls there have a mob mentality.

I did really like my Wedding Month club until I stood up for a girl that they were all picking on…

Then one day a few of the most vile members got together an spammed numerous boards, including our month board with nonsense, personal attacks, and crude stuff…they created numerous usernames that were usualy sexually crude with sig pics to match. I’ve got a really good sense of humor, but it was all just SO childish. Then they got seriously nasty when a mod on one of the boards they “attacked” actually deleted their posts and threated banning. That was it for me. It was a waste of time navigating through all of the off-topic garbage posts.

Most of the active members there have nothing better to do with their time. They’re already married and get a kick out of criticizing new members. If you go to Snarky Brides with a snarky post, they rip you apart. If you go to Etiquette and question something, they rip you apart. They expect new members to spend a certain amount of time reading a board and getting to know how it operates before posting anything. ..

 

Ok..rant over. I obviously don’t like the place..lol

Post # 44
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

There are plenty of snarky brides on WB!

Post # 45
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I agree that you have to have a tbicker skin to post on the Knot but that’s JMO.  I do like their hairstyle and dress finder but that’s about it.

Post # 46
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

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@ticatica:  Snarky brides on WB are like nuns compared to TK lol

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