Post # 1
My family is complicated – but I’ll make it as simple as possible. My dad’s side of the family (my parents are divorced) are very opinionated and, I hate to say this, stuck up. They have something to say about everything and everyone (unless THEY approve of you, and even then, at some point in time they will talk about you behind your back).
Needless to say, that half of my family is less-than-thrilled about my relationship with a construction worker with tattoos and a past. Now, let me say that he has cleaned up his act and is not a bad guy – one of the best ever, actually – but he comes across as an extreme kind of guy and they can’t seem to accept him at all.
Am I alone in this, or are others suffering my pain?!
Post # 3
After we told my FH parent’s we were getting married we spent the next hour discussing on how that would affect his brother (currently living with him). His brother refuses to move out of the house. His mom still makes things difficult for me. I’ve been asking for a guest list from her for 4 months. I received an incomplete one 2 months ago. She also went on a tantrum saying that it is not the best time to be getting married and makes us feel like we are inconveiniencing the family. It’s really frustrating.
Post # 4
My fiancee and I are in a similar situation, however his family are the stuck up ones and I’m the tattooed one! It’s really difficult not to let your family and your fiancee’s opinions affect you, because of course you want everyone to love him as much as you two love each other. However, you just have to remind yourself that YOU are getting married! This is the time that it’s okay to be a little bit self oriented! It’s all about you guys. Plus, you cannot control what the people around you say or do. Just be yourselves in the most respectful way possible and I’m sure that they will come around. You can’t drive yourself nuts trying to make everyone else happy, because then you will forget to make yourself happy. And what’s the worst case scenario? They don’t come around? Just learn to let it be when you can! It’s your life!