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For those of you who haven’t been following my posts, my SO brought up wanting to elope within the next month or so. This may seem sudden to some people, but he’s just spontaneous like that; it’s expected from him. Anyways, there hasn’t been an official proposal yet, so there’s no engagement ring. As much as I wish I had one, you bees are right. It’s silly to hold off on marrying my guy when we can always buy one next year when we have money after taxes or something, especially when we have kids together.
Anyways, I’m sure some of you must have been in a similar situation where you may not have been able to afford the ring of your dreams when you and your SO decided you couldn’t wait any longer to be married. I’m just wondering what you did at the ceremony. Did you buy a stand in set or a plain band? Maybe you bought a band and later matched an e-ring to it? OR no rings at all?? The only thing that would bother me about having a temporary wedding band is that when I replace it, it won’t be the ring used for our vows.
Any chance a store would sell just the band of a set and let you finance the e-ring? Just a wild idea…
I’ve thought of wearing a plain band just with my promise ring. That would look okay I think for a temporary fix. I’d be fine too with a CZ set, except for SO likes yellow gold, and I’d want to match his. I don’t think CZs get set in yellow gold very often because I can’t seem to find any. Then again, I may not know where to look. Okay, rambling here… This is the promise ring I currently have:
Post # 3
Just get a beautiful wedding eternity band. A lot of women only wear their wedding rings after getting married!
Post # 4
I was married without an ering and we ended up buying a CZ band. For a minute I had a berricle wedding set before we got my ering. Do whatever makes you happy but if I had to do it over again I’d stick with the berricle set until we could afford the ring of my dreams…which is what I have now.
Post # 5
I told my boyfriend I would totally be ok with skipping the e ring but he really wants to have a traditional proposal. I’m not going to fight him on it since it’s his engagement/wedding too, but it would be cool to be able to a) get married sooner and b) use the e ring money he’s saving toward the wedding or honeymoon.
Post # 6
I married the love of my life without an e-ring. (Bought it later) We bought plain white gold wedding bands to start out with. I still have my original band plus, now, I have a diamond channel set band, a beautiful diamond milgrain band, and a rose gold band. I love to stack them and switch them around. I love having more than one band.
Post # 7
@southern_sweetheart91: I would recommend what I did. When we got engaged and had no money, we found a beautiful ring in a pawn shop with a very small diamond. You can always upgrade later!
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You could buy a less expensive band right now and upgrade later. You could always wear your original band on your right hand after you upgrade.
Post # 10
@southern_sweetheart91: You are in the EXACT situation I was in a month ago! No E-ring, but we decided to elope. We discussed buying a “stand in” — at length. I was all for a cheap set, but my FI didn’t like them because he thought the ones I picked out looked too cheap (he didn’t want silver, didn’t like the idea of CZ even though I’m pretty sure he couldn’t tell the difference) …and so our budget just kept getting bigger.
I decided to put the “stand in” money toward a wedding band. This one. If you can’t link, it’s a rose gold eternity band (14k, .53 carats). It was actually under our budget, so we had a bit more to spend on making our elopement a little nicer. I like stacked rings and I don’t mind the gap, so I can wear it with whatever ring we end up getting… and we DO plan to buy an engagement ring for me later this year. For now, I’m wearing my grandmother’s engagement ring, but the eternity band is gorgeous on its own.
So, my advice… put the money toward the band you love, and save up for the ring you want. Unless you can finagle an awesome future RHR out of the deal. 😉 I was just worried I’d end up with my “stand in” as my e-ring for the rest of my life, lol.