- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
in the whole event? I don’t mean that he doesn’t want to get married. It’s just that he hates the wedding industrial complex and thinks it’s foolish to throw away money on these things. We’re already having a more “complicated” wedding than he originally wanted.
Backstory: He wanted a small wedding (with immediate family members only) in his hometown since he didn’t want to make it a big deal. We thought we might do that, and then his parents would hold a reception the next day for all the relatives we didn’t invite. But his parents didn’t want it that way. So we managed to find good, inexpensive venues to hold the ceremony and reception (I think it’ll cost us an average of about $75 pp, which is unheard of in his town).
Now we have a 60 person guestlist, which is not that large. We’re already not doing a lot of things–no bachelor/bachelorette parties, no dj or dance floor, no guestbook, no favors, no menu cards or assigned seating, no garter toss, etc. We did electronic invitations (paperlesspost). I’m getting a moissanite ring. It took us forever to find a ring for him, and it’s probably going to be a $20 titanium ring from Overstock.com.
Yes, I know that material things don’t matter, it’s the marriage that matters, blah blah blah. But this is a once in a lifetime (I hope!) event, so I would love to do it nicely and not skimp out on the details that make it pretty and fun, even if we’re on a budget. But he just doesn’t care. I know most guys don’t care about these types of things, but it would be nice if fiance actually thought and planned out these things in advance. And got me an e-ring further in advance than 1 month before the wedding. Sigh.