(Closed) Anyone else who had/has a placeholder e-ring?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
  • poll:

    Pretend you returned the old one

    Truth is better than a lie, just be honest

  • Post # 2
    362 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2018

    Mate! You are totally over thinking this! If anyone notices and I’m sure they will because your new ring is pretty lovely, tell them the truth…..it’s an upgrade, we always planned on doing it when we were more comfortable and now is the time! You don’t need to go into the fact it was CZ or a ‘placeholder’ you were engaged, you still are (or married?) you just upgraded like lots of other people. Enjoy your new sparkles! 

    Post # 3
    655 posts
    Busy bee

    I’m not sure about your reasoning for having a placeholder, because I didn’t see the other thread, but if it’s something you don’t want to discuss you could just make up a reason! Like…

    -oh yeah this is my REAL ring! The other one was a placeholder because this ring has some special components shipped from other countries so it took awhile for the real one to get to me! But I wanted to wear something on that hand ya know? 

    -the old one was a placeholder because I had a specific idea about the ring I wanted and it took us awhile to find a jeweler I trusted

    -the old one was a placeholder because the diamond (emerald, ruby, labradorite, whatever) for this one, my *real* ring, was an heirloom from a deceased grandparent and it had to be shipped to a jeweler from his aunt in michigan…it was a long process but I finally have my ring! 

    -the old one was a placeholder because we had to have the real ring blessed by the pope first so we shipped it off to the Vatican (lol idk I’m bored)

    – the old one was just a placeholder, this is my real one, I just lost it for a couple weeks, BOY WAS MY FIANCE PISSED. 

    Or you can simply be like, yea the other one was a placeholder but this is my real one, isn’t it nice? Idk if you have to explain really. Even if you do, I don’t think people will care that much. 🙂 Congrats on your new ring! 

    Post # 4
    743 posts
    Busy bee

    I have some CZ rings I love and sometimes wear them instead of my engagement rign, no one has ever passed comment or indicated they even noticed the change. If anyone says anything, say your other ring was a temporary placeholder until you got your real ring. I don’t think anyone is going to question you any further! Also, can we see your ring?!

    Post # 5
    1003 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2019

    Deny it. Tell them you’ve had the ring the entire time and if they press you on it guilt them for forgetting your ring. Make them think they’re losing their marbles. 

    Post # 6
    10379 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: City, State

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    catash :  This would be my approach.

    Post # 7
    356 posts
    Helper bee

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    catash :  LOL! thats awesome!

    I would just say the old ring was a family ring you were using while you waited for your custom ring to be made

    Post # 8
    2039 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I wouldn’t explain a thing,you don’t owe an explanation to them. Your ring you have now is your ring. Simply say we were shopping/looking for the perfect ring and you wore the other one until you found it.

    Post # 9
    339 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    I really can’t understand why some bees are telling you to lie? Just tell them the truth, albeit you don’t need to get into details, just tell them that that is your forever ring and the previous was a placeholder. 

    Post # 10
    357 posts
    Helper bee

    TBH I’m kind of surprised that you didn’t just tell them when they looked at the ring. To me, the most natural thing in the world would have been to say “Oh, this is just a stand-in while we wait for my real ring to come in. See? Just CZ. I can’t wait to show you the real thing when I get it!” But I think you’re over-thinking it. If anyone notices it’s different (if the size or style is different, I guarantee at least one wedding-obsessed friend will), just shrug it off and tell them that was a placeholder and this is your real ring. No need to cop to it if no one asks though, unless you want to. 

    Post # 13
    1736 posts
    Bumble bee

    I have a blue sapphire he bought me to wear. He bought it as a set for when we travel so we don’t take a risk with my personal safety over a ring. I wear it on that hand all the time, it’s a lovely present that he gave me and I’ll swap it to my right hand after. However it’s not my engagement ring, and I’ve been very clear that it’s not my engagement ring. He likes to call it the reserve ring, it’s reserving that finger for him for my engagement ring. 

    Post # 14
    710 posts
    Busy bee

    My Fi proposed to me with a cz stand in ring. It’s a pear shape 2 ct equivalent and has a pave shank. Everyone who was at the proposal thought it was real. I finally got my real engagement ring back in January and when we met up with his friends, no one noticed too. It is also a pear shape but a 3.82 ct with side baguettes. There was, however, one girl who is his best friend’s gf who pointed it out in front of everyone lol. She was like “this is the ring you proposed with?!” While pointing at my ring. FYI she was there at the proposal. And that was pretty embarrassing for me as she basically announced and asked so publicly. But that was really the only time anyone noticed/questioned my ring. 

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