(Closed) anyone else’s BMs adding more stress? vent, sorry…

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
114 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@undergradbride:  I’m not in the same situation as you, but yes, my Bridesmaids are…well, not exactly driving me nuts, but let’s just say I feel less than supported by them.  They do both live a LOONG distance away from me.  But they don’t even bother to ask me details about the wedding:  like asking how things are going, or even remarking when I send them pictures of things I’m making for the wedding.  I put together an inspiration board of pictures like my shoes, our church, my dress, their dresses, the flowergirls’ dresses, etc.  Not a peep from either of them.  So, yes, I’m very frustrated with them.  Especially since I was there for them for THEIR weddings.  So, I’m not in the same boat, but I can sympathize.  So sorry you are going through this.  🙁

Post # 5
4583 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My BMs stressed me out at first, when we were trying to all get coordinated to choose and order bridesmaid dresses. Now that that’s out of the way, I haven’t had any issues with them.

I do have a Bridesmaid or Best Man who is very opinionated but I try not to let her bother me. It’s my wedding and I’m going to do things the way I want to do them.

Good luck!

Post # 6
227 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I read the title of this post, and all I could think was “wow, where do I BEGIN?!”  I won’t bore you with details, but yes, 2 of mine are a nightmare…  =/

Could you maybe talk to the one that’s stressing you out?  Maybe she doesn’t realize she’s doing it, or maybe making things about her is her way of feeling like a part of things (I know someone that does that)…   I would try *gently* telling her that you’ve got a lot going on and that her complaining isn’t helping things.  See if there’s anything you can do to make her happier about whatever it is she’s complaining about, but if not, then let it go.  Just remember that if she’s worrying about how she looks and whatnot, that’s her deal, not yours.  Don’t take on her stress too!  =)

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