(Closed) Anyone else’s husband driving them crazy?

posted 10 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Mine does at times too.  If he is working on something, he gets really grouchy if I interrupt him even to just say hi.  Have to remember to work around his kinks.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

I think it is totally normal to have kinks like this to work out, as maybe this is normal behavior in his family.  I would let it go for tomorrow, as it might catch him off guard, but can you wait until the weekend to bring it up and ask that you have one dedicated pair that only you use?  I’ve found it is better to start w/ something like “I know we share everything now, but it would really make me happy if..”  X Y Z

Good luck!

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

You think thats rough!!! Try living with your Fiance, 4 yr old son and a male roomate!!!!! MAN! I love um all but they drive me up the frickin wallll!!!! And its just the weird little things they do.Like taking the Toilet paper off the wall holder “cuz it’s to far back to reach it!” Like come on! I think its just a gene that boys have or something. The “annoy the girls” gene LOL!!!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

My husband drives me crazy sometimes, but we’ve also been living together for four years now … there will always kinks to be worked out ๐Ÿ™‚

But we’re pretty open about things. If one of us does something the other doesn’t like, we say so, but nicely. Like the other day, my husband tells me, “It really bothers me when you leave dishes on the edge of the counter. It’s an OCD thing. Can you just make sure they’re in the sink, or far from the edge?” So now I do! One less thing to annoy him. I didn’t even know I was doing it.

Always talk it out in a non-confrontational way and it’ll work out.

 

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Ahhhhh, this is why I always recommend living together before marriage ;o)

Anyway, yep, this is ALL the normal stuff you have to work out to get used to living together.  Fiance used to do ten times this crap and it drove me nuts.  Some things you do probably drive him nuts too and you don’t even notice it.

Just be patient and keep in mind that it’s going to take time.  Maybe a lot of time.   For us, it was about a year.  And he still does stuff that bugs me…hahaha.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

Haha! I love this conversation. I always hear Monica from Friends in my head crying, “I have to live with a BOYYYYYYYYYYY!””

It’s mostly the little stuff that gets to me — he takes a plate out & leaves the cabinet door open & he leaves the shower curtain open too, he leaves a trail of clothes on the floor like a kid, never makes the bed, leaves every light on in every room he walks into… boys are messy.

But I’m sure he’s got a list just as long about me.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

hehe.  Some of the toughest, and yet funniets moments of our marriage so far.  i think I annoy him a lot more tha nhe annoys me.  He likes to keep things clean, but not organized, and I like to keep things neat, but don’t always dust/wash/scrub.

It’s a little give and a little take, so when I get really annoyed with him about things, I try to remember that I left the garage door open and have had a crafting project on the kitchen table for three days.

It helps me calm down a bit. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’ve been living with my boyfriend for 3 years and there are so many things that drive me insane! He leaves his used socks everywhere! He puts empty beer boxes in the trash can and then starts stacking things around it because “there’s no room”. He gets on the computer in the middle of the night when I’m trying to sleep… it wakes me up EVERY time but he still does it. (the computer is in our room) There is no organization whatsoever to loading the dishes. He just puts them whereever and then when I ask why there are so many left over dishes he replies “there’s no room”. Grr.

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Hahahaa!!!MIDNIGHT mine does the same thing with the beer boxes!!! I even showed him once how to like break the box down and put it on the side and still doesn’t! His answer was that we just need a bigger garbage can!! uuugh!Boys!

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

HaHa! He drives me crazy everyday ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009 - Ceremony: The Kraine Theatre, Reception: Midtown Loft & Terrace

Oh yeah. We’ve been living together for 2 years and some of his little habits still drive me crazy. But then I’m reminded of something he used to do that I found really irritating and that he stopped doing just because I asked him and I’m all like, “aww, that was so sweet of him to make that change for me.” Your relationship and how you live together is always a work in progress I think, but it helps to remember the positive change ๐Ÿ™‚

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