(Closed) anyone else wanting to be a stay at home mom?

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m a housewife right now and I plan to be a sahm when the time comes. I get the same looks from people and I’m sure they’ll never go away, I know it’s not for everybody. I just had a conversation with my mother and she said if she could do it all over again she would have stayed home with us even if she had to live in a tiny house (just like you said). She was a workaholic and from the ages of 10-17 I saw her maybe every 2 weeks and I want to be there with my children.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m not TTC anytime soon, but my Fiance and I have talked about it a lot. If we can afford it I would love to be a stay at home mom. If it comes down to it he wouldn’t mind being a stay at home dad either.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

I agree completely with you ladies.

My SO just landed a new job last week that will make this possible for me! I am beyond proud of him 🙂

I plan to have a full time photography business (hopefully, this is the first year we are doing this part-time and we are busy!)

I truly love the idea. Raising my own children. Plus, daycare is dang expensive. My stress level will plummet because I don’t have so much housework to do after work 😉 We are simple people, we don’t need any crazy luxuries, just some land on the river, a garden, and maybe a boat and Tempur-Pedic mattress… lol.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I work from home now, so it’s not out of the realm of possibility. Ideally, I’d like to stay home with our kids at least until they’re in kindergarten (unless it’s a half-day kindergarten like both Darling Husband and I went to) or first grade. But we’ll see how things pan out once we actually have a baby. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would love to be a stay at home mom…I have a 2 1/2 year old little girl who my mom watches while I work…full time.  We are going to start trying for another baby next year and I am hoping at that point to at least be able to go down to full time. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m a sahm with an almost 2 year old.

The decision was made partly because I really didn’t want to go back to work after my maternity leave ended and because if I went back to work most of my paycheck would go into daycare. I’ve enjoyed every minute of it, but my Dirty Delete is going to daycare in August and I’m going back to work. We (DD and I) both just need to spend time with people our own ages.

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I found a comment I made on another thread once I think is relevant to my feelings on the experience of getting flack for being a Stay-At-Home Mom:

“Mothers really can’t win, can they? If they go to work, some idiots will always say they aren’t raising their own kids, and shouldn’t have had them if they weren’t going to raise them. And of course if they have behavioral problems it’s because mom wasn’t around all the time. And if a mother chooses to stay home, she’s not contributing and must be lazy. Despite the fact that her “job” is actually 24/7 save for a few naps. And every single other household responsibility ends up falling onto her shoulders because every time she asks for help she is reminded “This is what you signed up for.” There is no pay, or vacation, or sick days, or benefits. And more often than not there is a ton of financial sacrifice involved. And you somehow ending up become the resident doctor, therapist, chauffeur, chef and teacher. And you can kiss your alone time goodbye.Yup, just a stay at home mom!”

Personally I have zero regrets about raising my daughter my way, no daycare or babysitters. I’ve learned so much about her, how she thinks, how she feels about certain things, all her likes and dislikes, and I never missed a single first word, step, tooth, you name it I was there video taping. It’s not for everyone, but I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We are nowhere close to the point of having kids (I’m 23; SO is 25), but when we get to that point, I would really like to stay home if we are financially stable enough for me to do so.

My mom stayed home with my two sisters and me, and it was so nice always knowing that she was there for us. If we got sick at school, Mom could pick us up right away and nurse us back to health. We had home-cooked meals as a family every night. My memories of growing up were so much more positive having her at home, even if we didn’t have a ton of money. 

I think it’s a personal decision and no one should judge anyone else for deciding to either stay home or work. I have heard so many working moms criticize SAHM’s and so many SAHM’s criticize working moms. I think every woman has to do what’s right for her and refrain from judging others. 

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

I work from home and am not the primary income so putting in tons of hours isn’t a necessity. I’ve been able to find a happy medium =)

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would love to,but with the finances as it is now,it wont be possible.Unless he decides to get a job somewhere else.My Fiance is a mechanic,but he hates it and is tired of working on cars.So Im encouraging him to get a job somewhere else.A better paying job.Hes just not sure whats out there and if he could do the job without a college degree.What kind of good paying jobs are out there, where u dont need a college degree???

If anybody knows of one in the Milwaukee,WI area,message me.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I would LOVE to be a stay at home mom, and Fiance would love to be a stay at home dad. If finances allowed it and all things being equal, I believe I’d have to fight him for it, lol.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

That would be my dream job 🙂 I’m planning to be if we can afford it once we have a baby!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I don’t think it’s an outdated concept. I just gave my notice today. Basically after paying for daycare I would make minimum wage!

Sure we’ll miss the extra money but I still would be bringing in way less if I continued working so we decided I’d stay home.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Absolutely!  DH and I have talked about this many times and we are most definitely of the mindset that we want one of us (me) to stay at home once we start having kids.  DH is a civil engineer and we are fortunate enough to have a very good income off his salary alone, so it is definitely a possibility for us.  We love to travel and know we’ll probably have to make a few adjustments to our lifestyle but to us, it’s worth it to have one parent home with our children.  

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