(Closed) Anyone else's FH involved with choosing wedding colors?

posted 6 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Why is it odd it’s his wedding and he has a right to give his opinion because its both of your days. My Fi doesn’t want certain colors like pink either. Ignore your friends and work on agreeing on colors both you like, in fact it’s good practice in communication and comprimise that will happen during married life! Good luck!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

my Fiance picked our colors. i didn’t really care what they were. his fave color is green, mine is blue and he picked gray too. 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

Darling Husband was involved with ALL the important parts of decision-making.  He made the final decision that our main color would be purple and not red.  He was definitely involved because it was his wedding, too.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I’m with TwoCityBride.  Your Fiance should be helping with all aspects of wedding planning, it seems strange to me that you don’t want him to, and even stranger that your friends are backing you up on that.  Ignore your friends.  It’s his day too, no matter what you may have heard to the contrary, your wedding day is not all about you (the bride).  It’s about your Fiance too, and for most people, the wedding is also about family and friends.  Please listen to and respect your FI’s desires with colors, and other things wedding related, and try not to get upset with him for wanting to help.  Most brides would be over the moon with joy to have their Fiance be more active in the planning process.  Remember how lucky you are and that this day is about both of you and that will make things much easier. 🙂

ETA: My Fiance has been invlolved with every aspect of wedding planning so far, even the little things and I’m so glad he is. 🙂

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I second @TwoCityBride: It’s just as much his wedding as yours, so he should have a say. Our colors are blue and green, his favorite color and mine. 

That said, this website could be a great way to help convince him of your side because it’s so visual with actual examples of how your wedding details might look together: http://www.theperfectpalette.com/  Good luck!

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

With my ex, nah, he didn’t care about that kind of stuff at all. I was free to do whatever.

This time, we eloped, so it was a non-issue. Though I know he wouldn’t have cared one way or the other either.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I don’t think it’s odd at all.  My husband was involved in all of the details of our wedding.  He helped chose the flowers, colors and did the invitations and programs with just a little input from me.

He was very specific about no pink, and I can’t really blame him for not wanting to wear a pink tie or vest etc.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Echoing PPs, its his wedding too. Also, the colors you picked are very nice, but very feminine. He may feel out of place with that palette, like your wedding doesn’t represent him at all.

My husband was very relieved I wanted a neutral palette. He had been in weddings where he had to wear pink or orange and HATED it!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

YES!  With my Fiance and his mother, EVERYTHING is red.  Like this lady only wears red, black and white.  So guess what my colors are! Red, black and white.  Luckily I was able to throw in silver, instead of gold or I’d have a wedding that looked like the Maryland state flag.

We are down playing the red during the ceremony and the reception, but everything in the cocktail hour is going to be red to make them happy.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I picked out three color palettes, and he chose the one he liked.
This is how we reach most agreements: from where to eat dinner, to which song to dance to. Sometimes he picks three and I pick one, but either way, we both have a say 🙂

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yeah…he should be involved if he wants to be. That’s not weird at all. I chose our colors, keeping in mind that I know that Fiance doesn’t want a lot of pink. He was fine with my choice (greys, blush pink, metallic champagne, with whites and blacks) as long as pink wasn’t overwhelming (which I knew).

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Fiance was very involved with picking colors. I picked the first one because its our favorite color (red) and he had no problem with that. I wanted to pair it with aqua, but he thought that was too modern. We settled on a deep teal, which I love (and he is tolerating).  He is mostly just glad that I included red and chose colors that he feels like fit with the venue. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Mine completely chose the colors, as well as the dress for the groomsmaid (I have a bridesman). 

It’s his wedding too. If he doesn’t like the colors, you should work out something that you both like.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

he claims hes not, but he absolutely is (as he should be!)

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