Anyone ever have a good rehearsal dinner at restaurants?

posted 2 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Have you had a good restaurant rehearsal dinner experience
    Yes : (38 votes)
    88 %
    No : (2 votes)
    5 %
    A mix : (3 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 16
    2082 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    People waited HOURS to get their food at RDs you’ve been to?? Wow. That’s awful. All I can say is, these must have beem exceptionally bad restaurants. I’ve been to many events at restaurants and I’ve never had the experiences you’re describing (I have had bad service certainly, but nohting close to waiting hours or feeling glued to my seat). It’s a dinner. A restaurant seems a very fitting place to have it. I’m not sure why anyone would be miserable with this, provided the restaurant was half-way decent. I would talk to the owners and make sure they can accommodate your group without long waits and see if you can get a private room or a sectioned off area. I’ve always felt free to move around at restaurant events and was never stuck in my seat.

    Post # 17
    1916 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    My rehearsal dinner was at a restaurant. It went great! Everyone loved it and commented on how great the food is. You just need to choose a restaurant you’ve eaten at before, that is known for good food and service.

    Post # 18
    94 posts
    Worker bee

    I would say – if your Future Mother-In-Law is hosting, she makes the call and do not create a fight. In the US, I’ve been to 10+ rehearsal dinners, all at restaurants in private rooms. Typically nothing elaborate just drinks, apps & dinner. Maybe a slideshow of the couple from early years to current day. The wedding is your “must be perfect” night – not a rehearsal dinner. It’s functional & necessary but no one is expecting the best night of their life.

    We arranged ours b/c DH’s parents are divorced so we didn’t really want them to collaborate on it. Lol. It was in a private room at at Barbeque restaurant since we live in NC which is known for pork bbc and carolina bbq sauce. We had about 30 people (immediate family & wedding party), we did wine & beer only, with wings as apps and then a largeee buffet (normally not a fan but this was amazing) and it was wonderful – people raved and actually took leftovers back to the hotel – haha and we closed the place down! The service was awesome, super sweet & over the top helpful. 

    At the end of the day, the rehearsal dinner was the least of my concerns. I bought some random cheap decor cream paper bag lanterns for tables that said “Love” with LED tea lights inside and then a burlap “LOVE” banner, that’s it. Our invites from etsy were very rustic looking too, going w the whole BBQ and southern theme. That’s it. I was so busy all day that I didn’t even get a chance to get ready for rehearsal! Didn’t curl my hair, was cutting tag off dress while walking out of hotel, putting on makeup while everyone was in my hotel room…. Darling Husband was impatient as fk bc we were running late, my feet hurt like a SOB so I just took them off half way thru, but yet it was still awesome 🙂

    Post # 19
    561 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    My rehearsal dinner was in a private space at a nice restaurant and went really well. My MIL worked through the group sales person and on the night of we had multiple servers assigned to us. I think we had about 30 people. Our restaurant was used to hosting those kinds of events and it ran very smoothly.

    You said that your Mother-In-Law just wants to make a make a regular eservation at a restaurant, but (at least around here) restaurants tend to cut off regular reservations at a certain number before you’re forced to work with an event manager / make it a private event.

    Post # 20
    2169 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception/The Gallery

    We had ours at a famous steakhouse downtown and it was great! We reserved a space, discussed the menu and drink options ahead of time and everything went off without a hitch. We had pen bar during cocktail hour with appetizers then price fixe menu (3 entrees / 2 dessert choices. We did quick toasts and everyone just ate, drank, and mingled.

    I wouldn’t just make a reservation for X amount of people. Plan it like an event.

    Post # 22
    6503 posts
    Bee Keeper

    You’ve been unlucky. Almost every rehearsal dinner I’ve been attended (and there have been many) was at a restaurant and they were all great! It sounds as if the people planning the dinners you attended didn’t plan or choose their restaurants well? 

    If Future Mother-In-Law is hosting it’s her decision. A successful event does typically involve more than just making a reservation, she should plan the event with the restaurant to set a menu that can be served within a reasonable time, make certain there are adequate servers, etc. 

    Post # 23
    87 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: January 2016

    We did a cocktail party rehearsal dinner at a restaurant. We did filling apps that were passed, as well as a table with flatbread pizzas, cheese and crackers, and veggies. It was great! We had a private space and it wasn’t too lengthy. 

    Does the Italian restaurant have a private or semi private space? Could it maybe be buffet style to speed things up a bit? 

    Post # 24
    2082 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    OP, I think you’ve had pretty bad luck with restaurant RD’s. Still, with all the positive experiences people are posting, I wouldn’t let that deter you. Just really, really emphasize to the restaurant that having adequate staff is really important to you and that you’ve had some really awful experiences. Let them reassure you and then take measures to make sure your needs are met. The day of the event, call and make sure set-up is happening on time and that everything is in order. Good luck.

    Post # 25
    8807 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    rao4400 :  It’s really bizarre that of all the restaurant rehearsals you’ve been to, they all sucked. All of the rehearsal dinners I’ve been to have been at restaurants and they were great. Much more pleasant to me than a BBQ. Does a restaurant dinner not go with the vibe you’re trying to establish for your wedding so maybe that’s coloring your memories? Regardless, if your in-laws are hosting, you need to drop it and let them host. As long as they’re not trying to do something really inconvenient or somehow offensive, it’s poor form for you to try to micromanage it.

    Post # 26
    1463 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    Maybe restaurants in your area are not used to handling large private parties, if rehearsal dinners at restaurants are not the norm in Canada. Mine was at a restaurant and it was fine, everyone ordered what they wanted off the menu and we paid the bill at the end. You could suggest to your Future Mother-In-Law that she choose a restaurant where other people have had a rehearsal dinner before to try and avoid issues.

    Post # 29
    3600 posts
    Sugar bee

    Sounds like people just picked crappy restaurants? My rehearsal dinner was at a restaurant and it was really nice, and much more intimate. We were able to talk to each other and just relax. My rehearsal was served family style with apps, wine, and then main courses all in large dishes to share around the table. I’ve been to larger rehearsal dinners at restaurants (particularly a really fun BBQ one), and it was buffet style and everything went smoothly. It’s generally much cheaper to host at a restaurant where you don’t have to rent tables, tablewear, etc. and a lot easier on the host while getting high quality food. I agree with others, let the host do the hosting. 

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