(Closed) Anyone else weird about showing people your dress?

posted 8 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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3762 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Mine is going to be a big surprise hopefully.  Only my mom and bridesmaids have seen my dress (and wedding bee of course!).   It is really unique and am hoping to surprise everyone.  

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Ms. Teddy 

I agree, no one other than my mom and dad have seen it, and that is the way it is going to stay. I think there is something special about people having no idea about the dress. And heck you never know which friend or family member is on the bee, so it won’t make an appearance here either.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

i made the mistake of leaving my dress at my mom’s house, thinking it was safe there and far away from my husband. and then she showed everyone who walked into the house. literally. until i told her that i wasn’t cool with that. i understand she was just excited, but i also wanted to be a surprise. i just showed my bridal party and my grandma.

Post # 6
Hostess
4663 posts
Honey bee

I probably will be the same way when I finally get the dress…in the meantime…no worries?

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

I’m pretty weird about letting people see my dress. Only five or so people have seen it who I personally know. I definitely want it to be a surprise!

Post # 9
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271 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

This is totally me!  I showed my mum and bridesmaids…and thats it.  I think my mother-in law to be was a little upset at first, but I cant’ take any chances…I dont want any words or hints slipping in front of mr. chicken!!  Plus…its like my dirty little secret that just happens to be totally awesome!

Anyway, i’m glad to hear that other people aren’t so free about their dresses too!!

Post # 10
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Oh boy do I agree! Last year when I was trying on my beautiful dress with my bridesmaid (Sister of fiancee) in her dress, my mother in law to be took a picture of us together to send to my other bridesmaid (fiancees other sister) who lived out west.. I told her that I only wanted the bridesmaids to see it and not to show anyone else.. Then the next day, one of my friends called me and was like “ohh i love your dress!” And I was like, uhhh because I had not shown anyone it.. And she goes, well So and So(the one in the pic with me) put that pic of you and her up on Facebook! I was soooo pissed, and I called her and told her to delete it immediatly. She didn’t even apologize 🙁 Then Fiancees Mom called and told me I was being a catty bitch and who cares if people see’s it and everyone is going to see it on our wedding anyways.. I was so mad, I just wanted to cry.. Anyways, so I am a big fan of waiting for everyone to see it until the wedding..

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

As much as I would really love to keep my dress a surprise, I am really horrible about giving it away before the due date, lol. Like take my daughter’s birthday for example. We got her a Barbie guitar for her birthday (she turned 4 on the 10th of this month) and we were really going to wait until then. But I just couldn’t help it, and we gave her her present nearly 2 weeks early, lol.

It will probably be the same thing about the dress. My Fiance knows about the dress, knows that I have it picked out, but he doesn’t know what it looks like. I show him different dresses to get his opinion, but I always change my mind and say that I haven’t found it yet. A part of me wants to show him, but a part of me wants him the be suprised for when I am walking down the aisle. But I want his input just as much as my own. I suppose that is why typically the man picks the engagement ring, and the woman picks the dress. That way each person has their own rights to be surprised.

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I wasn’t going to show anyone…until I got my bridal portrait photos back. And then I was too excited to keep them to myself 🙂  No one but a few bridesmaids and my mom have seen it in person. In laws and other family members have seen it in pictures but I feel like that doesn’t give them the “full effect” of seeing it the day of the wedding on me.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

people have seen my dress – BUT not seen it on me. only a choice few (mom, Maid/Matron of Honor and a couple bridesmaids) have seen me in it 🙂

Post # 14
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268 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I can totally understand people wanting to keep their dress secret, I’m just not one of them. It’s because, of the weddings I’ve been to, where I’ve known before what the bride is wearing (even seen it on her) I’ve been blown away on the day by how amazing they looked. Where I haven’t known, there’s been so much expectation that I’ve been slightly disappointed when I saw them (especially one bride who was uber secretive – literally, wouldn’t tell us one thing – I think under duress she admitted it was ivory – and her dress was the most run of the mill dress ever. I was sooo disappointed when I saw her. A year on, I’m still disappointed by it). So I’ve been pretty happy to show people the catalogue shots, and I’ve shown my close friends (BMs and girls who were in the running for BMs) pictures of me in it. If I added it up, it’s maybe 10/12 people, and our guest list is 140, so I’m still pretty sure there’ll be oohs and aaahs on the day. 

However, I still think it’s totally reasonable to say no to people asking to see it, since it’s pretty accepted that it should be a surprise, and people should respect that. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

ooooo yeah big time weird about it, i wouldnt even let my bridesmaids bring a camera when i went to buy it…. bless my dads heart i didnt even show him yet. only ones who have seen it is my maids and mama and brother (brother is walking me down the aisle) i feel ya on this one, big time.

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