Post # 1
I know at 43 I should be used to it and not give a damn but I do finally have to admit I am sad that my father has no interest in walking me down the aisle or having a father/daughter dance. He did not even want to come to the wedding since he hates weddings and all the attention will be focused on me and I will not have time to take him sightseeing etc.
He is coming, and I am very grateful for that. He likes my Fiance and does not disapprove of my getting remarried. Also, this is nothing new, he is just not the loving, doting dad. I have never really analyzed how I felt about it but when I told my Fiance today there would be no father/daughter dance the look on his face was so pitying.
Anyone else have while not deadbeat dads, a detached father?
Post # 3
My parents upset me a bit when they told me they don’t want to speak at my wedding. It made me upset because I know FI’s parents will say amazing and touching things about him, and I felt left in the dust by my parents. They are nervous in a crowd, especially speeches and my mom in particular is really concerned about crying (which I told her everyone will already be crying so who cares, and shes mother of the bride, it’s NORMAL for her to cry). After I talked to them about how much it would mean to me and that even I don’t want to speak at my wedding, but you get over it and do it.. they have now reconsidered.
Maybe your dad will come around if you tell him how much it upsets you?
Post # 4
@MrsSawyer: LOL no he wouldn’t he is just not that kind of person. Him actually attending was the biggest concession I will get. Best just to take a deep breath and be grateful that I am marrying a wonderful man who is an incredible stepdad and will be so proud to walk my daughter down the aisle someday and dance with her.
Post # 5
Fiance feels the way that you do, so if there is something that your Fiance could say or do to make it better, let me know. His Dad won’t be there, like at all, because his 10 year old brother had a baseball tournament.
Post # 6
my dad is super conservative and religious…soo Im not gonna even ask for a slow dance