Post # 16
I was probably at my highest weight when I got married and then got pregnant last summer. It’s not an awful weight for me, but I’ve steadily put on an extra 20 pounds in the last 4 years going up at least a size. I felt pretty heavy and have enjoyed being pregnant so I don’t have to suck in my belly anymore!
A couple things:
- First, don’t listen to idiots who encourage you to indulge in snack/junk food because you are “eating for 2” or it’s the “only time you can justify it!” The more of that food you eat, the more you’ll crave it. My coworkers were the WORST and it was hard to constantly have to avoid temptation. Moderation is key. For me, not having junk in the house really helped. I had to go out of my way when I really wanted something and more than half the time I’d end up skipping it.
- Second, while the doctors can give you a guideline for weight gain, as long as you are eating healthy, your body will really determine how much it needs to gain and where. They told me to gain no more than 25 lbs. At 39+ weeks I’m at about 33-35 pounds but it’s pretty much all belly. My maternity pants are all still baggy on me. It’s not fair, but people carry baby weight differently.
- Third, do the best you can to keep up exercise from the beginning. I stopped when I was so exhausted after work during the first trimester, and never was able to get back to exercise except some walking. Netflix has a bunch of cardio and yoga that you can stream if you can’t get outside or don’t have a gym membership.
- Fourth, water, water, water! I get awful heartburn when I drink water, but I try to get as much as possible while munching tums. It REALLY helps keep your digestive tract moving, helps to limit swelling in your hands and feet and feeling bloated.
- Fifth, plan to breastfeed! It is the best calorie burner there is post-baby. And you don’t even have to diet to lose the weight! Don’t expect it to be instantaneous, as it is for some, but it really should help you lose the weight a lot faster than if you didn’t breastfeed.
- And lastly, try to remember that it takes a lot to grow another human life and that it’s a badge of honor. I don’t know how I’ll feel in a few weeks post-partum, especially at 6 weeks pp when I attend my sister’s beach wedding as a Maid/Matron of Honor in FL and have to wear a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress and a swimsuit all in the same weekend! But I hope I take it in stride and don’t get too worked up about my weight and looks.
Post # 17
Also, my midwife told me that I should only be eating an extra 200-250 calories a day but only once I was between 14-16 weeks along. You don’t have to eat extra calories right away.
Post # 18
I am so with you. I was thinking about this over the weekend and even considered posting about it.
I was overweight for a lot of my adult life. I have lost more than 100 pounds in 15 years, and within the past year I got within 5 pounds of my goal weight. I’ve never felt better and I’ve never felt healthier.
I’m 12 weeks pregnant tomorrow and so far, I’ve gained 8 lb. I’m exercising most days, and while I do get my protein and calcium and veggies, I also like my snacks, so that’s probably why I’m a tiny bit over where I should be. I feel extremely bloated, and sometimes I think I look heavier and sometimes I don’t. A girlfriend even told me over the weekend that while my face appeared to get a little too thin after losing weight, it’s looking more filled out now. No wonder. 🙂
But I’m not going to try not to allow myself to fret about it. Worrying isn’t going to do me or baby any good at all, so what’s the point?
Pass the cookies. 😉
Post # 19
@gr8tlexi: I HATE it when people say that (I used to look like you…) like you’re doomed. I think it’s ends up being about motivation. Getting/staying in shape is a huge comittment – most people who make it a priority see results, it doesn’t just happen magically.
It’s definitely freaking me out. I’ve never had any major weight gain or loss, I’ve always been within a 10lb range depending on my eating/working out. So it was really really hard for me when I started gaining weight and there was absolutely nothing I could do about it. Plus I was ready to kill anyone who talked about my weight or my “bump” before there was anything really there. I’m 100% in the normal range but my body changing is still really really hard to deal with mentally.
I’m really worried about losing it. Hopefully once the baby is born I’ll be able to get back to my regular work-outs.
Makes me sad that I’ll miss out on this year’s swim season. I’m buying a cute bikini that I saw recently just to motivate myself for next year. I’m being optimistic.
Post # 20
I completely understand where you are coming from. It’s funny because the last few months this has been a constant nab at me, and I’ve been trying for the last 3 months to take off the 10 pounds I gained AFTER the wedding with no luck. I’m not fat either but still carry that extra pudge, in the belly area and in my face a lot. I hate hate how heavy my face looks right now. My Darling Husband swears I look great and you can’t tell I gained 10 pounds, but I feel it when I look in the mirror and when I try to wear my old cloths. I’ve been living in sweats and leggings.
I too fear that when I get preggo I am going to blow up and I fear I won’t be able to take the weight off before I get preggo. I don’t have any great advice for you, I wish I did. I work out, and still no luck but my eating habits aren’t the best. I wish I had more to offer in advice.
Post # 21
Yup. The baby is due in May and I’m a little water lover, we already have a beach vacation planned for 2 months after the baby is due and I don’t want to look like I just had a baby. My weight gain’s alright but a bit goofy, little scrawny arms with extra padding in my butt and thighs. I can handle one pieces to cover the belly but I’m freaked out about the way my thighs would look right now when I want to swim. I’ve been exercising and somewhat eating alright so I’m trying to make myself believe that I’ve done what I can so far but I’m only somewhat believing it.
