Post # 1
His ex wife is saying she is trying to talk to him (he misses her,been thinking of her, etc…), he says it.s not true. She has had screenshots as proof, but he says that that was not him talking to her. He confronted her about that (I didn’t see the ex change) and she retreated. There is not a sure way of knowing, but the ex wife lives out of state on the west coast and we live on the east coast. I have been told by his family that she is known for starting drama. Although this may be true, my boyfriend never told me she had been trying to contact him in the recent past so it makes me a little skeptical about believing him. Me and her have gotten into it at least three times and I confronted him and let him know that he should have handled her and set clear boundaries from the get go. He feels that he is to be absolved of any guilt but that is where I believe my bf was wrong. He says ignoring her is the best way because she loves to start drama (confirmed by his family members as well) but at the same time, it sure doesn’t make me feel secure!
This has had an significant impact on our relationship and there is a weird vibe between us now. Boyfriend or Best Friend wants to move forward and so do I but I am finding it really hard to let go of the possibility he could be talking to her. When he confronted her about trying to start mess, she got very angry. She tried to say to me that I don’t actually have him after all that if she wanted to be with him again then she could because she was married to him first. I didn’t respond to her attack. I believe him because he spends everyday with me, me and his mom spend at least two Saturday’s out of the month together, and the rest of his family is very welcoming to me. I still hurt when the thought crosses my mind though because I am his first relationship since his divorce. How can I better deal with her? I have blocked her from social media and he told me that he will better communicate with me when something like that arises. We keep saying that we are “moving on” but the vibe between us is really funky and I know that it will take sometime. I love him but I don’t think that my relationship is strong as I had imagined.
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Until she tires of bothering her ex husband (your BF), you’re going to have to deal with having 3 people in your relationship. If she lives out of state how does she keep getting in contact with you and your BF? Make sure you both have her fully blocked from Facebook, change your phone numbers and let friends and family know you don’t want them to give out your new numbers, block her email and delete anything she sends before reading it. I would assume that he divorced her for a reason and if she is all stalkerish, it’s probably because he initiated the divorce and she hasn’t coped with it or want to ruin him and any relationship he gets in.
Trust me, I am an ex wife and while I dislike my ex husband with a passion, I pretend that he died and when I see him in public or with another woman I pretend that I didn’t and leave him alone. If we were meant to be together, we wouldn’t be divorced. His ex sounds crazy and your Boyfriend or Best Friend needs to man up and do whatever is necessary to block this woman fom his life and your life.
Post # 4
He somewhat did that the other day. He told her her actions were causing problems with me and that really set her off. She was so mad she said that even if he was with me now, he was her before he became mine. At that I have to laugh hysterically because what woman will prouldy say “yeah he divorced me and now he’s with you but I could really be with him if I wanted to.” I don’t know how honest he has been about not talking to her. That’s another place where I find fault with him.
I have blocked her on my end from social media and he says that he he has blocked her as well. The part of me that doesn’t believe wants to go through his things and verify if that is true or not, but then again that’s not in my personality to do that. I have the password to his phone, he doesn’t get upset when I pick up, and I have never seen a suspcious number. The facts half way add up that she could be lying and the facts add up that he could be lyinig. He thinks that I am letting her ruin our relationship and while I can see that, I told him the next time he doesn’t communicate with me about her attempting to harass him, I will be assuming the worst.