Post # 1
I’m a second degree/non-traditional student currently in nursing school (2 years to go until I get my BSN.) I love the nursing field and know that it’s what I’m meant to do, but I’ve always wanted to be a SAHM/housewife. Hubby is also in school for a career change (psychology- he plans to get a masters in counseling.) Every so often I go through periods of deeply wishing I could be a homemaker even though I love the nursing field. Sometimes it makes me really sad, especially because due to hubby’s career he will be in school for the next 6 years or so which means I will be the primary breadwinner once I graduate.
Anyone else struggle with this? What helps?
Post # 2
If we ever have a kid, I would like to stay home at least the first year or two. I can’t see myself being home indefinitely though. I like being around people too much. I think I’d get depressed after a while. Living in a small town, there aren’t a ton of social groups to be involved in like mommy and me classes.
Post # 3
I have always wanted to be a sahm. I work from home though so I have a good balance I guess. But I still don’t get to focus on the house as much as I want to and stuff. Working from home has honestly just made me want to SAH more… Once we have kids we have talked about the possibility of me quitting but idt we will be able to afford it. I just don’t want to miss anything from my child’s life. I guess that is just part of life not always getting what you want 🙁
Post # 4
CFBC, I was laid-off in 2015 and loved it. I make way more than my husband but as soon as we can afford it I’m staying home.
Post # 5
Are you planning on having children? Or are you just keen to stay home and not have to work?
Post # 6
I’m a NYC high school teacher who ALWAYS wanted to teach and was so adamant about always being a strong, independent woman….well, I’m 9 months pregnant and would quit tomorrow to stay home forever if it weren’t for my pension/benefits. I do plan on taking off until next September, but I desperately want to be the class mom who goes on field trips, plans class parties, never misses a field day/Halloween parade/first day of school picture. Me and hubby are out the door by 6:15 every morning and knowing I’ll miss so much just hurts. I’d burn my Masters degree tomorrow…. it means nothing to me anymore.
Post # 7
I just wish I could be a stay at home student because I have no clue how I’m going to handle my upcoming insane schedule.
Post # 8
99% of the time, no. But whenever we start trying to figure out daycare, then yes. I think my ideal would be to work part-time.
Post # 9
xo_mrsbear : I would love to be in the financial position where I COULD be a SAHM. Not sure if I actually would be, but I’d love the option. I mean, obviously everyone has the option, it’s just a matter of what would you have to give up for it. If I could keep my current lifestyle and not HAVE to work, I’d love that. My husband feels the same way. (About himself, I mean. He wishes he could be a SAHD.)
Post # 10
Yes, and we’ve structured our life so that we can afford for me to stay home, at least while our babies are little. To me, nothing is more important than family and I’ll never be sitting on my death bed wishing I had worked one more day, or gotten another raise or whatever. It’s just not me.
If/when the kids are in school full time and I decide I need a change, we’ll reevaluate then, but for now, I’m quite happy to be at home.
Post # 11
Ugh, this bug isn’t letting me reply tag individual posters.
Thanks for the feedback so far, everyone.. for those that have asked, yes, we do plan on having children. The plan is once we are both further into our careers.. probably start trying after I’ve been in the nursing field for ~1yr or so but it depends on where hubs is with his schooling/career at that point.
Post # 12
I was a SAHM when I was in my first marriage. I would not recommend it. Everyone should maintain their skills and knowledge base in some sort of career, even if that means working part-time. I ended up divorcing my husband with 2 kids and no ability to provide luxuries for my kids like food and a roof over their head.
I was one of the lucky ones who had parents who were able to take the three of us into their home while I went back to school to get an education.
Post # 13
I work part time at a job that gives me a lot of flexibility. I’m hoping that keeping that job and using daycare on the days I work will be a good balance for me. I’d really worry about being out of the workforce for several years and then trying to get back in. Plus, we couldn’t afford for me to be a SAHM full-time anyway but I don’t think I’d really want to even if we could.
Post # 14
I’ve done it all, been a working mom, a SAHM, a P/T working mom and a work from home mom. I won’t lie, being a SAHM was incredibly fulfilling and I will always cherish that time. But it is also a great luxury, one that we were fortunate to have until our children started school. It’s also one that very few women can afford if it means dropping out of the workforce for that length of time.
My situation is unique, but most women never regain that lost ground, both professionally and financially.
Post # 15
i am a housewife and i really enjoy it. i do maintain my teaching credential in case i need to return to work though.
cosimaskye : basically, yes. that.