Post # 22
Thanks so much for all your input and advice guys! I was not in shape before….didn’t work out. Though I know I can’t go on some hard-core work-out kick….I think now is the time to start getting more active and get kind of in shape. I am going to gain weight no matter what….but maybe if I get more active I can stay on top of it before it gets out of hand.
It’s hard to know that your body is going to grow and it’s mostly out of your control. I just need to focus on eating healthy…and most importantly for me, I need to start being more active.
Post # 23
I am not pregnant yet but, one of my biggest fears besides having an unhealthy baby is my tummy. It has always been flat and toned and i am so scared of being fat because i have never been in my life. I plan on working out the whole pregnancy as long as its safe and eating healthy. And probably get a personal trainer afterwards but, i’m scared my tummy won’t go back and i am going to be disapointed on how i look after a baby. I’m scared my future hubby won’t be attracted to me anymore if i’m not as skinny as he’s used to.
Post # 24
Whatever you do, DO NOT LIVE ON HERSHEY’S CHOCOLATE SYRUP & HEALTHY CHOICE ICE CREAM!!!!! Did it and gained waaaaay more than I should’ve! LOL! It took a summer of walking around a college campus in heels (upstairs, downstairs, across campus and back) to loose the weight!
With my daughter, I ended up having gallbladder trouble the first trimester (didn’t know I was pregnant and NO ONE did a pregnancy test!) so I didn’t gain weight, but I sure did loose it. By the end of the pregnancy, I only had baby weight because I ate healthily (due to my Fiance, lol) and was wearing my normal clothes as soon as my ribs healed (don’t ask unless you want a c-section horror story).
It’s all a matter of how healthy you eat and how much you eat. If you don’t want to eat all day, I suggest chewing mint-flavored gum or candy. Like the after dinner mints (the white and red starburst candies). The mint flavor and the chewing helps to nix the hunger. As long as your eat healthy meals, you’ll be fine.
You do NOT need to eat for two, since the baby is getting all it’s nurishments from what you’re eating. It’s a myth, nothing more. Okay, it’s actually an excuse to over eat.
If you already exercise, talk to your dr. It should be safe for you to continue light exercises. (Though walking towards the end can and will bring on labor. Ever hear the phrase ‘walking the baby here’, that’s what they mean. And it works.)
And, yeah, both pregnancies, I felt like the Good Year Blimp before it was over with. My son, especially. My Fiance, however, when I was pregnant with my daughter refused to let me say it.
Post # 25
@roxy_angell13: Funny because I’ve always been thin and my husband said after I’d gained some baby weight – that I looked better. Sometimes they’ll surprise you.
Post # 26
Yep this is concerning me, I gained 15lbs with my first (9 years ago), I’m already seeing a pooch at 10 weeks. I’m a small girl 4’11” and under 100lbs, so even the slightest weight gain definetly shows on me.
I’ve had all kinds of cravings so far, and not all are good ones lol! Last week I loved our local mexican drive-through’s rice and beans! HA!
It is so freaking hard not to snack all day long! I bring lots of fruits and veggies to work to snack on that helps. Grapes, dried mango’s, grapefruit (that’s hard to eat a desk though LOL), baby carrots and ranch…
Sometimes I will go home and be so ravenously hungry that I devour dinner. Oh well it’s all part of it. I just hope to not gain more than 15lbs.
I did learn that right after delivery (still in the hospital) you’ll have tons of flab on your tummy, but breastfeeding even for a week helps. I dropped my weight fairly quickly, this time around I’ll be doing the 30 day shred afterwards so I hope it goes sooner!
Post # 27
@StbHisMrs: The recommended weight gain is between 25-35lbs.
I gained around 30 with my daughter, she was 7lbs and I dropped every ounce after she was born.
If you eat healthy, then whatever weight you gain, will be baby weight, not unhealthy hard-to-impossible to loose weight.
Post # 28
It is scary no matter what size you are! I have always weighed 100lbs and was terrified of gaining weight-which sounds stupid to a lot of people, I realize this, but whatever. I like, every other woman on the planet did not want to gain weight.
I’m now (due tomorrow!) 130lbs! It happend so gradually that I don’t even care. and also just keep in mind that the whole “eating for two” thing is kind of BS. You only need 300 extra calories a day when you are pregnant. Less than a starbucks fat free blueberry muffin! I’m not saying I didn’t eat a lot sometime, but I mostly craved fruit fruit fruit ( along with the occasional taco and cookie) Also-I’m sure you know-but the healthier you eat, the less hungry you feel. I could eat potato chips for days and be starving, but if i ate two apples for a snack the hunger went away until dinner time. And for some reason I craved bread. that is like the dumbest pregnant craving ever.
Post # 29
It is litterally my biggest fear, and I am not even pregnant yet!