Post # 1
when i started dating my fiancee i was going through a divorce and i lost my job (so coundlt get a lawyer to get spousal support). i had no money to pay my bills and i had to move back in with my parents who were starting their process of foreclosing their house due to thousands of dollars loss on their value and a cut in pay from my dad switching jobs. i didnt want my parents to have to worry about giving us money to help with the wedding because they are stressing enough as it is with money. i have $2300 in debt and wanting to get it paid off asap so most of my pay checks go to that.
about 3 months ago we found out fiances dad has cancer and they are only give him 6-9 months to live. they are not able to do surgery due to the size of the cancer. they decided to start chemo to try to shrink it to hopefully add on some more life to him. Now their bills are racking up so they are not able to help with the wedding.
so i guess what im wondering is if anyone elses fiance is the one paying for the wedding? yes iv bought some things here and there but he has paid for pretty much everything else. and in a way i feel lucky he is such a sweetheart to give me my dream wedding since my first wedding wasnt a wedding at all due to him being in the military and deploying it was pretty much a court wedding. but then again i just feel really bad because he could careless about the decorations and cake and food.
how i love my sammy poo bear.
Post # 3
Yep, my Fiance is paying for our wedding pretgty much by himself. My grandparents bought a few things here and there but that’s about it… I have no money cause I lost my job in August and neither of our parentsd have much money so he’s on his own… =/ Were only spending about $5000 on the wedding and $2000 on the honeymoon but the rings were $4000 and he’s in dept now for the 1st time in his life… he told me it’s part of growing up because if it wasn’t this it would be a house or car he had to pay off… I admire his ability to see the bright side of dept. lol
I think as my gift to him I’ll be paying for the honeymoon when my tax return comes… he does so much for me.
Post # 4
i wish i got a good tax return so i could have contributed to something more. my return was only $300 and that went towards his wedding band…
we did get lucky on my ring because he was engaged previously and called the wedding off and i had my ring from my previous marriage so we traded those in and got a good deal!
Post # 5
We are doing a lot of the wedding ourselves. each parents helped toward a certain thing. Then we took on the rest. Also, as my maid of honor it 14 (my sister) he gave us cash to have the bridal shower.
Post # 6
My FH is paying for the majority of the reception. I paid a tiny bit, but it’s like 10% vs. his 90%. I paid for my dress, photographer, ceremony site, any decorations for reception site and favors.
Post # 7
Yep, my fiance is pretty much paying for the wedding too.. Like you, I’ve bought things here and there and I plan on continuing to do so up until the wedding day, and my parents are offering a lot of help too, but he’s taking care of a lot of the big things, mostly because he’s deployed right now and is making a comparatively large paycheck next to my own, and is able to hold onto most of it because he doesn’t have to worry about a lot of his bills..
Post # 8
Mine is paying the majority. We have some help from our parents, I’ve bought a few small items, but he is paying for all the big things.
Post # 9
Yea, Fiance is paying for it. I don’t have a job (I am a SAHM) so I can’t halp him much.
Post # 10
No offense, but whats the issue if you or he pays? As soon as the wedding is over it’s going to be joint assets, right?
Post # 11
my fiance’s fiancee is paying for the wedding.
Post # 12
Yup my fiance is paying for the majority of our wedding. Our parents are helping here and there but alot will still come out of his pocket. I am a full time university student and have a full time job so my money goes to tuition and our rent, groceries (paid for my replica dress and a few small items)… so I do the necessities and he pays for the wedding he always wanted … I wanted to elope 😉
Post # 13
He’s paying for a huge chunk of it for sure and he should considering what he makes!
Post # 14
same thing, Fiance makes more than 2x what I do, so he is paying. but I have paid for a few things here and there, including my own wedding bands. also, my Fiance talked me into a much fancier wedding than I would have chosen.
my FI’s parents are chipping in a chunk and I wish they wouldn’t do it. it makes me feel really weird, we’re past the age of 30 and we don’t want them to use their hard earned money on us!
Post # 15
Yes. We say “we’re” paying for it…but lets be real. He’s the one saving for the wedding while I’m still paying off debt!
Similarly, my parents always planned to throw me a wedding, but my father passed away from cancer two years ago and my mother’s finances are a lot tighter now. She will help, but only in small ways.
I felt really guilty about it at first, but I’m the one in the relationship that owns my own home. So while he’ll shell out money upfront for our wedding, I have equity worth more than that which will help us get our first home.
What’s his is mine, and vice versa, right?
Post # 16
My guy is paying for about 80% of our wedding. My parents gave us a small amount to put towards it, but the rest is up to us. Considering he makes more then twice what I do, I don’t feel bad. How can I? I don’t have it… Plus, my dad gave him my grandmother’s ring to propose with, so that helped him out A LOT. What it comes down to is that it’s OUR special day, and he’s giving me all I’ve ever dreamed of. Isn’t that how it should be?!? 🙂