Post # 1
Would anyone else’s Mom do something like this?
My Mom and I live in different states. She and my brothers are coming to visit Fiance and me for the holidays. She was supposed to arrive at 2:00 this afternoon. It’s currently 8:00 and I received a text from her “change of plans, arriving at 9:30.” I promise I really do love my Mom, but Fiance had planned to ya know, clean out the car a little, straighten the 2nd bedroom that’s filled to the brim with wedding stuff, vaccuum…. I really love my Mom, but I really would have liked the additional 5 hours to clean up… And yes I realize this is my fault for not doing so earlier. Do finals and baking for the Hope Lodge patients count as reasonable excuses? I’m sorry, just a little frazzled here…
Post # 3
I would be a bit surprised, too. I definitely think she should have told you more than an hour and a half in advance, it’s just the polite thing to do when plans change.
I hope you managed to do all the major cleaning/tidying up you wanted to do.
Post # 4
I would rather have that than what happened to me at Thanksgiving. My parents were driving down (7 hours) on Thanksgiving Day. We were planning on them arriving at 3:00 and eating dinner around 5:30. I also had friends coming over to eat. After I got the turkey in the oven (around noon) I get a text that they were running 2 hours late because they stopped at the casino. Yes, they would rather gamble. I had to call my friends and tell them the change of plans…
Post # 5
Definitely the sort of thing my mum would do. And like you, I leave tidying to the last minute, but always because I’ve found something more important/interesting to do. 🙂
Post # 6
@SnowflakeDS:Thanks so much, I think we managed to get it all done!
@Sunflower–girl:Eeeeep! I am so sorry, I’m sure they were thrilled to eat your delicious dinner, though 🙂
Thanks for responding ladies, I really appreciate it!
Post # 7
@colli459: Your mom seems like a ball of fun but not aware/ considerate of time. My mom is not this way at all. However, she is your mom and you have to learn to plan around her little distactions. If you want her there at a cetain time you may have to fudge the truth and tell her an earlier time or keep tabs on her to make sure she has left the house and check her location during the commute. If that does not work I will talk to her and tell her how rude it is to be 7 hours late without prior notice.
Post # 8
My mom is the opposite – ALWAYS late. If she promises me 9am, I won’t see her until noon. I’ve gotten into the habit of giving her a time an hour or even two hours before I want her to be somewhere to ensure that it happens relatively on time. Either way, too early or too late, it sucks. I don’t understand why people can’t just be punctual – if you agree on a time, especially when visiting someone’s home, you stick to that OR you call well enough ahead and ask if it’d be all right to move the time up. Don’t just assume.
Ugh, one of my biggest pet peeves!
Post # 9
Yep, my mom (and the rest of my mom’s family, come to think of it) are perpetually arriving before they said they would. If I invite them for dinner, I can fully expect them to show up at least 30 minutes early. Then they start squawking about “Well, I came early to help, what can I do to help?” And I’m thinking, “You can leave and come back when I asked you to get here!” Seriously, I don’t like to have most people help me in the kitchen; I’m pretty picky about how things are done, and most of the time I just like to do it myself.
In your situation, what I would do is just carry on cleaning on your previous schedule. If your mom gets there when things are still being cleaned, that’s not your fault. Maybe she can even help you tidy up. Then in the future, maybe she’ll learn to stick to the original schedule…or not. 🙂
P.S. The flipside of my mom’s over-punctuality is that if I do not arrive at her house five minutes BEFORE she asked me to be there, she’ll start calling my cell phone and saying, “Where are you? I thought you were going to be here at 5.” Um yeah, it’s 4:55 right now, so…I’m on my way there. Drives me up the wall. I finally just stopped answering when she calls me in those situations. 😛