Post # 1
I’m writing under a different username, just in case.
Does anyone else have a Bridesmaid or Best Man or more that is just adding to your stress? One of my Bridesmaid or Best Man just always has something to say about EVERYTHING! I’ll admit, I do get stressed out easily, but she just has a new complaint every week! I’d like to give you more details, but I’m afraid she might look at this site. She’s just trying to make everything about her. I’ve never been one to want the attention, I’m extremely shy, but it is my wedding day, I don’t want to have to worry about how she’s doing or feeling or hear about it for that matter, I’m going to have enough on my mind. All of my BMs even said they can see her stressing out about how she looks and how nervous she is the entire day of the wedding. I hope I’m not sounding like a b****, if you knew the details, I’m sure you would agree. All of my BMs and friends are saying things to me, like I don’t know how you deal with her. She’s not married and has never been in a wedding, thats what I keep telling myself, but some of the things just seem like selfishness. My wedding is coming up soon so I have A LOT to do, so I’m already stressed and she just keeps making comments and complaints. Ugh!!
Is anyone else going through this? PLEASE share your stories and any advice!!!
Post # 3
@undergradbride: I’m not in the same situation as you, but yes, my Bridesmaids are…well, not exactly driving me nuts, but let’s just say I feel less than supported by them. They do both live a LOONG distance away from me. But they don’t even bother to ask me details about the wedding: like asking how things are going, or even remarking when I send them pictures of things I’m making for the wedding. I put together an inspiration board of pictures like my shoes, our church, my dress, their dresses, the flowergirls’ dresses, etc. Not a peep from either of them. So, yes, I’m very frustrated with them. Especially since I was there for them for THEIR weddings. So, I’m not in the same boat, but I can sympathize. So sorry you are going through this. 🙁
Post # 4
@Angelique02: aww i’m sorry none of your BMs are really supporting you =( hearing your situation, makes me realize i should be thankful that most of my BMs are making things easier and are very supportive. at least you have the bee to share your excitement and ideas about your wedding. I’ve been trying to put more things on here rather then say stuff to my BMs because I started to get the feeling they were getting tired of hearing about my wedding, which is completely understandable, but sometimes you just can’t help it, it’s all we think about =)
Post # 5
My BMs stressed me out at first, when we were trying to all get coordinated to choose and order bridesmaid dresses. Now that that’s out of the way, I haven’t had any issues with them.
I do have a Bridesmaid or Best Man who is very opinionated but I try not to let her bother me. It’s my wedding and I’m going to do things the way I want to do them.
Post # 6
I read the title of this post, and all I could think was “wow, where do I BEGIN?!” I won’t bore you with details, but yes, 2 of mine are a nightmare… =/
Could you maybe talk to the one that’s stressing you out? Maybe she doesn’t realize she’s doing it, or maybe making things about her is her way of feeling like a part of things (I know someone that does that)… I would try *gently* telling her that you’ve got a lot going on and that her complaining isn’t helping things. See if there’s anything you can do to make her happier about whatever it is she’s complaining about, but if not, then let it go. Just remember that if she’s worrying about how she looks and whatnot, that’s her deal, not yours. Don’t take on her stress too! =)