- 4 years ago
I’m bummed. I’m planning for our wedding BUUUUT a date cannot be set since I’m
waiting for my fiance, yes fiance, to have his divorce finalized.
The story is, he married her to prevent her from
being deported back to her country.
They met, he wasn’t in love with her
but the relationship went on, then went south fast ,but she ended up pregnant with twins (possibly her plan all along)
shortly after giving birth he finds out she is on the verge of being deported.
Not wanting to have her apart from their kids, he marries her and deportation is
avoided (the process was not as easy as i’ve stated) This marriage was understood by her that this is for the sake of the situation
and a divorce would soon follow; she agreed. Being the procrastinator that he can be, he
never followed through (he was never in a serious relationship to follow through, so he says)
They broke up while their kids were about two years old. 7yrs later, he and I meet.
We are perfect for each other and decide to be married…he proposed and a couple of months later drops the bomb
on me that he is married but it was for the purpose stated above. He claims he didn’t want to lose me so he didn’t mention the married-to-prevent-deportation
situation. And he was dang right, cause I would have done it! Well I freaking hated that he kept this from me but he
apologized and did all sorts of sweet things to get me to forgive him. I did eventually because well…I’m in love with him
it was either I heal from this or dump him (which I thought of plently of times) but honestly this is the only sore thumb that has
popped up in our relationship.
So he files divorce papers the uncontested version where the divorce process would take 3 months or something.
Well she did not sign the papers. Now she is using this as leverage since she seems to be bitter.
She just tells him, “Ill sign them…when I’m ready” this is what she tells him every time he bring it up.
So now he has gone through a lawyer to give the time limit allowed by law in our state for her respond.
She received the papers but he doubts that she has opened them. His lawyer sent the divorce papers
certified and it’s offical that she has it.
HEAVY SIGN, so i’m pissed that he waited so dang long to divorce this chick prior to us meeting.
She and I have never crossed paths. She seem to be argumentative and bitter based on the
conversations that they have. I believe the reason for that is she wants him to be with his girls more often
only thing is he runs his own business and works 10hr work days. He has his kids on the weekend (fri, sat, sun).
My finace hates agruing and will become silent and I think she
feeds off that. He has tried talking with her on several occassions about coming to an agreement
on what she wants from the divorce but she said NOTHING. He pays his child support and cares for
his girls so I find it really stupid of her to hold him from moving on with his life especially since he
only married her to prevent her from being deported!
We both want to be married so bad and move on with our lives, but this obstacle is depressing us.
Is it more than likely that we will not be married 2014? If the time for her to responds pass and she
still hasn’t responded what happens after that?