(Closed) Anyone ever regret changing their setting?

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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462 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I am going back and forth on changing my setting. My fiancé has told me that he bought my ring with the intention that we would pick out a different setting for it (mine is a solitaire with nothing going on on the band or anything). He didn’t know what I would like but he didn’t want me to know he was going to propose and wanted to have a ring. So he picked out the diamond and had it done in a plain setting so I could pick a new one. Problem is, I am extremely sentimental and I don’t know if I want to change it because it will no longer be the ring that was in the box when he asked me to marry him. I know this doesn’t really help you lol. I’m curious to see what others say. 

Post # 4
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2734 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I changed my wedding band, and kept my setting. Like yourself, it was difficult getting a wedding band that fit well. I initially went for a staight eternity band but didn’t like it after wearing it for 2 months. I was able to return it and go for a custom contour band, which was expensive, but so beautiful. I’m sooooo happy with the results!!!

 

Initial band:

Custom band:

 

Post # 5
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344 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I regret changing my setting, big time. My Darling Husband proposed to me with a beautiful solitaire, but I broke the setting. I wish I would have gotten another solitaire instead of my 3 sided pave setting. I love my new setting, it was an unexpected upgrade, but I miss the simple elegance of my old ring.

Post # 6
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2553 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@bella731:  What are you thinking of changing it to and what is your current setting? Do you want a blingy band or simple or? I never thought I would find a band I like with my ring but I did…but it took me a few months of searching.

Post # 8
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1654 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I regret changing my first setting big time. I had an amazing e ring but it was too expensive for Fiance and I, because we pretty much scraped together all of our savings for it, and we ended up returning it. I would still get it if Blue Nile didnt insist that I purchase a center stone with it, because I can pay for the setting, just not the diamond. I plan on getting a Verragio setting and putting an Oval Asha in for the center until I can afford an oval diamond. 

This was my first setting:

Post # 9
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2734 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@akirasan:  I did the switch of my wedding band after the wedding. I didn’t know beforehand that the ring would be uncomfortable and that it would actually sit tilted after being soldered to my e-ring. I needed to be married and wearing the ring everyday to know it wasn’t a good match. 

Now, I am not too sentimental, and the ring wasn’t blessed religiously or anything. I even had to use a different band during the ceremony because the eternity band was already soldered to my e-ring and the set was quite tight to fit over my knuckle. So to have a smooth ceremony, my husband put on a sterling silver cubic zirconia band in a larger size. Went over smoothly, and I switched it out right away after we had signed the papers. 

I have a few wedding pictures with the eternity band sparkling off, which are lovely. What I did is I got a thinner eternity band to wear alone when I don’t want to wear my whole wedding set, so I still have an eternity band to remind me of the initial wedding band πŸ˜‰ 

I much much much prefer the new band, which counts for a lot since I’ll be wearing it everyday for the rest of my life πŸ™‚

Here’s the thin eternity band I wear alone:

Here is a wedding pic of my former band:

And here is another pic of my new band, which is a better match πŸ™‚

Post # 10
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2553 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@bella731:  Are you 100% sure that you want the matching? I love your first setting so much more than the one you want to get. I personally chouldnt switch them out.  Have you tried on a wedding band without the intent on them matching? I was set on getting the matching band for my ring but when I saw them together, it didnt sit right with me even though it was obviously a set. Have you tried something like my wedding ring? Or maybe something completely different?

 

Post # 11
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2734 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@bella731:  I just had a look at the matching set you like…and I love it!!! It has details on all three sides of the band, wow!! And it’s prong-set, which looks more modern to me. It matches, as you wanted. The milgrain detail is nice…the whole set looks high quality, and has some vintage flare in it. Now’s the time to do the switch if you want to! It’s best before your wedding. You’ll have all the pics of your current e-ring as a reminder of what you Fiance picked for you. 

 

It does mean taking a risk. Sure you might regret it, as with any decision. Or you might also regret NOT changing your set, hehe. I took a chance changing my wedding band because I knew I just wasn’t happy with my initial band. I somehow convinced my Darling Husband that it was the best idea. He was on board with me, as long as I paid for the new custom band πŸ˜‰ 

 

Another side story: My Darling Husband gave me a ring as a birthday gift before we got engaged. It was a 0.33 solitaire in yellow gold. Nothing about it was my style!!! My friends even commented on that fact when I was wearing it. It wasn’t me. After we got engaged, I asked my Fiance if it was ok if I sold the ring, to purchase a pendant instead. That way I would wear it all the time, instead of having this ring in a box in a drawer (I don’t wear RHRs) Again, he was totally ok with it, having no sentimental value attached to it. So now I have the cutest heart diamond pendant I wear all the time. I still consider that it comes from him, even though I picked it out. The money came from him πŸ˜‰ 

 

Anyway, I’m a «go-getter» and am not afraid of taking risks. It has served me quite well so far in life. I hope you’ll be happy with whatever you choose!!

 

Post # 13
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1654 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@bella731:  Naw. I’ve tried repeatedly with this one and they refused. I have a simple tulip prong solitaire setting now, but the white gold is already scratched to hell for some reason. Maybe they didn’t plate it well. 

Post # 14
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344 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@bella731:  woah! The setting that you’re looking at looks a lot like mine. I love my ring, don’t get me wrong, but if I had to pick all over again, I would get a solitaire. It’s my personal preference. 

Post # 16
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344 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@bella731:  I get all  my jewelry at the family jeweler too πŸ™‚ Background, I’m a hairstylist, so I’m always in and out of gloves, chemicals, and hair product. With that said, the setting in my ring doesn’t get dirty and none of the little diamonds have ever been loose. My center stone is a different story, I’ve banged it and loosened the diamond. It gets coated in hairspray and pomade it often gets shampoo and conditioner residue on it and under it. So I clean my ring regularly, but not any more than my last setting. My first setting broke into two pieces, it was a high setting with a v prong head and the entire head came off. Luckily, I was at church when that happened and this guy found it and gave it to me. What my husband wanted me to get was a ring that was one piece entirely and a lower setting. My diamond has gotten loose twice since I’ve had my ring, but I think it’s because it’s a dainty prong setting and center stone sits higher in the basquet.  

 

 

 

Sorry for the novel. 

 

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