Post # 1
Hoo boy, I’m almost nervous writing this post. Kinda feel like I’m just asking for people to tell me I’m ridiculous. 😉
I’m a big believer in whatever makes you happy for your wedding that is within your means and brings you joy, do it. Halloween themed wedding where the bridesmaids dress like pumpkins and everyone comes in costume? AWESOME! Medieval fantasy extravaganza where you get married by a wizard and your flower girls are dressed like elves? HOW FUN! Intimate elopement? LOVELY! Chic, high-end fete a la Marie Antoinette where your appetizers are served on gold spoons and bathroom attendants dressed true to period bathe your guests’ hands in milk and honey? WONDERFUL!
So why, out of all of the things I’ve decided to do that aren’t very traditional or common, do I get a bit embarrassed when I tell people how many bridesmaids I have?
Ten. There, I said it. I have ten bridesmaids. Three sisters, a sister-in-law (soon), a cousin, and my five best friends in the whole wide world, the “newest” of which I’ve known and loved for a decade and the rest since before I had a period.
I think it’s the responses I get. “Whoa! Being really Filipino, are we?” (I actually am Filipino, and my people tend to get a lot of family involved. Not to mention that Catholics are prolific breeders.) “Couldn’t leave anyone out, huh?” “Ten? TEN?! Good God!”
I know it was the right thing for me. If you have half, or one, or none, good for you if it was the best thing for you. I’m getting married in 14 days and I’m so happy they’ll be standing next to me, even if it’s a really long row. 😉 But just to make me feel like less of a freak, anyone else having a big bridal party? How many? Have you been getting similar responses?
Post # 3
Ours might be giant..not sure. Right now wre’re at 12 in the bridal party..that might go up to 14 or even 16. It’s more huge relative to the size of our wedding…less than 50 guests including us.
We’re playing with other ideas too because we really do see it as being surrounded by the people we love. We’re actually going to have coed sides and mix up the bridesmaids and groomsmen.
Post # 4
@icetea I love the idea of mixing up sides! My SIL to be had a wedding of about 50 and nixed the wedding party altogether, and that was lovely too. We all stood in a circle during the ceremony and it felt very intimate and sweet.
Post # 5
You know what, you are totally right. I hadn’t even noticed that I cringed every time someone asked, and why should we?? I have a huge family (yes we are Catholic, but we don’t go to church all the time) and so I have a lot of cousins that I have grown up with and I could not imagine not having them as my bridesmaids. So we have 11 bridesmaids and 11 groomsmen. In addition to that, we have 1 matron of honor, 1 best man, and 1 ‘padrino’ who is my FI’s other best friend and he also happens to be married to my matron of honor.
In total we have 25 in our bridal party not counting ourselves and our parents.
I’m also happy to say that I have not had any real drama in dealing with my bridesmaids and that says a lot because I have read some horror stories with brides who only have 2 or 3 bridesmaids.
I can’t wait for the big day and our BIG bridal party!! 🙂
Post # 6
I am the same way! I want to have 9…and draw a line there.. but even at 9 it gets sticky. I dont think I can do 10…but dont want hard feelings. Who knew such an exciting could be questionable. I love my girls and want them apart. What are other unique ways to get them envolved?
Post # 7
Let’s see. I have 1 Matron of Honor, 1 Maid of Honor, 8Bridesmaid or Best Man, 1 Junior Bridesmaid or Best Man, 2 Flower girls, Fiance has 2 Bestmen, 8 Groomsmen, 1 Junior Groomsmen, 1 ring bearer, 1 bible carrier, 1 sign carrier. That brings us to a grand total of 27 total in my bridal party.
Almost forgot I have 4 Usherettes! I just couldn’t look back years from now and them not be in my pictures.
Post # 8
@BettyKnocker: I love the idea of a circle too!!