(Closed) Anyone else want kids soon after marriage???

posted 4 years ago in TTC
Post # 16
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1326 posts
Bumble bee

We got married in September; went on honeymoon and when we got back I stopped my birth control. We will just have to see what happens, I’m just not actively preventing it at this point. 

Post # 17
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941 posts
Busy bee

It’s not too soon at all. If you and your husband are ready then go for it. We tried immediately after marriage (and I was only 20) it took 7 months but we got there. Our oldest is 9 and I’ve never regretted timing.

Post # 18
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Honey bee

reptilelvr:  

We struggled with knowing what the right thing to do was, when we were at your stage so you are not alone in the wondering. We had friends who married at 40 and let nature take its course, not because they “really wanted kids immediately following the wedding” but simply because they didn’t meet and marry until later in life and so life picked their timeline.

Just do you. If you and your Darling Husband let nature take its course, as opposed to artificially moving her timeline, then you’ll be in good company.

Best wishes, Bee!

 

Post # 19
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313 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Wasn’t planning on, but according to a psychic that’s the way it’ll pan out lol.

 

OP , go with what feels right for you guys! Don’t worry about everyone else’s opinion. Best of luck in your baby making adventures! 

Post # 20
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629 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Nope, you’re not alone. I have a 6 year old son from a previous relationship and Hubby and I are 35/30 respectively so we were ready to start trying. We got married July 26th and I’m 9 weeks pregnant now 🙂

Post # 21
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

We will stop taking preventitive measures immediately after our October 2016 wedding.  By the time we marry, I will be 32, and he will be almost 37.   We want more than one child, so we need to get started sooner, rather than later.  

Post # 22
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Buzzing bee

We want to start trying about 6 months to year after our wedding. (Next sept). I know everyone says they want to wait and what is the rush enjoy being married, but honestly there will not be a difference in our relationship we have been together for 5 years, lived together for two. Nothing in our relationship will change (but my last name will!!!!!). I’m enjoying my relationship now and we want to start having kids! Why should I wait? 

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

reptilelvr:  Hmm your not alone.  My Darling Husband and I have been married for almost a year now.  I had wanted to TTC a few months ago but we have a few debts we want to get rid of before we start TTC.  We are hoping to start Summer 2016.  I pay off my car in Sept 2016 so that would be a few extra $$$ .  

 

 

Post # 24
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686 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

OP, if you feel ready, go for it! There is no right age to have kids. Plenty of people get pregnant (or start trying) right after they get married; others choose to wait. Some people have kids before they get married. Do what works for you.

Darling Husband and I got married in October of this year, and we want to start TTC in early 2016. I would love to have a few years to ourselves first, but I’m 37 so we want to get trying ASAP. At this point we are just waiting for me to get some medical issues sorted out, otherwise we would have started TTC on our honeymoon.  

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception / Courtyard Marriott Legacy Ballroom

Just got married in May and we had decided early on we weren’t going to do anything to prevent a pregnancy. I’m 34 (DH is 33) and we want more than one kid, so we definitely wanted a baby right away. Our baby boy is due in March 

If we’d met and gotten married in our mid- to late 20s, I probably would have waited at least a year, but anytime after turning 30, I knew I’d love to have a baby right away.

Post # 26
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Newbee

We’ve been together 8 years, and only married 3 months and I am currently pregnant…im 30 and hes 34. if we were younger, we may have waited a year or 2, but it felt right for us.

we wanted to, so we did. I say, do what feels right for you

 

Post # 27
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Sugar bee

I did and we started trying about 4 or 5 months into our marriage, but then it took 1 1/2 years to get pregnant. In the end, I was much happier having that time alone to be with my Darling Husband and bond as a family of two before becoming a family of three. I guess I just realized that there was no reason to rush and having more experiences as a couple was equally rewarding, but that’s just how I feel about it looking back…nothing wrong with doing what works best for each couple!

Post # 28
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

I am really jumping the gun here as I am not engaged yet but if all goes as planned I will ttc as soon as SO and I are married.  I am currently 31 and he is soon to be 29.

Post # 29
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697 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

No, you are absolutely not alone in this! My fiance and I will be together for 5 years next month and we want kids right after the wedding. We would start trying now if we could, but I have to be able to fit into my wedding dress lol Our wedding is at the end of May and we plan on starting to TTC at the end of March. We thought 2 months before the wedding would be good since you don’t really start showing until the second trimester. So even if I do end up getting pregnant right away, then I will still be able to fit into my dress 🙂

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

My fiance and I get married next spring 2016 an plan on trying right away, I’ll be 34 and he is 33. When we met, we knew we had met the one, we were engaged in less than 9 months and by time we’re married will just have been dating ALMOST 18 months.

On our 3rd date he asked if I wanted to get married (not to him but in general) and on 4th date he asked if I wanted kids. A few months into dating it was discussed how quick do we/I want kids, how many, etc.

We can’t wait to start trying once we’re married. In fact, we have a pre conception counseling appointment with a perinatologist next week. This summer I had some minor health issues but I have an antibody in my blood that apparently puts my baby at risk for neonatal lupus and/or heart block (i.e. could have heart issues, pacemaker, etc). We’re meeting with him to see if I need to take medicine prior to conception/while pregnant, and how we approach it.

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