(Closed) Anyone Else Worried About Weight?

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Let me just say, I’m not pregnant but I totally understand where you’re coming from. I am totally worried about this too! I workout a little and eat pretty heatlhy, and although I know I could look a little better and a lose 10-20 pounds, I am pretty ok with how I look, but I really don’t want to be any bigger. I work with a ton of women and they are always like “oh just wait until you have kids”, or some of them are quite overweight and tell me “I used to look like you…then I had kids”. It makes me terrified (and it doesn’t help that FH has said, in not so many words, he wouldnt find me attractive if I put on much weight).

I just try to stay calm and not fear the worst. FH’s sister had a baby 8 months ago, and although she was quite slim before she got pregnant, she is just as fit, if not more so now, as she was pre baby. She had a pic on facebook of her in a BIKINI playing with her son in a wading pool like 4 months after giving birth. I hope to be so lucky!

Anyway, I have told myself that when I get pregnant I will keep working out and will keep eating well. You only need to add about 250 calories each day during pregnancy to accomodate the baby, so I will try to not let myself make excuses and say “Oh I need to eat this doughnut because I’m eating for two”. And they say breast feeding helps drop weight, so I’m definitely going to do that.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Story: I weighed 197 on our wedding day– my heaviest EVER. After the wedding, stress was over, they got my on the right thyroid meds and I started losing weight, quickly. Too Quickly. I have lost almost 40 lbs. I now weigh 159 and it’s the beginning of March. People look at me stunned asking “how do you do it? Are you eating?” When people find out I’m pregnant it’s even worse, “You can’t even be eating for yourself! How are you nourishing a baby?!” I usually try to brush these comments off because I know people don’t think about what they’re saying but it really bothers me. 

Back on topic: Of course I’m stressing about my weight. I’ve always had a pooch, even at 130lbs. but when I laid down it went away. Now, I lay down and it stays a bump, I know I’m starting to show already and we’re only 10 weeks! I’m going to be huge! I wouldn’t worry about your weight. At least you know you won’t be like my friend and gain 80 lbs. πŸ˜€ Try to look at the positives!

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I had that same issue. I gained a lot of weight before I got pregnant. I didn’t take bump pics until I was 16 weeks and I was sure it was baby, not all fat. Now that I’m 21 weeks I feel better about it b/c I know more of it is baby. I try not to worry about it too much now. There’s nothing I can do about it, I eat pretty healthy, and it just doesn’t help to worry. I figure it will be worth it in the end, and I’ll worry about it once the baby is out.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

Yep, very worried. I’m plus size, so I don’t want to gain too much. My nurse/nutritionist did give me a handout on a 2100 calorie meal plan to keep my weight stable and not go over 15lbs. It hasn’t been too hard because I haven’t been wanting food anyway. Maybe in the 3rd trimester I’ll go crazy for some food or something. I eat now, but 2nd tri seems to be the feel like yourself again, but not hungry as a hippo trimester.LOL

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@spraguebride: Ohmigosh, I feel exactly the same way!  I was very heavy for a long time and about seven years ago, I lost a bunch of weight, and have kept it off.  I have low thyroid, so I have to work extra hard to keep my weight in check – like you, I always seem to have an extra ten pounds I’d like to lose.  (Although I know in my heart, I look fine the way I am.)

And now, at eleven weeks, my abdomen is starting to…change.  And my waistline (what little I had, I’m apple shaped) is disappearing.  I emailed my mom in a panic this week: “Is this supposed to happen already?”  I’m eager for a bump, but right now, I just look like I’m getting chunky.  I’ve been pouting about it all week.

It is really hard to go from the mindset of “eat healthy, burn calories, lost weight” to “eat healthy, stay active, gain a healthy amount of weight for the baby.” I keep reminding myself that my body is doing wonderful and miraculous things right now and that’s the important part.

