(Closed) Anyone else's FMIL trying to wear white?

posted 9 years ago in Family
Post # 47
12 posts
  • Wedding: February 2013

I recently went to a coworker’s wedding (not the same as my previous thread).  A repeat  *very casual* wedding, both bride and groom are older with grown children.  His son, DIL, SIL and grandkids were all coordinated in the wedding colors (red, white, and black) looking very nice.  The grandsons especially, all teens, all in black pants, red or white shirts, and black ties.

Groom’s daughter on the other hand, wore a long, lacy gown, sort of pale champagne colored.  Looking very bridal, very strange and out of place.  Comments were about her inappropriateness.

As hard as it is, if she wants to look like a fool, let her.  Otherwise she’ll probably hold it over you for years.

Post # 48
28 posts
  • Wedding: September 2013


it’s tough to know exactly how to handle this, since it does sound like it’s the drama that she’s aiming for, so you pushing back is just encouragement for her. I guess just be as non-dramatic as possible with your refusals, like responding with a chipper “nope!  not gonna happen.  let me know when you’ve found an appropriate dress! byeeeee!”


Post # 49
250 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Hell no! The only person who wears white / ivory is you. I hate it when people do that, I think it’s disrespectful. Having said that, someone wore white I my wedding and I didn’t even notice until well into the evening

Post # 50
744 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I would be ANGRY if anyone else worse white/ivory to my wedding.

That being said, if she KNOWS you don’t want her to wear the 10 year old ivory dress to your wedding.. what else can you do short of stealing it prewedding and burning it.

She is the one who will look foolish on your big day in all your photos and everyone will wonder why in the world she chose that dress.

You could always do the red wine trick.. (I’ve never done it to someone but some of my catty friends have) you ‘accidently’ spill redwine on her outfit. So bad.

Post # 51
2478 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

You still have 6 months. If she brings up the bridal suite thing again lay it out that NO ONE wearing white or Ivory other then THE BRIDE will be allowed. Put your foot down about it for real. Lets just pretend everything that happened before was just talk. Its the last 6 months. This thang is happening… your paying. Your rules. You can even lay it out for her that way. If she starts acting any kind of way you should just smile at her and alert her to the MATURE (sarcasm) way she is acting.

I am not a fan of the Bridezilla but everything has its place. And white or ivory has no place with the MOG. 

This is straight out of Monster in Law…

Post # 52
592 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

You can’t order an adult what to wear… she’s a grown up, she can make her own decisions. Sure it’s in bad taste to wear white to a wedding if you’re not the bride, but really, nobody is going to care on the day. Hell, you wont even care. Nobody will be paying attention to her, all eyes will be on you. It’s not worth the fight.

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