(Closed) Anyone else worried about people dying in the months just before your wedding…

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

My FI’s grandmother, we found out was very ill before our 1 year mark. I thought to myself if she passes on our wedding date, we would have to change it. She just passed on the 19th. Im still thinking about changing the whole entire month, not only because of this though. She lived to be 92 years old. Fiance is taking it pretty well but we have yet to attend the funeral. I dont think its crazy thinking. You really care about your loved ones being able to attend your special day. I have one grandparent left and she is my closest grandparent. I dont know if I would be able to even continue on with wedding plans if anything were to happen to her.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My grandmother is well into dementia, and declining. She won’t be attending, but I hope that she’ll be around to have pictures of us in her room (even if she doesn’t know who we are at this point.)

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper

I think you will drive yourself crazy if you spend your time thinking about this. This is a bunch of what if’s and you can’t spend your time wondering about what if’s!

What if god forbid one of your guests get in a fatal car accident in the nest few months?Gets fatal food poisioning? Gets struck by lightning?

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I am worried about this happening but am learning to stop worrying about what I cant change and this we cant change…

But I have to admit I did imagine some bridezilla yelling that _______ Died just ruin her weddig day… 

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Yes. 100x yes. My father died of a heart attack suddenly, and I was devasted. In July, my uncle that I was the closest to, my godfather, who told me he was going to walk me down the aisle instead of my dad committed suicide. I feel like I am planning the whole thing with a big hole in the middle. I just ordered memorial candles with their names on it. I’m afraid someone else will pass before the wedding. I just keep telling myself there’s nothing I can do about it.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

<—Yep, this girl right here!

I want my grandfather to be the officiant at our wedding. He is also a senior pastor at a church my family and I really love. I asked him during Christmas, and he agreed so as long as he is in good health to do so. Him and my grandma are sick often and sometimes I worry about them, although I know old age is old age.

P.S. I don’t have a grandpa on my mother’s side of the family, and I was able to meet my FI’s grandpa (when we were dating during high school) who died shortly afterwards. My grandpa is SO special to my sisters and I and I can’t imagine him not being there. He told my Fiance and I, after we announced our engagement, that he knew we were going to get married all along. He really loves my Fiance and is so happy to see us preparing for this great journey ahead.

It would be that much more incredible and special to have him AND my grandma (who are celebrating 50 years of marriage in June by the way, yahoo!) present. Bees, I’m worried but I know that there are so many things in life that are 100% out of my control. I have to just live, and be happy–and carry just enough hope.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@fresitachulita:  And of course, I am very sorry to hear what you’re going through. You seem like a sweet and caring person who knows how much it will mean for your elderly relatives to watch you get married–it’s a big deal and a very special occasion. I wish you the best and hope all of your loved ones will be able to witness your special day. *Hugs* 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m trying not to worry about it, but my grandfather has lung cancer. He’s been steadily declining. I’m pretty sure they wouldn’t be able to make it to the wedding anyway since it’s a 12 hour drive, but they would have been way more likely to attend if he was in good health. It makes me sad because I always imagined my grandparents at my wedding. I’m hoping he pulls through, and they’re able to make it.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I have as well Undecided I know that my grandmother, with whom I was extremely close to growing up, has dementia that is rapidly getting worse. I know that she won’t be able to make it to the wedding and that makes me sad, but I’m pretty sure that she will still be alive for our day. But I have had moments where I suddenly have this small twinge of anxiety when I think, “what if something happens to so and so.” I know that it’s irrational, but I think bc this is such a huge day for us that we tend to think of the worst.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

yes. my grandfather died last year and my first thought was “he got to see all of his grandchildren get married except me.” Ever since then I’ve worried about all of mine and SO’s elderly relatives.

Post # 13
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399 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Yes, I’m worried about a few family members. It will be beyond awful if it happens. It’s sad to think that people so close to you could miss the most important day of your life.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@fresitachulita:  Oh my! Her father committed suicide the morning of her wedding?!?! I would be absolutely devestated! Not to mention angry =/ Poor girl

Post # 16
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Blushing bee

Yes!  My wedding is 4 days away and I’m concerned about something happening to anyone (death, illness, accident, etc.).  I absolutely care far more about loved ones than I do about a wedding, but the selfish bride in me keeps thinking, “Hold on everybody – just a few more days!”. 

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