Plus, I totally plan on pulling a Jennifer Hudson: after the baby is born, losing all the baby weight, plus more!  Wink

Thank you for posting this!  I’m glad I’m not the only one feeling this way!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2007

I’ve actually been pleasantly surprised by what pregnancy has done to my body image. While pregnancy has been mostly a miserable experience, I’ve been lucky in that all of my weight gain (at 35 weeks I’ve gained about 20 lbs) has gone to my boobs and my belly, and I think that this is the first time in a looong time that I’m not all soft and jiggly in my midsection. The baby has stretched out all my stomach fat, so I now weirdly feel MORE comfortable baring my belly than before, and I’ve found that the longer tops I tend to wear in pregnancy are more flattering around my thigh fat too. So it might not be as bad as you fear πŸ™‚

Post # 10
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288 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I completely understand where you are coming from. Its scary now that i am pregnant, for me mostly because it is the unknown (you never know how your body will react to pregnancy). I had not been on the scale since before i was married, when i went to my first prenatal visit, i told myself i wouldnt look, but of course i did and i have gained 18 pounds in 13 months since the wedding, it doesnt sound like a lot but its enough where most of my old clothes dont fit very well. My biggest problem is sweets, so i have made myself, stop eating candy… (the hardest thing i have ever done). I am now replacing that sweet stuff with an apple and a banana, it helps the cravings.  My trouble spots are my upper arms and tummy, and it really doenst help that i feel really bloated, i am trying to do light weights on my arms to help tone them. I have also made a huge effort to eat balanced meals and snacks (thats where i eat worst, when i am so hungry i dont make good choices). My encouragement has been to be healthy for the baby.

  I am also glad that you posted this, its nice to know that there are other women out there feeling the same way.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee

I had the same concerns when I first got pregnant and if it helps I’m actually healthier now (37 weeks) than I was before the pregnancy.  Baby guilted me into a healthier lifestyle.  I was pretty religious about following the doctor’s recommendations they hand out to all pregnant women with regards to daily servings and food choices and didn’t fall into the indulgent eating for two habits.  There was just something really satisfying about being super healthy once I was responsible for someone else’s health that I hadn’t been motivated to do before.  The “is it a pooch or is she pregnant?” stage can be tough because I felt self-conscious that I just looked fat to everyone.  Once I hit the obviously a baby bump stage it got a lot easier for me.  The ironic thing is I actually feel more confident with my body now than before I was pregnant.   Though my belly gets a “wow, you must be close” reaction from people who haven’t seen me in a while, when I look in the mirror I just see a baby house, not a big belly that others may see.  I’m sure some insecurities will return once I have the baby and work to get back into non-maternity clothes, but I don’t dread it now like I did early pregnancy.  I think yours is a common worry, but I can honestly say in all of the pre-baby classes I’ve taken, I’ve thought the women in my classes looked incredible…I think we’re a lot harder on ourselves than we should be. 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I was also really worried about this until my two gfs who hae just had babies lost weight (from arms and legs) during their pregnancy. Once they gave birth they weighed less than they did at the start. I think providing you dont eat for two, you are unlikely to gain heaps of weight (u only need to eat an extra 400cal to grow a baby)

Post # 14
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2459 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I was also really worried about this until my two gfs who hae just had babies lost weight (from arms and legs) during their pregnancy. Once they gave birth they weighed less than they did at the start. I think providing you dont eat for two, you are unlikely to gain heaps of weight (u only need to eat an extra 400cal to grow a baby)

Post # 15
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172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

At 29 weeks i’ve gained 31 lbs.. yikes!! and still many weeks to go.  To answer your question…im very worried about what im going to do after i have the baby and i have 40 lbs to loose.  My last baby who is now 8 years old i gained 34 lbs the hole pregnancy and it took me almost 2 years to get back to a reasonable weight.  I was around 150 to start and it took me forever to get to that weight because of my hypothyroid condition.  Im starting to just focus on the health of my baby and try not to think about the weight until after the baby is born and hopefully healthy.   good luck and just keep your eye on the prize…. YOUR baby πŸ™‚

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