(Closed) Mom being "momzilla"

posted 4 years ago in Family
Post # 2
16 posts
  • Wedding: September 2016

I feel for you! My mom is kind of the same way…..but she is not really wanting to be involved with wedding stuff and we have some other drama going on between us….

Have you tried talking to her? I know with moms like that it just one ear and it goes out the other. I would maybe try pursuading her by telling her what she wants to hear……like giving her a taste of her own medicine. For example: Tell her yoiu are SO excited for the wedding but also tell her that you want her to look her absolute best…..NOT only is it a BIG day for you (bride) but ALSO for MOM ;). Tell her that she has to look the most sophisticated and elegant BECAUSE SHE is the Mother of the bride! and try showing pictures of what YOU want but convince her that she would look the best in that because THAT IS the most elegant and will make her stand out the most….catch my drift?

Post # 3
2851 posts
Sugar bee

I’m sorry, Bee, that’s awful. I think your mom is being extremely selfish and from what you’ve posted, I agree your mom is competing with you. I remember the MOB dress she had picked and it looked very bridal to me. It sounds very hurtful that she is unable to let the spotlight be on you on your wedding day, which is what EVERY bride deserves. I dont think it will change anything, and she’ll probably try to downplay her actions, but I do think you should tell her honestly how you feel. Even if it doesn’t change anything, at least you don’t have to let it fester.  

Post # 5
10110 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

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Well I am glad you got her sorted over the dress, sounded  pretty awful from the ‘look at me, I could be the bride’  angle. I’d let the hair  thing go actually , she won’t look look just  like you , she’ll  look just like you , only 30 years older .

If she is striving for the spotlight,  and she probably is or will be, then nothing you do can help that , and opposition almost certainly will make it worse. Suggestion as to how she should  look won’t go down well either  (actually , I’d be a tad miffed myself  if I was sent a picture of how I was supposed to look even if it was phrased as ‘ you’d look great  like this)

Let it  go OP  , she is your mum when all is said and done .

You are going to look wonderful and she is  going to look like  ” a lady  whom time hath surprised ” as I believe Raleigh  is supposed to have said about Elizabeth the 1st.


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