(Closed) Anyone else unsettled by RSVP No

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Do 'No' RSVP's bother you
    Yes : (58 votes)
    48 %
    No : (64 votes)
    52 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Darling Husband and I felt that way too. He said it best when he told me that the first one is heartbreaking until eventually you just shrug it off. Don’t worry too much! The people who do come will be the best ones to surround yourself with!!!

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I am not getting married until next year but I think I’m expecting some people will be busy, won’t want to travel, so unless it’s a major friend or family member I probably wouldn’t be hurt or put off by it because I guess that my expectation for what will happen.

    Post # 5
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    No, we’re at that point where all of the most important people have RSVP’d yes and we’re waiting on RSVPs from more distant relatives and friends.  Anyone who RSVPs no at this point gives us extra spending money for our honeymoon. 😉

    Post # 7
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    The only no’s that have made me sad are the relatives on FI’s side that have the money to come out to the wedding (they have more than enough money to) and say no because they couldn’t be bothered by it. There is also a mini fight going on on my Dad’s side of the family (something to do about the *very small* inheritance and how it was split evenly among the children as per my Grandmother’s wishes, despite some of my aunts/uncles feeling they deserved more) and there has been one decline due to it (uncle doesn’t want to be around the money grabbing aunt/uncle, he’s fine with my Dad) and probably another set coming in the mail soon… Cry I just wish everyone would get along for one day and be happy!

    The relatives that live cross country and don’t have much money I’m not too bothered by it.

    Post # 8
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    462 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I just sent my invitations out today, so I haven’t gotten any RSVP’s yet. But I figure every no is honeymoon money. I just hope my first RSVP is a yes =).

    Post # 9
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    3626 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    They’re not coming to my house, they’re going to my parents. My mom sends me the list everyday of who’s coming. So far, I’m not disappointed in anyone who’s not coming. I think a few long distance friends can’t come, so I’d be sad to see those written out.

    Post # 10
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    131 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I got No’s from my grandparents, aunt, cousins and it looks like my dad won’t be making the trip either… So yes, I feel a little rejected

    Post # 11
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    2657 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Im at the point where Im slightly upset that people are not sending them in. They still have about a month to let us know, but it sucks when I get only one rsvp in the mail or when I get NONE in the mail. It sucks. 

    And I cant say anything yet becuase it IS still far enough away where I would be a nutcase othering people about responding. 

    But you would think people would know by now if they would be able to come. Oh well. 

    Post # 12
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @Earlybride:  I agree, especially Out of Town guests should know by now! Ughh some people are annoying me by not sending in the RSVPs, even though they have time.

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I once read a cute article where the bride would ponder over each one, “Did I offend them?  Do they hate me?  Are they worried the wedding won’t be fun?”  I thought it was cute a nod to being human; most of us are going to have a split second, “Hmm, why did they say no?”  

    That being said, I’d love to trim our invite list down.  Since that’s not gonna happen, every “no” is saving us quite a bit of money so I’ll be just fine.  LOL

    Post # 15
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I was totally bummed when no’s started coming in that we didn’t expect, but i didn’t notice it at all on my wedding day.

    Post # 16
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @redheadem:  Exactly, especailly when a lot of them had over a year notice! lol

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