Post # 1
My Fiance is driving me nuts! One minute he says; “Yes, book it!” Then literally a minute later he starts muttering some thing about why we shouldn’t book it just yet. He is making me insane. I have asked him if he is sure he wants to marry me and if his doubts are about me. He assures me that he does want to marry me. But it seems as though he wants everything in our life to be perfect first. That is just unrealistic. Also, today he threw something in about me not going out enough when he KNOWS the reason is cause of our financial situation. Are these just normal worries/doubts or is this something more??
Anyone else been through/going through something similar? Please tell me it is not just me.
Thanks for reading!
Post # 3
It is most definately not you. Fiance and I talked about getting engaged on a regular basis for 6 months before it happened… Now we are having a 2 year engagement… Men are just kinda like that. My fi also wants everything to be perfect even though that isn’t realistic. Talk to him about it (in a nice way) a time or two and let him see your side of things…
Post # 4
I’ve been engaged since new years day, my Fiance still hasn’t asked his groomsmen. UGH! He knows who they are, but just hasn’t asked them. I tell myself “Don’t start your marriage out by nagging your Fiance for 2 years.” It’s hard. lol
Post # 5
FH isnt dragging his feet about the ceremony, but the home town reception he is a pain. He just wanted me to keep all the money from my parents.
Post # 6
Thanks for posting. My Fiance keeps giving me lame excuses.. I am really thinking he just doesn’t want to go through with it. I know he loves me, but his expectations of how a relationship should be just seem unrealistic to me.. this just goes to show how people change over the years.
Post # 7
@spitfire229: I’m in the same situation — I’ve been engaged since July 2009 and my Fiance still hasn’t even picked his groomsmen, let alone ask them!
OP, you are not alone! It is a crappy feeling. I am sure that our fiances do ultimately want to marry us, but I do think that all the heel dragging is a passive aggressive way to postpone it until absolutely necessary. Like once we put out deposits, we’re locked in!